blimey heck ben10
sounds like a time for you and DH forgetting about doing anything except the very basics. I must say for situations like this than goodness for on line shopping ( delivered by some stores right to the fridge ) and for ready meals.
Thak goodness to for relatives and friends ........ its when we really appreciate them if we are fortunate enough to have them .......... and even when we dont think we have them they can often be found if we just ask our neighbours 
glad your haematoma has come away .... and whilst it does not happen often it is a cautionary tale for us all to take it easy, pay attention to whats happening and to any pain we do have , its there for a reason.
tink ..... its natural to be apprehensive over something when you dont know what will happen never mind when its on places not normally talked about
. ...... anad for you to think about it ...... but please try to keep busy and occupied with other things even if it means renting a few dvds you have always wanted to watch or do things you have to concentrate on.
The last week before my op I kept myself soooooooooooo busy I did not feel nervous till I was about to leave the house !
well I am doing fine with minimal analgesia .... was a little norty and went for half hour walk ( which was prb about 5 minutes tooo long really ) and have pottered doing little things like making breakfast ( though decided that bending down to take milk out the fridge not great idea so will not do again) and wiping round the bathroom.
Am still not feeling much like BM despite lactulose twice daily, prune juice every day, mixed fruit juic all saturday, plenty fruit & veg, wholemeal bread / cereal ... and even max strength senna last night !!! Some rumbling in the jungle but no action !!!
Downstairs looks good .... NO more bulgings ..... although I did find a big external perineal stitch was not told I had
...... so that was the stingy bit that was pulling .... aha
have a good day all