DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

[UngratefulFeline]

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

Sorry but your DH is being a bit of a dick.

Your DH needs learn his place in the pecking order.

This post has cheered me right up! I think I love you Op! Has your husband ever met any cats before? 😂

Reckon your DH doesn’t like the cat. Cat knows it

Until we married, he had only ever had dogs and chickens.

I don’t know how you kept a straight face. He didn’t seriously say that?
It’s actually a little worrying about how that extends… does he expect the children to show gratitude for simply being given a bed for the night? It’s just a scary side of his personality really; I’d be worried what he’d expect from the kids if he actually has to you know, do things for his kids. Especially when they’re older. He’ll be one of those parents who attach strings to everything and eventually, your children will be teens and adults and won’t want to accept a dinner invite because they’ll be expected to fall over themselves to thank him. Bit yucky really, and a very strange form of dominance.

I'm sorry, what!? 😂

Dogs have owners, cats have staff. They graciously allow us to serve them, and if we fail to understand that we are the ones who should be grateful, that's our problem. If DH can't deal with that, cats aren't for him.

The fact that your DH is still alive means that the cat loves him. It is your DH who is being ungrateful.

Does your DH fail to interact with the cat when you are there?
Your post reads as if he's only just noticed that a cat exists in your (presumably joint?) house.

This is hilarious 😂

Sorry that’s given me a real laugh.

I tell my cat she should be thankful all the time but instead she throws up on my rug.

Your standard cat is generally a bit of a twat, the world revolves around them and we are there to serve. It's a somewhat endearing quirk of a cat who exists just to annoy you.

Did he not realise this when you got the cat?

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Tell him to look up anthropomorphism......

I agree with your Dh.

Any cat that doesn't send beautifully hand written thank you note after being cared for just didn't pay enough attention at finishing school.

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He wants thanking… Are you married to JD Vance?

Gratitude from the cat 😂😂😂😂
It’s not going to happen.

It's a cat. It showed gratitude by not eating his eyeballs while he slept.

Give it more scritches and treats to show gratitude to the cat.

Cats are ungrateful little bastards.

It's worrying that he has clearly lived with the cat for a while and doesn't understand this!

He regularly tries to call the cat over to him and has whistled in the past. He has coped with this failure but I really think he had visions of the cat and him becoming BFFs while I was away.

DH needs to learn where his place in the pecking order is

100% pure Mumsnet!

My dog rolls his eyes and sighs and does a revolting fart after I have spent 5 minutes serenading him with a song I have just made up.
I too really struggle with how ungrateful he is.

Maybe we need an etiquette advisor for pets?

He needs to be more grateful in his servitude to his kitty overlord. We live to serve our masters.