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Can't sleep, marriage falling apart...

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Ineversignedupforthis · 18/10/2011 05:37

Trying to keep it together for now. Major problems with massively entitled, passive aggressive oh, which keep coming up. Been going on and off for 20 yrs (the problems).

Have bi-polar, which is generally under control, but know I have to be careful, particularly during stress, when I can't sleep.

Am back in that cycle where I wake up at 4 in the morning, almost bang on, as if by alarm clock. Any thoughts? Any poor sod up like me?

OP posts:
ParsleyTheLioness · 21/02/2012 15:46

Ooh, horses...

ChildofIsis · 22/02/2012 22:44

Ooooh page 22 and I wasn't here to see it!

ThePinkPussycat · 23/02/2012 00:52

Wishing you a very Happy Birthday, Isis WineWineBrew

ParsleyTheLioness · 23/02/2012 07:47

Happy birthday Isis!

ChildofIsis · 23/02/2012 09:58

Thank you both.

Pink it all seems to be complicated, is your xh being a prat?

ParsleyTheLioness · 24/02/2012 23:01

"There's a kind of hush...allover the world; tonight..."

ChildofIsis · 28/02/2012 13:10

Has everyone fallen off the edge?
Or did you go away for the weekend too?

I had a great time, busy and challenging at times but well worth it.
So glad it's over though, I've been working on it since the beginning of January. Now I can get on with other things.
I've actually got washing on the line today!
How sad am I?

ThePinkPussycat · 28/02/2012 15:00

H all, been posting but not on this thread, and doing my own work (not divorce stuff!)

It's complicated and yet simple Isis, and yes he is being a prat.

Just took friend to a nearly town and raided all the cheap shops and charity shops with great success.

ParsleyTheLioness · 28/02/2012 16:04

Sorry he's being a prat Pink,but that's one of the reasons you're getting divorced, right?

Glad you had a good weekend Isis. Today I have taken delivery of my super techno electric scissors! How sad am I?

ThePinkPussycat · 28/02/2012 18:21

It is indeed parsley Grin

Can't help myself: I must ask if you managed to tame the over-locker, and deal with the gas fire melted trouser stuff?

ParsleyTheLioness · 28/02/2012 18:30

Over-locker now semi-tame, but I fear is a bit temperamental(sp)...melted trouser removed with blade. Replacement trousers courtesy of 25% off Tu at Sainsbos.

ChildofIsis · 06/03/2012 10:53

Has the overlocker had it's wild way with you Parsley?
A whole week without a comment from any of us.
Have we moved beyond the need for it?

ThePinkPussycat · 06/03/2012 13:07

Nah course not. Missed you guys, been wondering...

Am fine except for shouting match with DD at weekend (see Relationships abuse support thread for more details), also DS has been home for a bit, which was great.

ParsleyTheLioness · 07/03/2012 17:32

Hi both, have gone on that thread Pink, meant to say Hi, but seemed a bit flippant,so shall do it here.
You ok Isis?

ChildofIsis · 07/03/2012 18:35

I'm great, everything seems to be falling into place at present.
Having the usual occasional upset with DD but it doesn't seem to be a big issue.

Xh is being ok too.

Finally it's spring and the world is a brighter place to live in.
Ooh I came over all pagan there!!

ParsleyTheLioness · 07/03/2012 18:40

The weather definitely helps...it's much better not having to get up in the dark!

ChildofIsis · 07/03/2012 18:42

This morning I had a wopping lie-in, didn't get up til 8am.
DD was at her Dad.

I miss her loads when she's not here but it's great to just potter about having a shower and getting ready instead of doing the school stuff.

ParsleyTheLioness · 08/03/2012 22:20

I recognise that...though its a while since it happened. I do like the school hols though! Unfortunately, I don't get as much work done then. I'm still trying to get a routine going. Got a batch of hats to take to the hospital on Monday, and hope to get another batch done in the week for the other hospital that I cover. Unfortunatley, some other firm has got in and provided them with some hats that are absolutely dirt cheap...don't know whatthey're like, will have a look on Monday, but I don't know how anyone can be making even minimum wage doing them, unless the system is highly automated and very fast, or they're buying them in from abroad. Have just spent quite a bit on equipment on the back of continuing to supply them, but have no 'contract' or definite agreement.Grrrr.
Also, am anticipating an unpleasant discussion with SBXH tomorrow, which I don't want to elaborate on, for fearof working myself up. I am due out tommorow night after this, as I helping with some marketing for a local business, and we are going out 'schmoozing' and networking, with a view to increasing the customer base. My idea, hope it goes ok.

ThePinkPussycat · 08/03/2012 22:41

Hey, booze up with Parsley tomorrow night. On business expenses Wink

ParsleyTheLioness · 09/03/2012 22:16

I'm back...have been on the marketing thing, and got a good result. Have told STBX that I am not going to counsellingwith him, and I think we will better as friends. He appears to have taken this well, but it has not properly had time to sink in. He said he had been thinking the same...if it helps him to think it was his idea... Do think sometimes they force you into making the decision for them. They can then claim to be the victim, but if they wanted a good relationship with you they would work at it and not abuse you, no?

ThePinkPussycat · 12/03/2012 15:39

How is everyone? It feels a bit like I'm stuck in a time warp here, can't wait till shot of ex. Am currently tackling Form E, financial info form for settlement proceedings.

Just want to get on with the rest of my life.

ChildofIsis · 14/03/2012 16:12

I've got all that to come, just starting to give the sol my financial figures.

It seems like you're sick of it all, how long is it till it's all done? Do you know?

ChildofIsis · 14/03/2012 18:43

I've found out how to get my photos off my e-mail and onto my fb page.
Is it sad to be thrilled?

I've got a pic of Mum and DD a few xmas's ago and one of me and birth mum as my cover.
I think I'm pleased primarily 'cos the photos are good ones.
I usually dislike myself in photos. I used to be really phobic of even being in one.

So I've been having a productive time...not!

ThePinkPussycat · 14/03/2012 23:11

That sounds nice :)

Had v entertaining reply to my letter to him (my letter was sent via sol, he replied to sol), he sounds slightly barking tbh.

More or less done Form E, spent yesterday evening copying a year's worth of statements from 2 accounts on a friend's scanner. Got house valued, scarily low compared to what we paid 7 years ago, but this is actually in my favour. Have not told ex yet though.

ChildofIsis · 17/03/2012 12:34

I've finally finished the painting on the stairs!

Me and DD are off to the seaside tomorrow for a day out.
I hope it's dry as we're hoping to have fish and chips on the pier for lunch.

Birth Mum has got her cards, she's not opened them yet.
I'm not sure how I'll be tomorrow, first Mother's Day without Mum and single too.

What are you both up to tomorrow?