FET/IVF July 2023 - Thread 2

[Olivia199]

Right. Sorry I've I missed any of you....!

@10degreessunny
@loulamay
@Lauralozzle
@ASGIRC
@TTCbabyno2in2022
@orchid29
@ttcsolomumtobe
@Walker12
@Bristol1988
@SH998
@Ivfround1
@wtawtaw
@IVFfirsttimer91

@Lauralozzle i’m very sorry but I guess at least you can move on (from
the pessaries as well) and take some time to recharge!
As it is most likely depending on the embryos it really is a numbers game! So fingers crossed for your next cycle and I hope you get to recharge a bit before.

@10degreessunny and @orchid29 Thanks both. I’m honestly ok. Bleeding is a bit heavier this morning so hopefully by the weekend it’ll be less heavy! I can take my ibuprofen and codine tablets which I have for my periods usually so the cramps should die down a bit.

Plus, I have lots to distract myself today. More stripping the bannisters and I really need to mow the grass now it’s been dry a few days! Might even pop over to B&Q and get some paint for the hallway. So, I’ve got lots to get on with today and the next few weekends.

I might even have a gin and tonic or a glass of wine with dinner tonight.

I’m pleased we’ve got in to see the consultant in 10 days to be honest. Just waiting for the nurses to call me to confirm I can stop taking the medication, which I have already, but whatever.

@Lauralozzle i think a bottle of wine is more in order than just a glass 😂

Glad to hear your appointment has come sooner than expected. Push to see what other investigations they can do.

@SH998 I suspect at some point this weekend I’ll end up smashed!!! Haha.

I’m currently enjoying fully caffeinated coffee at the moment! More than one mug!

DH has decided to keep mostly caffeine free, not for his sperm so much, but he read that people who have lots of caffeine have acidic sweat and acidic sweat causes guitar strings to corrode. He’s fully doing it for his precious guitars! All 10 of them!

@Lauralozzle have ALL the caffeine. I’m so sorry it didn’t work this time. It’s really good that the consultant was able to see you so quickly though! Fingers and everything crossed for the next round! Xx

@ASGIRC your hair sounds so awesome!

@Lauralozzle So much better to just know - I am jealous of your wine! enjoy!!

Good luck to everyone with scans coming up! @Sangels267 I know lots of people who had bleeding in the first trimester. I don't want to stress you out but there's a thing (I had one) called a subchorionic hematoma which is more common in IVF pregnancies and is basically some blood vessels that collect where the embryo implanted and can cause spotting or light bleeding. They normally just go away by themselves.

So - tested this morning, at 4dpt5dt. Obviously stark white negative. Don't know why I do it to myself!! IVF makes me such an insane person. I even started Googling about it, despite the fact that on the same day in MY OWN pregnancy, I also got a BFN and didn't see anything until 6dpt. What is wrong with me?!!

I think the fact that I can't control the outcome of this just messes with my head. I'm a 'do-er' in life and I think most things are fixable and quite enjoy problem-solving. This is one where I can't 'work it out' or solve it easily and I loathe that.

Despite this, I will test tomorrow again. Might even test tonight hahaha. Have a whole bag of cheapie One Steps to go through. I hate this time.

Fck this sht! IVF is so mental. And we all just get on with it and do the injections and go to the appointments and carry the bruises and stress, despite holding down jobs and being wives and partners and mothers and daughters and friends and honestly, you're all just amazing.

Ok. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

@ASGIRC I fell asleep halfway through replying to this yesterday, shows I needed more sleep!! But yes I agree with Loula, your hair sounds wonderful!

@Sangels267 totally get it, I keep convincing myself I'm not pregnant anymore and it's torture! Although I woke up at 4 this morning with really bad nausea and a craving for marmite, so seeing that as a positive (even though its probably just that I went to bed early and am greedy)

@10degreessunny yes my clinic don't do any bloods unless there are concerns, I had them done when in hospital for OHSS as they wanted to confirm the pregnancy and then it stupidly led me to get a private one which just set me off worrying.. I was happy with the first results so no idea why I did it to myself.

@Lauralozzle sorry about the BFN, although at least you have some full closure now. Really glad you don't have too long to wait until your review! What sort of things do they go through at the appt? And why is it called WTF? That acronym only means one thing to me .. is that what it actually means?😂

@Loula oh bless you I can relate to the overwhelming testing urge!! And also to the horrible feeling of not being able to fix/solve it. I always think there must be an answer, something that makes it work/not work and that just isn't the case when it comes to fertility (or definitely hasn't been for me anyway). You are right we are bloody amazing!

@Olivia199 hope all is OK with you??

@loulamay It’s too early. I did, however, throughly enjoy your Ted Talk. I’m a do-er too. I like to plan things, be in control. IVF takes that away.

@Walker12 I think it an actually stands for ‘why treatment failed ‘ but in my head it’s most definitely ‘what the f*ck’ happened!

Last time, she went over how I thought and she thought i responded to stims. Talked about number of eggs. How the eggs were. How DH sperm was on the day. Advised for me to take proxeed. Spoke about using AOA and switching the protocol up and the SOS test for DH sperm, so actually, we went through quite a bit.

Different this time, in that I have frozen to use, but I’ll ask about extra tests for me.

@Sangels267 I have zero symptoms, so I honestly keep forgetting I am, indeed, pregnant. And I hate that theres no way to check that it is developing as it should. And then you hear about MMCs and you think "what if this happens to me? I wont even know!"

@10degreessunny ugh the wait is the worst! And its a 3ww (at least for me!)!
Only 1 week to go now and I honestly cannot wait!

@Lauralozzle enjoy that wine!!! Im sure we are all living vicariously through your wine drinking right now!
Also... you married your husband, so Im sure you knew the guitars were his precioussessses. Im surprised he only has 10!! 😂
And Im glad your appointment is soon!

@loulamay Ugh its so hard isnt it??? You know 4dpt is too early, but you cant help yourself! Fingers crossed the result changes soon!

@Walker12 hahahha yeah, I feel like Im sleeping a lot, but honestly, I always sleep a lot, so Im not 100% sure it is because Im pregnant!

And yeah, my hair is awesome!! Did it after I completed on my flat, almost 3 years ago, although I have had weird colours on my hair for over 15 years. Just not the full head!

@Lauralozzle Ah thank you, I couldn't for the life of me thinks what else It could possibly mean 😂great that you have some questions lined up.

@Lauralozzle I always thought for sure it meant what the f_ck but yours makes much more sense! Sounds like you had a comprehensive chat? Were you happy with how they handled it?

I am going to refrain from informing my husband that you have 10 guitars in your house. We have three and I thought that was a lot 😂

@ASGIRC the no symptoms are enough to drive you crazy. But also, how crazy to wish symptoms like nausea on ourselves 😝You're inspiring me with your hair. Maybe I'll get a rainbow set of streaks put in mine! Do you do it yourself?

@Walker12 forgive my laziness at not looking back at messages, but was it you that bought the private bet from medichecks? if so, how long did it take to arrive after you ordered please?

Am in the kitchen making Yang-Nyum fried chicken with sticky rice and Asian slaw. Happy place!!!

Hope all of you have a wonderful weekend x

@loulamay the medichecks test arrived the day after I ordered, and I didn't opt for next day delivery. I posted it on the Monday and results were in on the Weds pm so it was all fairly quick.
Your cooking sounds delicious, enjoy! My nausea had continued on and off today so all I want to eat is carbs on carbs, husband is making a mac and cheese and I am continuing to embrace the laziness and probably won't leave the sofa for the rest of the night! Have a lovely weekend all 😊

@Walker12 Brilliant, thank you. I subsisted on what I called 'student hangover food' for many weeks of the first trimester. Mac and cheese is a good one. Beige food tends to work well! Also if you can't bear anything at all then salted crackers, watermelon, flat coke, ice lollies, toast. x

Good food tips thank you @loulamay. I am still unsure whether the nausea is leftover from the OHSS or whether its due to the pregnancy, really hoping its the latter. It definitely eased off and then has got worse today so hoping that's a good thing. Although now I will probably just worry even more if I have a day when I don't feel nauseous 😂
Definitely going to be adding watermelon and icelollies to my shopping list..

@loulamay I do my own hair, yes! You get the hang of it pretty quickly, and then it becomes silly to spend hundreds at the hairdressers! I currently even cut my own hair as well!!!
I am in full support of the rainbow, but it is fairly high maintenance, because the light colours fade much faster than the darker ones!
Just for reference, I do the blue once every 3 months (which then included bleaching the roots and a cut), but the pink fringe has to be done every 3 weeks! Fortunately, it is just a small bit!

I fear my symptomless streak may have reached an end... I think I have some nausea... it is not prominent, like, I dont actually feel sick, but I also dont feel... not sick, if that makes sense!
And Im 6 weeks today, so it would make sense to be hit now...
If it stays like this, Ill cope, though.

I find that I dont want to eat ANYTHING. Ever since I started testing positive, though. I am hungry... but if you ask me what I want to eat... nothing comes to mind. Food tastes nice... I just dont want to eat any of it.
And because of that, my diet has been very lazy, beige and bland. Lots of crisps, snadwiches and pizzas, because it doesnt involve cooking, which I really dont fancy doing, since I dont fancy eating anything.

I was gonna cook a pork loin today, but my mom invited me to dinner at hers, so that will be cooked tomorrow.
My aunt and uncle will be there... They might be the next ones to find out... Cause not drinking = massive giveaway!

@ASGIRC i think I’ve joined you in the nausea club! Felt sicky all day, not hugely but it’s deffo there.

Also doing my best to eat healthier but Walkers crisps are my best friend right now 🤦🏼‍♀️

Doing my first test tomorrow 9dp5dt....so nervous 🫣🫣🫣

@SH998 yeah... I'm still not convinced it's 100% nausea, but it's definitely something. It's also really warm here, which doesn't help matters.
Drinking ice cold water is a great help!!

How was your scan?!

Who else had a scan today? @orchid29?
Was it you?

Dinner went fine, no one questioned my not drinking, as my mom also didn't drink. Apparently my mom has told my brother about the not drinking and smoking and he's figured it out, but my mom did not confirm or deny 😂😂

@DauntedAF good luck for todays testing 🤞🏼

@ASGIRC scan was magical, I’ve never seen one before. Baby’s size is as it should be with a nice strong heartbeat so I’m going to do my best to stop panicking now and try to enjoy a little.

Im going for a girly meal today but I’ve managed to get out the no drinking by saying I’ll be the designated driver, they will probably know that’s not me as I never offer to drive lol

tw- test results

Cani get your eyes ladies? 9dp5dt today and tested for first time. There's a line but I had thought perhaps it would be darker than it is. What do ye think? Including a b and w pic as it's much harder to see with no filter

Congrats on your scan @SH998, must be such a relief!

@DauntedAF yes definitely a line!! Can you get hold of any pink dye tests as they tend to be a little clearer? Very exciting!

@DauntedAF also the darkness looks absolutely fine to me! I dont think I did one at 9dp but mine at 7dp5dt was definitely fainter than that and took a while to gradually darken to the same as the test line.

@Walker12 thank you! Are pink eye test like first response tests? They're out of stock everywhere near me it seems!