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New thread for those having/had posterior or anterior repairs, TVT, rectocele and all the other down below stitchups

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Hello ladies, I hope you find this, I don't want to lose my pre-op and post-op buddies!!

Footle Tue 03-May-11 14:52:36

Phew, a bit of a panic there, I couldn't make the link work so emailed Mumsnet Towers and they came straight back with a link that worked. Hope all the others find their way soon !
Thanks, Missing
x

MegGriffin Tue 03-May-11 18:45:49

Hello Missing and Footle. I am glad to hop over as my op is next Monday 9th for Anterior repair and quite frankly I am getting quite nervous.
I have packed my bag and the plans are in place. I'm just trying to get my house in order so I can go in to hospital feeling organised. Three more days at work and I have a blood test on Thursday.

MegGriffin Tue 03-May-11 18:55:29

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarhg (as you were)

Oh dear I didn't know how to do a fancy link, hope the others can find this as otherwise I will miss them!

Footle Tue 03-May-11 19:36:18

Missing, why not email Mumsnet ? They'll help, they are brilliant.
Meg, may I join in your primal scream ?

kazimodo Tue 03-May-11 22:04:28

Hi everyone,
Thanks for sorting out the new link. I'm back at work full time, still having infection problems, going for yet another swab tomorrow. This'll be the fourth one angry. Anyone else had problems? I suspect it's from the Mirena coil fitted at the same time as op. I've also put a stone on in 3 months and being really good food wise sad. So all this post-op sex I was anticipating hasn't materialised yet smile. I'm seriously thinking of having it removed but worried that heavy periods will return even though I had ablation at the same time. Any thoughts or similar experiences would be helpful smile. Good luck to all you ladies whose ops ar efast approaching. It really isn't as bad as you think it's going to be. I have no regrets despite a few hiccups.

jewellerymum Wed 04-May-11 02:37:50

If I'd known 1000 posts was the limit I wouldnt have wasted it! Sorry!
Thank you for starting up the new group! Well it's 2.30am so I'm thinking I should try And shut my brain off! So busy pre op that I can't switch off!!
Night all x

Rectdownunder Wed 04-May-11 06:58:59

Jewel I used to be so much like you, but as I aged (45 now) I started to slow it down a bit. I feel less anxious about the stuff that really doesn't make a difference in life, like always keeping my house perfectly clean and doing 27 hours worth of work in a 24 hour day. I think I started to mellow about 5-7 years ago, so around 38 or 40. I do relate totally to what you are going through.

Missing Thanks for the link and keeping us going. I would not know what to do with out you ladies. So you know, you might be right about taking pain killers for fibro and arthritis. I tend to take them because they are available and I just think there is no need to be in pain if you don't have to be. I do my best not ot overuse them though. I just can't deal with the migraines I get sometimes, they are totally debilitating.

Kazimodo, sorry to hear fo your infections, that makes things so frustrating. I don't knwo anything about the Mirena coil, but if you had an ablation done, then your period should be quite light or may even disappear altogether. I haven't had an ablation, but was offered one. My doctor spoke so highly of it nad said so amny of his patients come back and tell him it they were so happy they had it done. He told me that periods over the course of a year get lighter and lighter. He is shocked that I won't have it done, but I have my reasons that I will explain in another post.
Well that's all I know.
Talk later.

Footle Wed 04-May-11 12:01:37

I just spoke to a nice nurse on the ward I'll be on. She answered my questions ( no shaving , possible enema , were some of the answers ) and to my surprise said I'll probably be there till Monday ( from admission this coming Tuesday ) which is longer than I thought.
I also spoke to someone I know who just had a hysterectomy on that ward , and she was very positive about the nursing and the atmosphere generally. And I looked up my surgeon and he scores 8 for Clinical Excellence - after 8 they go on to the sports-type awards ie Bronze, Silver , Gold... but above an 8 they probably go on to bigger teaching hospitals maybe. Anyway i'm as reassured as I can be at this stage.
Except the nurse had never heard the word rectocele , which took me aback a bit . Posterior Repair , that's what you have to say.

Rect - I don't get headaches never mind migraines, if I did I would be popping those pills like smarties!! For me its all about sleep, get lots and the pains fade, get not enough and its a nightmare so usually I just have myself to blame. Paul McKenna sleep cd never fails to work but I never remember to put it on dur...

Have had nightmare few days, took painkillers cos of pains here and there, caused by overdoing it, plus I had put my back out. Oh dear now I remember why I stopped the painkillers initially, cos they mess my guts up. Guess this is an IBS kind of thing, stabbing pains in my guts and up my bum, it was so bad my mum put me to bed....lasted 24 hours then just went away. guess codeine is not for me. I know that people have IBS and have to live that that, good grief. Maybe I am just a bit of a wimp.... So now that those pains have gone, my aching fanny and sore TVT bits seem like a walk in the park. For all those pre op please please please try to limit your codeine, the pains from that are worse that the pain I took the codeine for!! If you do take it, take all the fruit, pear juice, lactulose, prunes, dates, licorice etc you can to avoid constipation and gut pains.

I have my 6 week check tomorrow. can't wait. I have this idea he will wave a magic wand and all the remaining aches and pains will go away. some bits of perenium are still ver sore, I truly believe the 6 week check will make it all go away... and also I believe in the easter bunny, the tooth fairy....

Cant believe I am back to work next week, still can't bend down properly, pick things up or drive, so that will be entertaining....

Hope everyone is healing well, feeling positive and enjoying the sun x

Flowers40 Wed 04-May-11 13:46:13

Hi all, glad to have found you again, hope you are all doing fine.. I am ok, got a tooth infection and my knees still hurt but my op recovery is going fine, no pain and sleeping much longer at night than I have in many years

But still got a jelly belly :0 Take it easy all..

x

Rectdownunder Wed 04-May-11 14:44:19

Ah Missing you make me laugh,grin you are eloquent. The thing I hate about codiene is, I can not sleep if I take it at night. I just keep waking up in a dream like state wondering what is happening. The tramadol does the same thing even though it is not codiene based.

Footle glad to hear you found the nurses nice. Funny thing, the nurse I had at pre-op called it a posterior repair as well, not a rectocele.

I mentioned how I turned down the endometrial ablation that my doc offered to me. Well besides being afraid of everything medically interventive, I just want one part of my body to naturally do its thing I guess. I have really bad PMS and just before my period, infact the day before, I cry a lot, I get really down, I stay awake all night as hormones prevent me from sleeping. Sometimes I just work all night or drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes and get this, I don't even smoke. The next day when I feel i am ready for mental hospital, I get my period. I am afraid that if I had the ablation and get my period anymore, I would wonder if I was going nuts! The period helps me to understand myself at that time of the month. Also ovulation time I get a bit the same way, not as extreme and my migraines are all associated with the dreadful monthly monster.

Sorry for the length here, rambling on so much. Have a great day all!

Rectdownunder Wed 04-May-11 14:47:09

Sorry, made a error in the last post, I meant to say "if i didn't get me period anymore" not "and get my period anymore'

jewellerymum Wed 04-May-11 21:02:37

Hey Footle - where did you look up you Doc?
I asked the surgeon about enemas and he looked at me like I was bonkers (he did that quite a lot actually!) so I am going to eat really easy to digest & light food two days before!!!!!
They also confirmed only one night stay as I am 'young'!!! LOL
x x x

jewellerymum Wed 04-May-11 21:13:09

Rect - I have NEVER had anyone describe my hormonal problems as closely as you just did!! I now keep a diary using a period tracker app on my iphone to keep tabs on where I am!
Most months my boobs hurt by about day 20, my mood issues are mid cycle and the last three/four days of my cycle. Sometimes I just cry and cry and other times I get what I call my RAGE sign, flashing infront of my eyes!!! There have been a couple of times where I have had to lock myself in the bathroom and jump in the shower so that I am away from husband as I worry (on these odd occasions) that I am so in his face while arguing that we may come to blows (we havent yet, in 13 years thank goodness!)
The other issue is that there is only a window of about 4 days each month when I actually WANT to have sex! The rest of the month I see it as a duty! How awful is that! My poor husband! He puts up with such a lot!
If I had three wishes they would be a) That hormones no longer have any effect on me! b) I no longer have headaches (today is first day in 10 that I havent had one) and c) All clothes are crease proof and dont need ironing!!!

I think that hormones are the worst thing in the world! They give me spots, headaches, lethargy, anger, sorrow, sore boobs, water retention, I wish sometimes I could just have my ovaries out and be done with it!!!

Todays rant over! x x x

Footle Wed 04-May-11 21:31:27

Hi Jewel , I looked him up on the website for the hospital under Medical Staff, then under Gynaecology. They all have their scores listed. I'm sure there is some other way to look them up , some register-thingy , but anyway I'm committed to getting this over with now.
The other interesting thing I found was that the same guy ( David Burch ) has co-authored a paper for other gynaecologists called "What should we tell women pre-operatively ?" It's on a medical site that you have to register to get on to , and although it's probably easy to register , I don't want to get obsessed here. Would be interesting though .. to see what they leave out. Ignorance is probably bliss.

God I'm glad i don't have periods any more. 11 to 56 , that was plenty thank you.

Rectdownunder Thu 05-May-11 01:03:30

Hey Jewel, Well I am sorry to hear you are much like me hormone wise, but relieved at the same time that I am not alone. You have touched even more on what it is like month to month. I also have that wanting to have sex thing, but only for about 4 days or so. Usually pre period or during, which is not good. I want to be alone for fear I will kill someone because I just snap. Really it is just wanting quiet, I don't like noise at all during or just before my period. I love your three wishes, except I really don't iron perhaps once yearly if necessary.

My husband puts up with a lot too. He has to live with me and four daughters, 4 out of 5 of us menstruate. Well lucky for him now the two older girls have moved out, Charity is moving out on her own in June and Emily hasn't got her period yet, but it won't be long because she is going to be 13 this year. My sons have a lot to deal with too, but one is older and moved out as well. My husband wanted me to get the ablation because he thought it would be nice for me not to deal with my ugly period and then we could have sex then because I won't be bleeding. He probably shouldn't have mentioned that because I was probably premenstrual at the time and to spite him, just plain refused. After I thought about things the real reason was because I keep track of my crazy days with all that. I sort of book my life around it really. I am a photographer and the last thing any bride needs is a raving lunatic taking their pictures.

Tell me more about your hormones, so to speak.

Dawn

Rectdownunder Thu 05-May-11 05:37:02

Jewel, I also have the sore boobs too, in fact today I just got them. It lasts for about 2-3 days. It seems like I have so many side affects from my period and the bleeding is the least troublesome. I know bleeding is a big pain in the but. I think mine is slowing up now, it used to be really heavy, I got my first period when I was 15 and I am 45 now, I am hoping menopause is creeping in. I don't like the thought of hot flashes and night sweats, but I am a basket case now, so maybe there is room for improvement.

Anyone out there know much about menopause?

jewellerymum Thu 05-May-11 11:10:41

Just a quick post
FLOWERS40 - How are you getting on?
I am booked for just a rectocele repair but he is going to check the anterior too and repair that if needed and as usual with these ops I have signed to say a hysterectomy (sp?) is fine if needed. So I ask how you are doing having had all three done?
Do you fell 'empty' having had your womb removed? I wondered if the extra space means your bowel habits change? When they remove your cervix I guess they just sew i up to leave your vagina (I hate that word and have had to use it so much recently!) pretty much as it was?
How is your recovery?
Em
x

jewellerymum Thu 05-May-11 11:13:28

Footle - I will try and look up my Doc. Think I saw somewhere he was a specialist in PMS problems - If I thought he would have the time to sit and chat I'd tell him all my problems and see what he thought! (remove my ovaries perhaps!)

Rect ... The thing I hate about codiene is, I can not sleep if I take it at night. I just keep waking up in a dream like state wondering what is happening I didn't realise that was the codeine, I thought it was cos I wasn't getting any exercise that I couldn't sleep...a h it all becomes clear now!!

Wow I will never mind my bad mood pre period, you two really have a tough time. I just get crabby with everyone, and sore boobs which let me know to go out and buy my supplies.. I will thank my lucky stars from now on. Is there anything you can do to alleviate that? Spose you have tried evening primrose oil and all that jazz already...?

Am having a quick brew before going for my 6 week check, I am terrified which is nuts as the stitching and sewing is done and dusted, and I think I dropped the last few stitches this week - I thought there was a spider on the loo seat, it was a titchy stitch just fell out, ick (sorry TMI). Terrified he will have a look and say oh dear, did it all wrong, it will need to be done again aarrrgghhhh

Also scared of going back to work cos today I am still so tired zzzzzzzzzzzz

Still glad I got it done, it's so great not having to pee all the time. Hope everyone is ok, have a lovely day ladies

Rectdownunder Thu 05-May-11 13:08:13

Missing, hope everything checks out okay today and if you are tired, can you take off more time from work even if the doctor doesn't give his reccomendation?

Glad to hear you weeing troubles are better. That is the thing that I want fixed the most, is stress incontinence. I am so afraid that the TVT won't work. If it doesn't then what? Is there another procedure that can fix it? For some reason I have a bad feeling that it really won't work.

Have a great day everyone.smile

Ah Rect I am with you there. That is the main thing for me too. The chances of it working are good. I don't know what else can be done after, I didn't ask him about that, I just decided it would work. I think it has worked, I am definitely improved, but as I am more or less housebound I haven't really put it to the test. When I am active again it will be easy to tell. I think it has worked..... since the op I haven't had to get out of bed at night at all, but then the last 3 nights I have so I am wondering what that all means... oh well, docs at 2pm, will soon find out...

Think the % for the TVT being completely successful is about 85%, and for the next 10%, it was somewhat successful. Somewhat is still good for me. I think only about 5% find no change.

Also bear in mind that the more this op is done the better they get, ie the ones that didnt have success are probably the first people having it done 10 years ago...!

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