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Journey after miscarriage support thread Jan 2023

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Fairylight102 · 03/01/2023 19:21

I wondered if anyone out there would be interested in joining a thread for those who have recently experienced a miscarriage - a place to share how we’re feeling emotionally, physical recovery, becoming ready to try again (for those that want to), and hopefully one day positive stories of successful preganancies.

I’m 32 and recently had a miscarriage at 5-6 weeks of my first pregnancy. I was relieved to have conceived after quite a short time, because I have PCOS and was worried I might struggle to get pregnant.

My miscarriage was about 2 and half weeks ago now, and today is the first day I’ve not had any spotting/bleeding at all, and that has been a relief to feel like my body is moving on from it. I know it’s advisable to do a pregnancy test a few weeks after miscarriage, which is something I’m a bit anxious about doing as I’m fairly sure it will be an emotional thing to do.

Since it happened my sleep pattern and energy levels have been a bit all over the place. Some days I’ve just wanted to sleep all the time, which I think could be a mix of actual physical tiredness and also emotional tiredness/hormonal changes. I was back at work for the first time today, and it was helpful to have something else to focus on and motivate myself for.

I’ve restarted tracking my BBT to see what happens with my cycle returning, though I’m aware it could take a while to get back to normal. My husband and I are both on the same page that we’d like to try again once I’ve had one normal period, so I guess we’ll just see how things go and how we feel when we reach this point.

Sorry this has turned into a longer post than I expected! Anyway, if there’s anyone out there who’s had a similar experience recently and would like a place to share feelings/questions/advice it would be lovely to hear from others.

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nearly8 · 17/03/2023 10:34

@Fairylight102 We didn't tell anyone about this last pregnancy as we never do until after the first scan. I'll be honest that this is probably what has helped me not completely break down as I haven't had to repeat myself 1000 times telling people that I've lost the baby (babies). It has made this week slightly more bareable. Although because of my previous pregnancies I actually look about 5/6 months pregnant already and people keep giving me knowing glances expecting me to say yep I'm pregnant again (I mean I've spent more time pregnant than not since 2018!!) But luckily nobody has straight out asked me yet. I'm dreading someone asking me as it doesn't look like I've put on weight I blatently look pregnant but hopefully that will die down soon. Sorry if I'm banging on, it's a coping mechanism I have to just talk crap so tell me to stop lol.

Congratulations again 🎉🎉🎉♥️♥️♥️

Bobshhh · 17/03/2023 13:42

yesterday I had a positive pregnancy test (5-6 weeks) for the first time since trying for a year after my first and only miscarriage.

today I have some cramping and brown blood when I wipe. I’m losing it again aren’t I? This is horrible.

SMG1992 · 17/03/2023 16:26

@Bobshhh I would get onto the GP/midwife asap and get some bloods done. It's not necessarily the worst, it could be nothing to worry about, but you should get it checked out to put your mind at ease.
I hope it all goes well for you!

Chocolatebean · 17/03/2023 18:37

Hi ladies got a question. Am due to ovulate Monday but getting the egg white stuff as I always do before hand but today it’s had a few drops of red blood in it. I’ve never had this before, any ideas? Xxx

HM1990 · 17/03/2023 21:28

Chocolatebean · 17/03/2023 18:37

Hi ladies got a question. Am due to ovulate Monday but getting the egg white stuff as I always do before hand but today it’s had a few drops of red blood in it. I’ve never had this before, any ideas? Xxx

I had this during this cycle too! Never happened before - had a chemical pregnancy last month so I assumed it was to do with that, but not sure.

I'm 5DPO now.

Chocolatebean · 17/03/2023 21:37

@HM1990 i
googled it apparently it’s when you have a sudden hormone change. Oooh 5dpo good luck you get your bfp xxx

TheBirdintheCave · 17/03/2023 21:52

@HM1990 I'm 5dpo now too :)

HM1990 · 17/03/2023 21:54

TheBirdintheCave · 17/03/2023 21:52

@HM1990 I'm 5dpo now too :)

Oooh! When are you going to test? I'm trying to hold out until my period is late... but I don't know if I'll be that patient 🤣

TheBirdintheCave · 17/03/2023 22:19

@HM1990 I don't think I'll bother as the chance it happened this cycle is very slim. We only managed O-2 and O-4 as I ovulated so late 🙄 Basically just waiting for this cycle to be over.

s14a · 18/03/2023 09:58

The tww is so hard!
I'm 8/9dpo today but for the first cycle ever I haven't tested this early.
I think I'm at peace with it because we dtd every day between 5days pre ovulation and 2 days post ovulation. So we couldn't have done anything else.

I'll probably test monday/tuesday

Chocolatebean · 18/03/2023 14:35

@s14a i always struggle when I get to this point it’s that last stretch which is the hardest. Try keep yourself busy easier said than done. Wish I was in the 2ww I’m still waiting to ovulate 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Enigma85 · 18/03/2023 16:21

Ahh congratulations @Fairylight102 that's such lovely news!

Good luck to everyone on the two week wait🤞🤞🤞

SMG1992 · 19/03/2023 08:44

@Chocolatebean could be ovulation bleeding?

good luck with all the tww ladies, I hope you all get your bfp!

im already finding this morning a bit tough. I should have been finding out the gender of my baby next week and enjoying my first Mother’s Day as a soon to be mum.
im Checking the nhs app like a mad woman in case my blood test results get updated on there before tomorrow. I know it’s not going to be good news but I’d like to know either way now. I just hate the limbo

mollibu · 19/03/2023 16:13

Thinking of you all today💕

We will get our rainbow babies and Mother's Day will be a happy day again. 🌈 🤞🏻

Chocolatebean · 19/03/2023 17:12

Ugh @SMG1992 i really feel for you don’t suppose those results have arrived yet xxx

SMG1992 · 19/03/2023 18:59

@Chocolatebean not yet. Should get them tomorrow 🤞🏼

Chocolatebean · 19/03/2023 19:32

@SMG1992 got everything crossed you get some good news tomorrow xxx

Chocolatebean · 20/03/2023 11:50

@SMG1992 how are you doing today sweet. Have you got your results xxx
@VillageFete any news on your ivf this week
afm got my blood taken to measure my amh on Saturday so a bit nervous for that result, had a flashing smiley on CB OPK the last 2 mornings so hoping ovulation is close think hubby is getting worn out 😂😂😂. Ooh and accupuncture tomorrow no one can say I’m not trying lol xxx

SMG1992 · 20/03/2023 12:04

@Chocolatebean Good luck for the ovulation I hope your test goes static soon!
Good luck with your flashing smiley, I hope it goes static for you soon :)

Chocolatebean · 20/03/2023 12:07

Thanks @SMG1992 and good luck for your test results I’ve got everything crossed xxx

SMG1992 · 20/03/2023 12:08

Also forgot to say, no I haven't had the results yet!
Literally refrshing the NHS app every hour, I'll call the GP surgery after 2pm as they should have them then

mollibu · 20/03/2023 14:30

SMG1992 · 20/03/2023 12:08

Also forgot to say, no I haven't had the results yet!
Literally refrshing the NHS app every hour, I'll call the GP surgery after 2pm as they should have them then

Any update from the GP?🤞🏻

SMG1992 · 20/03/2023 15:16

Nothing yet I'm afraid.
I just called the surgery and the receptionist told me there are no results yet and it might not be until Wednesday! Also I know the front of house staff at surgeries get a lot of sh*t from people, but they can be so harsh on the phone sometimes. Absolutely zero empathy!
I'm almost sure that it will have dropped, I just want to know for sure so I can start looking forward again, rather than having tiny bits of false hope to clutch onto

VillageFete · 20/03/2023 17:20

@Fairylight102 Huge congratulations 💐

Yes @Chocolatebean I’ve had a scan and bloods this morning which have confirmed that I can proceed. Embryo transfer will be next Tuesday!! God, I’m praying so hard it works out this time - It’s been such a long, laborious, draining road! X

fleur89 · 20/03/2023 17:58

Bobshhh · 17/03/2023 13:42

yesterday I had a positive pregnancy test (5-6 weeks) for the first time since trying for a year after my first and only miscarriage.

today I have some cramping and brown blood when I wipe. I’m losing it again aren’t I? This is horrible.

Just catching up on the thread and wanted to send you some love and best wishes. How are you doing? I really hope all is well 💗