DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

[UngratefulFeline]

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

Do chickens show gratitude?

I'll bet he was staring at the cat with a wide grin - completely oblivious that open-eyed stares and showing teeth are threatening behaviours in cat-language.

“I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.”

Is there any reason why a grown adult wouldn’t?

I’m with your DH. Cats are pointless pets.

😂

Dh is being a bit of a knob.
It sounds like he has only just noticed he's living in the cat's house. Not surprising the cat isn't amused.

Can I request a photo of this marvellous creature please (the cat not your DH 😁).

Has he never met a cat before?

I literally saved our cat from certain death, nursed her back to life, introduced her to dreamies and cat yoghurt - and when the mood takes her, she pisses on me. Not DH, who did none of those things and is constantly telling her to get off him and leave him alone. No, me. I get the urine. I'd prefer disdain.

😂tell that ungrateful moggie to sling his hook!

My cat showed his gratitude this morning by leaving me a delightful pile of mouse entrails on the kitchen floor. I could live without that demonstration of gratitude if I’m honest!

Your husband is the cat’s designated spare human, he needs to learn to be grateful to feed the overlord and share space.

You know what, I actually kind of believe this, I volunteer for a cat refugee here in Australia and twice the same cat was bought back from adoption from 2 different families because the cat didn't understand human commands. Yes I am being legit that was the reason our poor cat was bought back, not once but twice. 🤣🤣

Tell him to sit and have a discussion with said cat then report back to us please

You should both be grateful that DCat continues to deign to live with you both and hasn't decided to move in elsewhere with different 'staff'. The idea of a cat being grateful...😂

Yes you can!

Hilarious! To echo a PP, if the cat had "shown gratitude" your DH would have been cleaning up the remains of a dead mouse every morning.

The cat probably thinks you and DH don't show him enough gratitude. Doesn't DH realise how amazingly lucky and privileged you are to have your home graced by such an awesome feline presence on a daily basis. The treats and other services are no more than the basic and obvious things that the cat deserves so fundamentally that gratitude woukd be silly, like being "grateful" for your own heartbeat. Expecting petting privileges is sheer arrogance and rank assumption from DH - such privileges may be earned after extensive additional services over a much longer timescale than a mere few days.

He's need to LTC (leave the cat)

You're being scent marked as property, be grateful. 🙄

My cat is Australian and has never responded to a command either. Because, cat.

One of many reasons I’ve never wanted a cat. If I’m going to spend my time and money on a pet, it should be one that actually wants to be there.

But cats are widely known as having no shits to give. That’s why when you become ‘their people’ you feel deliriously blessed. Get a new husband.

Um photo which I seem to have failed to upload before.

This made me laugh 😁
But taking his complaint seriously for a moment, does he understand how to adapt his body language for cats? Avoid eye contact, slow blinks and squints etc? Talking to them and telling them how marvellous they are?

Our cat brings us “gifts”. I assume that’s his way of showing his gratitude. Lines them up nicely on the step and everything, which considering we are his slaves and we live to serve him, is really very kind of him to consider us at all!

Cat is a real beauty! I adore him!

He doesn’t understand this at all. He treats the cat like a dog and it doesn’t work then DH feels rejected.