Journey after miscarriage support thread Jan 2023

[Fairylight102]

I wondered if anyone out there would be interested in joining a thread for those who have recently experienced a miscarriage - a place to share how we’re feeling emotionally, physical recovery, becoming ready to try again (for those that want to), and hopefully one day positive stories of successful preganancies.

I’m 32 and recently had a miscarriage at 5-6 weeks of my first pregnancy. I was relieved to have conceived after quite a short time, because I have PCOS and was worried I might struggle to get pregnant.

My miscarriage was about 2 and half weeks ago now, and today is the first day I’ve not had any spotting/bleeding at all, and that has been a relief to feel like my body is moving on from it. I know it’s advisable to do a pregnancy test a few weeks after miscarriage, which is something I’m a bit anxious about doing as I’m fairly sure it will be an emotional thing to do.

Since it happened my sleep pattern and energy levels have been a bit all over the place. Some days I’ve just wanted to sleep all the time, which I think could be a mix of actual physical tiredness and also emotional tiredness/hormonal changes. I was back at work for the first time today, and it was helpful to have something else to focus on and motivate myself for.

I’ve restarted tracking my BBT to see what happens with my cycle returning, though I’m aware it could take a while to get back to normal. My husband and I are both on the same page that we’d like to try again once I’ve had one normal period, so I guess we’ll just see how things go and how we feel when we reach this point.

Sorry this has turned into a longer post than I expected! Anyway, if there’s anyone out there who’s had a similar experience recently and would like a place to share feelings/questions/advice it would be lovely to hear from others.

@SMG1992 im so pleased they’ve done your bloods as this will be a huge guide whether it’s looking positive or sadly like it’s not going to work out. It’s a painful journey this one isn’t it especially when you’re left in limbo that’s the worst. Thinking of you and still keeping my fingers crossed xxx

@atii congratulations!

I'm 5dpo today and have my appt at the fertility clinic at 11dpo. Fingers crossed I'll be going with a positive test to discuss preventing recurrent miscarriage!

@s14a can you keep us updated on what they suggest? Good luck xx

@s14a oooh everything crossed wouldnt that be awesome wishing you all the luck xxx
@VillageFete how are you getting on sweet I so hope you’re ok been thinking about you xxx
afm nothing to report at all Hopi g my accupuncture is going to do something I’m due to ovulate Tuesday (all being well) and I have an appt with her that day so hopefully she can give everything a super boost lol xxx

I had a call from the dr today saying my 1st blood test has been borderline so between 5-25 so I need to get the next blood test done tomorrow and then wait until Monday! It’s going to be a long weekend. I’m not feeling optimistic about it but it might help understand why I wasn’t getting back to normal after the MMC in January

Oh crikey @SMG1992 so you’re still no better off bless you that’s so hard but the amazing thing is there’s still hope and I’ve got everything crossed for you xxx

@Chocolatebean yeah no better off, shame they couldn’t do the first bloods earlier. I guess I need to not do anything I wouldn’t if I was pregnant whilst not getting hopes up about pregnancy.

i feel like I should have pushed the gp more last week but to be honest he made me feel like I was time wasting and making up problems in my head.

@Chocolatebean Sorry for radio silence! God, i’ve been busy. So had the saline scan, all looked ok. No adhesions. I’m still waiting for the report from him with proper explanation is, as the appointment was a little rushed. Anyway, i’ll be scanning tomorrow and if all is ok I can have embryo transfer next week - But i’m not getting my hopes up.

@SMG1992 absolutely wow it’s going to be a long weekend for you isn’t it just try and keep busy. Have you felt sickly anymore or any more symptoms. It’s a hard and rough journey isn’t it roll on some higher numbers next week. As you don’t say don’t do anything you wouldn’t do if you were pregnant just in case.🤞
@VillageFete hey that’s so awesome you’ve been so busy I’ve had a quiet week and it’s just dragged. Excellent results bet you’re chuffed so we both have clear uteruses then 😂😂😂. Omg embryo transfer next week that is sooo exciting and will come around so quick. Keep in touch, it’s so weird my ovary scan has the image of a baby in swaddling smiling in the scan it’s really weird and freaky xxx

I've been reading through this thread for the past week and I'm not sure if even posting here is the right thing to do.

I had a MC which started last Tues. Light spotting followed by heavy bleeding. Visited EPU on the Wed to be told cervix was closed. scanned the next day to be told two sacs but nothing in them. Followed by the most awful horrifying bleeding ever with huge clots and tissue (sorry tmi). So that's pretty much confirmed that anything that was there certainly isn't any more. Have a scan booked Monday to confirm but don't even feel like going as I think I know the answer.

Reason I didn't want to post is because I already have 8 children (5 in the past 5 years youngest is 6 months) and I know how much some of you are trying for first, second and third children and I don't want to be a trigger to anyone. I kind of feel like well I already have so much and maybe I don't deserve to feel the sadness and anger and frustration and helplessness that I feel right now. My DH pretty much tells me every day that we have so much to be thankful for and trust me I really do feel blessed to have 8 lovely children already but I was still excited for number 9 and the feelings I am having now are so alien to me. I think I naively thought everything would be ok but clearly they're not and I don't really know what to say or think or feel anymore.

To everyone on here I am sending you all my love and wishes that 2023 will be the year for you all xxxxxx

@nearly8 Sorry to hear about your loss.

Please don’t feel like you shouldn’t post here because of the number of children you have already. Miscarriage is such a horrible, upsetting experience and you have experienced a loss that you are grieving for.

Hey @nearly8 im so sorry and you are very welcome here. Xxx

@SMG1992 your head must be all over the place bless you! Fingers crossed for some answers Monday🤞🏻 it's such a draining process all this TTC stuff it really is.

@nearly8 repeating PP, of course you're welcome here, No children or 100 children... you deserve to grieve just as much as anyone else. A MC is hard on the body and the brain I hope you're doing ok

I’m almost scared to say this but I think I’m pregnant again! I got a faint line on a FRER last night (10DPO) and then repeated this morning and there’s definitely another line.

Obviously extremely pleased, but also a bit scared and can’t quite believe it yet.

Hugs to everyone xxx

@Fairylight102 ahhh amazing! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for a sticky baby!! Xxx

@Fairylight102 Massive congratulations to you!

@Chocolatebean I've not felt any other symptoms unfortunatley but I'm trying hard not to think of anything to do with it. my hcg levels were only 12ml on Weds so in the bordeline section but not normal which is below 5.

@nearly8 Welcome! And wow 8 children must be a lot of hard work! Each person has their own vision of what they would like their family to be so you have all the right to fell whatever emotions you are feeling right now.

@Fairylight102 that is amazing news. Fingers crossed for you. That has actually made my day. Nice to hear some good news after such a hard week.

Thank you to everyone who responded it has made me feel just that little bit better.

We haven't decided whether to try again yet as I'm not sure if I can handle going through this again so soon. I did a test yesterday after reading on here that it was advisable. I got a negative so not sure if that's good or bad as I only started bleeding (miscarrying) last Tuesday. It was a cheap test too so maybe not that reliable but with 8 kids to support can't really justify spending a whole lot on tests. Got the scan on Monday so will see what they say.

I'm unsure how to feel about mother's day on Sunday..... I know my DH and kids will make it special for me but it's kind of bitter sweet. Plus our younger kids have no idea what's going on and for the main part I've just been putting on a brave face and carrying on as normal. Even went to work on the Thursday after having the scan and have worked every day since. I'm at work now having started at 06:00 🥱.

I hope everyone has a good a day as they can today and finds at least one thing to smile about today ☺️

Love and hugs to you all xxxxx

@SMG1992 Thank you that means a lot. And yes 8 kids is hard work but just as rewarding too ☺️

@mollibu Thank you for your kind words 😘

@Chocolatebean Thank you for making me feel welcome 😘

@Fairylight102 Thank you to you too and like I say amazing news. Sending you love, care and best wishes 😘

@Fairylight102 Aww hoorah! Congratulations :)

That's great @Fairylight102 !!

@Fairylight102 that is really amazing news!! Praying and crossing everything for you x

@Fairylight102 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 yay! Congratulations to you! Xxx

Oh wow @Fairylight102 massive congratulations xxx

Thank you all so much! Honestly I feel so emotional reading these messages, I’m so glad we are all able to support each other through this experience.

I haven’t told anyone in real life (planning to wait until 12 weeks) so it really means a lot to be able to share with you.

I’m going to keep watching this chat and I hope there are BFPs for many more of you soon xxx