Fledgelings winging their way out of June disasters

[DitzyDaffodils]

So this is my thread. I'm circling the drain, descending into CHAOS and this is my kickback. And I'm dragging you lucky people along for the ride 😁.

This is FlyLady. It's a system for sorting your shit out. It works, but only if you do it. It doesn't work so good if you only think about doing it. So get off your butts and clean some shite, people! 🧹🧴🧽🧼

We're fighting CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome) 🧑‍🤝‍🧑🚫. You can't clean clutter so you've got to declutter 🗑️, which isn't as daunting as it sounds 🦧 because it's only 15 minutes a day. Your house didn't get skanked up overnight 🏚️ 🦠 so it's not getting de-skanked overnight either 🏠. We won't judge how skanky your house is because we are too are skank-sisters 🧟💩🦟, but trying our hardest to become blessed Queens 👸🤴 of our domestic realms, with varying success please don't sue me if you prefer to identify as a unicorn 🦄 or whatever, you're still welcome. With FlyLady as our inspiration 🧚. Be kind to yourselves and do whatever you can. Baby steps 🐾(FlyLady has those on her website), follow them.

I can't do links so there won't be any. Good start, hey? 🙄. I'm sure you'll live though. I plan to make up for it with emojis, because I like them 🌞

Today's the first of June. And if it isn't you're too early, so kindly get back to the other thread 😝. Old hands, newbies and lurkers 👀 all welcome. Come join the party 🎉

There's probably a whole bunch of stuff I was supposed to tell you but haven't. Apologies. 🍒👋 (Cherry waves, for anyone who can't see emojis) is a corruption of cheery waves, long before my time, and it's stuck - were not insanely flinging fruit at you, promise.

Thanks @DitzyDaffodils , I appreciate you taking over for June. Onwards and upwards, we can beat the CHAOS.

Suddenly has weird images in her head of daffodils throwing cherries.

Runs back to other thread before being hit by the cherries 😄

Thanks for the last thread ED and Dizzy for taking on this month💐

I am going to be Awol until middle of the month at which point I will have no flylady style to do and ta da lists, please consider this your advance notice. It will not be flying as it will be recovery of the house from the disaster it has fallen into, recovery from the last lot of building work, plus prep for the next lot of building work which will require the emptying of 2 rooms (like not even furniture to be left) one of which is the junk room and is full floor to almost ceiling. Has to be done for the 1st july and not starting til mid june. So year. I not be flying, i be panicking. Until then it is full on exam prep panick.

Not impressed that mn removed their pickies. But do rather like the fact that we now have 🐲🐉

See ya middle of june.

http://www.flylady.net/c/fp.php?tzm=-60

That's the link for FlyLady🧚 kindly provided by ED. I hope I've done it right and it works.

The habit of the month is drinking water 🥛. Don't be rushing around all day and forgetting to drink because it's so bad for our bodies, minds and our skin. Affects your energy levels. Also you can crave sugar 🍥🍡🍦🍭 if you're thirsty 💦 so being dehydrated can make you fat too by accident🤰. Easiest way is to get a water bottle, fill it up and carry it around with you all day. This is what FlyLady recommended so it's always to hand and the aim is to finish it by the end of the day 😇.

Zones this week are zone 5 living room 📺🛋️ (I think, my brain is not so keen on retaining info) and zone 1 entrance porch 🚪, dining room🪑🍜 and maybe something else I forgot (hallway?). These are your focus rooms for cleaning.

Mission is to declutter 🗑️ the dining room of anything at all, grab a bag or box📦 and fill it up. No need for perfection, 15 minutes⏳ is fine.

Linked to decluttering is something I read in the archives about getting rid of your paper clutter 📝📄📃📰🗞️✉️📉. It's like emails, if you hit delete all mostly nothing bad happens. Same with paper. So don't spend too long getting stressed about what to keep and what to dispose of. If in doubt throw it out🗑️.

Pamper mission is exfoliation🧼🧽🪒. Self care is important it's always good to have some me-time. FlyLady does sugar scrub, I prefer salt scrub. DIY is easy. Grab a bowl, add olive oil (I prefer almond oil it smells nicer) put in a few drops of essential oils if you have any and mix, add in a pile of sugar (or salt🧂) and take it to the bathroom🚿🛁 to scrub off all those dead skin layers to leave yourself all shiney and new. The oil acts as moisturizer too so I find you can skip that step after. You can keep any left over for next time. If you do it every few days you'll gradually get smoother and softer.

Today is errands day so get outside and visit all those places to do all those little annoying jobs that have been building up over the past week ⛽🏦🏪📮

Wishing you luck with the building works Hills, hope life gets a little easier soon

Salix did you ever watch Peep Show? I'm reminded of the episode they got drunk and went bowling with the shopping 🎳🥫🥮🥔🍎🍉🥦 and got in trouble for using food instead of balls

No problem ED and thanks for doing last month. I don't think I've done a thread about anything before. It's quite exciting my life is so dull

Thank you for the May thread ED you did so well, especially with everything you have going on right now with the decorators!

Thank you for running the new June thread Ditzy I've never started a thread on mn, ever, either!

I'm changing my name for this thread too, in hopes my garden blooms fully!

Delurking here to say I love your style @DitzyDaffodils 😀
I’m laying in bed grinning my head off reading this!

Morning everyone ,

I'm a bit deflated today , me and dp had a few cross words last night and the words are still stinging - it was a comment about the house and after I'd felt like I'd achieved a lot yesterday and spent some quality time with the kids , it's burst my bubble . I'm at the hairdressers today so I'm sure that'll pull me out of it 😊

Tada
🎉 breakfast and coffee
🎉 dd1 has gone to school for her extra revision lesson
🎉 LOL in the washer

To do

• get me and dd2 ready to go to the hairdressers
• prep tea (sausage & mash)
• prep dd2 some lunch to take to the hairdressers
• wash the new lunchboxes and portion up yesterday's lasagna for the freezer
• dd2 swimming lesson
• start some of the uniform ironing if I get chance so I'm prepped early for next week
• dd2 and ds want to play monopoly so may have a board games night
• 15 mins on the room of doom
• 15 mins on dining room

I'm going to have 10 minutes sulking in my coffee then give myself a shake !

Morning @DitzyDaffodils and thanks for the new thread.

@Searchingforsunnydays sorry that you've had words with your DP, it's quite a common occurrence in my house and I know how it can make you feel 💐

Thanks @CherryogDog ❤️

I've been in a funk all day 😩 I'm feeling low , lost any motivation and feel like I'm being snappy with the kids 🥲

Tada
😏 lunch prepped and dd2s bag packed for the hairdressers
😏 hairdressers
😏 lunch
😏 15 mins on the room of doom
😏 snack made
😏 helped dd1 apply for provisional licence
😏 10 min blitz on the kitchen
😏 dd2 swimming lesson

Still have lots to do , the whole place is a rip because I haven't done my daily jobs 🤦‍♀️ I better stop moaning about it and get on with making some tea and the never ending to do list !

I hope everyone's day is going ok 💐

sunny that's awful your DH was talking in a way to upset you. He lives there, he is just as capable to help around the house, same with your DC! If everybody pitched in to help it wouldn't be such a big and neverending job! Running the DC around to various appointments and activities takes time, and you out of the house, you can't be in 2 places at once!
Sorry if I'm stepping on toes, it's frustrating to hear when a man thinks his "work" is more important than his partners and it very much isn't 💐

I had to leave work for a couple of hours to be with DD at urgent care, she has pain in her pelvis and Dr Google said possible fractured pelvis! She's had xrays, just waiting to hear from the radiologist now (which can take days, apparently).

Thanks @BloomingHazel , DP does do a lot in the home and I think the comment was made in a jest way - I am very sensitive to any comment about the house and whilst we had sorted things out before bed (we try not to go to bed on an argument) it's still on my mind now. I'll give it another day and if its still bothering me then I'll have to bring it up again.

Tada
😏split the lasagna up into freezable portions
😏 quick blitz of the kitchen
😏 tea made (changed to homemade chicken nuggets, chips and peas)

I'm off to bed hopefully my horrible mood will have disappeared tomorrow 🤞🤞

I hope your daughter is ok @BloomingHazel ? That seems quite a length of time to wait !

Tada
Morning routine
Get annoyed by grocery delivery saying it won't come
Take grocery delivery
Rest
Go to hairdresser
Chop wood
Water plants

Tomorrow
Morning routine:
Breakfast etc
Lol
Dishwasher
Water outside plants
Water inside plants

Friday jobs:
Fold laundry
Work on guestroom for 15min

Others:
Hang laundry
Plant two plants
Weed or chop wood
Tidy living room
Unpack non cooled groceries

Someone asked about chopping wood:
The wood is a former huge leylandi hedge. It needs to be in smaller pieces to fit into the things the municipality takes away. So it's not really chopping, more sawing and cutting. We probably should rent a skip, but that is quite expensive, and the wood still needs to be made smaller for that. Also, I kind of would like reusing some parts of it, for a simple tripod or trellis

DitzyDaffodils: No, I've never seen that. I do have fond memories of watching raw-egg-rugby.

Searchingforsunnydays: Arguments are awfull :(

Hazel: Hope your daughter will be oke💐

Just watch for the cyanide gas release with leylandii. Do not stick in an enclosed space on a hot day (eg car) where you are exposed to it. Generally released if the wood is burnt.

http://www.flylady.net/c/fp.php?tzm=-60

Today's mission is to clear the hotspots 🔥 in the entrance area 🚪 and dining room 🪑🍜. It's not supposed to take all day ⏳ so don't dither too long about where things belong. I expect there's another mission some other time about tidying other rooms and if you find yourself moving the same thing around all the time because it has no home, you can either create a home or get rid of it.

It's car 🚗🚙🚐 and handbags 👜👛🎒 day, so clear out the rubbish, put some fuel ⛽ in it and make sure you can see out the windows 🧽. If it's really hard to steer round corners you've either got the handbrake on or very little air in your tyres. You should probably vacuum it too or at least take a dustpan and brush to the contents of the woods 🍂🌳🌾 in the footwells.

Your handbag is heavy enough without £100 in 2p coins 💰 floating around in there. Give the task of counting some to your smallest DC, who will be overwhelmed with happiness 👶 at being trusted with this major responsibility, and get rid by using it to part-pay for petrol or sweets 🍡🍥🍰 to shut the DC up.

Thank you Cosmos and welcome to the thread 🌌

Fingers crossed 🤞for DD Hazel

💐 to cheer up Sunny, ☕ to calm you down, 📣🗡️ to motivate the rest of the family and if that fails, I don't have a shovel and patio emoji but you could probably do a lot with 🪓⚰️🌲🌲🏞️🌲

Hope your day ran smoothly without any cross words there Cherry. Argumentative people suck 😤

Are you re-doing your whole garden this year Salix or is it just this hedge? Chopping all that wood will keep you fit anyway🪓

😱 Hills, useful info. I wonder how many people have been accidentally poisoned by their gardens? ⚰️

Ta-da's:

🌱 morning routine
🌱 went to the ATM
🌱 fetched a few groceries
🌱 walked through the woods
🌱 laid around with a headache feeling awful
🌱 decluttered
🌱 evening routine
🌱 much procrastination on Mumsnet before going to bed

Morning everyone 👋
Not much to report from Cherry HQ.
Had to get horse feed so while I was in town I thought I'd get some trouser hangers, but nowhere had them.
Looked for blackout blinds, but they're all either too wide or too narrow for my window.
Got some dark grey nets and hopefully they'll do the trick if I bunch them up tight.
The eaves start in my window recess, so there's a big gap behind the curtains, I can't fit the curtains in the recess because it's angled, the walls are solid stone so if I ever need to ask DP to fix something onto them it causes a lot of huffing 😆
@DitzyDaffodils I think DP would say I'm the argumentative one, I say I react to his sarcasm and negative tone of voice.
This morning he said something and I answered in the way he often talks to me, which sounds like Kevin (and Perry), funny how if I do I'm trying to cause trouble, but if he says it it's fine. Even though it causes trouble 🤔
Anyway, got back from the shops, had lunch and that was it until it was time to sort the animals.
I still need to sort my linen cupboard out, and decide what to do with the bags of clothes.
Ordered my hangers from ebay in the end so more whittling to be done in the wardrobe.
House remains in a state that I wouldn't be too embarrassed if I had a visitor, so I must be doing something even if I'm not noticing my TaDa's.

Morning everyone,

Dd2 was sick last night , I think she must've swallowed the swimming pool when she had her lessons last night, it must've upset her tummy . I don't think it's a bug because it was just the once and she was happy afterwards as she got to sleep in our bed 😂 I've had a lie in this morning, dd2 is still asleep so I'm quietly pottering around trying not to wake her !

Tada
🎉 DP put the bedding in the wash and hung it out before work this morning 🙌🏻
✅ decluttered handbags (only took about 10 minutes to do all 3 that I use regularly - I really don't know why I put it off so much !)

I think dd will be up soon as dd1 has gone in the shower - i will be getting a wash and dressed then I will be assessing the mattress damage 🤦‍♀️ I gave it a wash last night but it may need to have another wash today .

Todays plans have all changed and it'll be more go with the flow depending on how my little one is feeling .

Thanks @DitzyDaffodils - I think I need more than that to motivate the kids to do their part 😂 they do work hard but I still have to remind my 16 and 12 year old to put their dishes in the dishwasher!

I didn't realise that @HillsBesideTheSea ! Thanks for the info !!

Good luck with the guest room and laundry today @SalixAlba !

I hope the nets work @CherryogDog ! Our windows are awkward sizes too so we end up chopping them down to fit - it's a very fiddly job !!

@Searchingforsunnydays only reason i knew about it was because i happened to catch a GQT where it was meantioned.

Morning tadas
✅ LOL on line
✅ duvet in wash
✅ washed and dressed
✅ phoned doctors booked asthma review and smear appointments
✅ called opticians to let them know dd2 is getting on really well with contacts and ordered some more before her next appointment
✅ paid football and Next bills
✅ 15 mins decluttering and quick hoover of stairs and landing
✅ made lunch

Got a few more jobs to do this afternoon , dd2 is happy in her pjs and watching YouTube. I'm hoping she will perk up now that she's had some food 🤞

Afternoon tadas
✅ went to chemist to collect prescription
✅ dishwasher on and kitchen tidied , wiped and hoovered
✅ LOL on line and another in
✅ mattress scrubbed (I don't think it's going to be dry enough to sleep in tonight 😩)
✅ quick tidy of dining table
✅ dry washing folded
✅ dropped dd1 at her friends house

Managed to enjoy the sunshine for about 30 mins and then dd2 needed to lay back on the sofa , she's fine but just feels a bit icky . I'd like to get a few bits done this evening but we'll see how it goes !

I hope everyone has had a good day so far !

Welcome back Willow, good to hear WillowHound 🐕 is ok

Cherry I saw your question on the other thread. I don't sell my decluttering because it slows down the leaving the house part. It also means I'm fussing around with advertising and replies when I've got plenty other things to be getting on with that are more important. So here it's 🗑️📦♻️

Sunny - solidarity, sister 💐 - . I don't have any advice on how to fix it though. I tried the retaliation thing and plenty of other tactics. Nothing worked for me. That kind of nonsense was one of the reasons I left my ex in the end. In his case, it was a milder part of a pattern of abusive behaviour that ultimately came from a general disrespect for anyone who a) wasn't him b) was a woman (crime of the century, that) and c) was me. Over time I realized he had some serious issues and a massive attitude problem. My existence appeared to be a problem for him, yet he didn't want to break up. Eventually I took the decision out of his hands. I'm well rid. Hope your situation resolved itself with less drastic measures 💑👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💞

Hope you're hanging in there with the building works Hills and ED and not feeling too stressed out by it all

Ta-da's

🌻 Some much needed extra sleep 💤😴
🌻 Morning routine 🍏🥛👗👒🧥
🌻 Went to feed the ducks 🦆🦆this afternoon
🌻 Cleared out my handbag 👜 this evening
🌻 Evening routine 📔🥘🛀🛌