DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

[UngratefulFeline]

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

I’m sorry if this wasn’t supposed to be funny but I have laughed so hard- you have made my day 🤣 my cat (who looks quite similar to yours!) is spoilt rotten and shows zero gratitude either. I have accepted my place as the cats servant 🙈

Introduce him to “thegoldenbreakfastclub” on Insta. He will soon learn the purpose of his role as “Spare Human”.

I found this. I like stroking cats and find them fascinating, but I don´t like them on me, I think they sense this and would ignore those who wanted them on their laps while they watched tv and came and plonked themselves on me!

Before I was born,my parents had animals

(they where told they'd never have children-theres now 4 of us-two are a matching set,7 grandchildren and one great grandchild-my mother wants to march up to that doctor-'you said we'd never have kids??eh?eh?)

Anyway,they had a cat and a dog when I was small

The dog worshipped us

The cat hated us all-both where rescues and my parents had nursed him back to health as a kitten-he was treated better than any king,and both parents adored him

Was the cat bothered?

Was he fuck

If he showed any affection it was to attack us kids (he would sit on the back of the sofa to scratch/bite/attack us,hide and leap out at us or bite us when we where alseep)snuggle up to my father just to piss/shit/vomit all over him and it just about put up with my narcissistic mother (he didn't claw her eyes out but she says he attempted it on a nighttime) or try to eat her alive while she slept-he was a master of doing what the hell he wanted,when he wanted and God help who got in his way

He finally died while my mother was pregnant with twins

She missed him so much,they named twin2 after him! (His brother is named after a sheepdog that belonged to her mate!)

Nothing to add 😂

Did the chickens show him gratitude??? 😂

I think him and the cat should go nc for a bit, it's better for their boundaries ...

My DH still bears a scar (more than 20 years on) from being introduced to the girl cat I had when we met, and thinking it would be a good idea to ruffle her under the chin.

Present girl cat is a proper daddy's girl, though!

YANBU
DH needs to get over himself and accept his place in the pecking order. If he expects gratitude, he should’ve gotten a dog. Tell him to read ‘Dog’s Diary vs Cat’s Diary’ 😁

😂😂😂 YANBU

I kind of understand his point... I actually said to my DH recently that I'm beginning to think Snow White wasn't actually based on real life. I am sick of feeding the wild birds and not once do they fly in and start making beds or opening curtains. Not at ounce of appreciation so far.
Cat needs to step up and perhaps make the occasional cup of tea at least

Sounds like there's a very good reason why the cat doesn't like your DH! I'd swat him too, I'm team cat all the way!

But seriously, he's being an idiot. IMO cats believe we are there to serve them, it's one of the things I find oddly endearing about them. I've owned cats for over 25 years and I've never once seen a cat show any signs of 'gratitude' 😹in all that time. Affection, yes (albeit only on their terms 😹), but it sounds like your DH's manner around the cat might not exactly be conducive to winning its affection.

DH just isn’t a cat person is he?!

I think yabu because the cat really needs to meet your Dh half way here. Compromise is the only way a relationship can work. Have you discussed this with your cat? Perhaps he could bring Dh a mouse as a peace offering?

Your cat is beautiful and your husband should be grateful that he is even allowed to breathe the same air as this divinity. Being a superior being is normal for cats. At least yours isn't a tortie - when it comes to diva behaviour, they leave Madonna and Mariah in the dust. The two we've had to date made it absolutely clear that if they could get decent staff, we'd be out on our useless bottoms.

Whoops wrong thread.

Best thread all week 😂😂😂

Absolutely!

Cat should show gratitude! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Is your DH a comedian?

Our cat (sadly long departed now) used to show gratitude by various means. When he was young it was by bringing back dead animals he had caught, and the occasional live frog or toad, one of which he once placed in DH's walking boot, giving DH the fright of his life when he next tried to put it on as the thing wriggled around. DH had to go out into the garden to evict it from his boot. That would please your DH.

He would also want to sit on whatever seat you were sitting on at the time, and I don't mean on your lap. He would want you to get off the chair and would try to push at you sometimes if you wouldn't play ball. I did give him short shrift when he did it to me, but he still never gave up. 🙄 It didn't matter how many other seats were free at the time, he always wanted the particular one you were sitting on for himself.

I remember him doing this to my DH too, who was sitting at the kitchen table one weekend morning reading his newspaper. Cat wanted the seat so he yowled at DH from the floor but DH had no intention of moving. Cat then sprang onto the table, sat right on top of the open newspaper, yowled very loudly at DH, then lay down and curled up on it so that the newspaper couldn't be read anyway. 🤣🤣 I think he was giving DH a message really. 🤣🤣

He was a character, our old cat! We do miss him

This is the maddest thing I've ever read 😂

My cats hate me, they definitely think they're better than me. I've fed them every day for 5 years and not so much as a nod of the head from them.

Your DH should be showing the cat more gratitude. For ... well, just being in the same room as the cat.

(P.S. Your cat is adorable! 😍)

I think this about my cat, he is extremely ungrateful considering he came from a cat home & I do remind him of this when he bites my foot in the night, refuses to eat because it's in the wrong bowl, shrieks his head off constantly if it rains but he pays absolutely no attention at all

How the fuck did you not laugh in his face? Ridiculous man. Cat's sussed him out.

This has cheered me up this morning, thank you!

I have a cat that might respond to a whistle if she feels like it. She actually once went outside to vomit then came back in. It was years ago and hasn't been repeated (the going outside bit, I've cleaned up loads of vomit) but I was and still am SO PROUD.