How old was your dad when he died?

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I posted earlier but didn’t get any responses, my wonderful dad is 81 and I’m starting to think and wrap my head around the fact he’s not got very long left given he has heart disease and seems to be declining.

My colleague said she thought this wasn’t that old, whereas I thought anything above 80 was.

How old was your DF when he died?

My dad was 71 and my mum was 77. Both died of cancer. Neither of them were particularly old but cancer doesn’t care. I wouldn’t say 80s is old but also not entirely unexpected when people of that age die unfortunately. I’m sorry to hear about your dad, sounds like you have tough times ahead.

60. Too young to go 😔

My lovely dad was 67 and I was 26. That really felt too young.
It's a hard one to accept at any age. I think there are stages to feeling completely cheated though- premature feels more cruel than old age.

69, hadn’t yet retired

My dad was a few weeks short of 80 but he had untreated diabetes which had reduced his quality of life. I think he was glad to go when he did, at home rather than in hospital, because his life had shrunk so much.

Still miss him.

Just turned 55. His dad was 50.

mine was 52. He just gave up on life as much as we tried to help him. I miss him everyday.

51, of a brain bleed. His brother also died in his 50s of a cardiac arrest. Mum was 68 and died of the same thing.

My def was a week off his 84th birthday. He had previously had a mini stroke, heart attack and fall down the stairs.

My dad was 72, he had pancreatic cancer. My OH was 59, he had oesophagus cancer.

DF was 84, but he had been disabled for nearly two decades by then. FiL was 74, DH was 41.

At 81, your father is already over the average age at death for men in the UK. He could live another decade, but if he already has heart disease and other issues, then yes, you need to start accepting that he may not be around for very much longer.

My Dad was 65 (and had only been retired for a couple of months), I was 28. Mum died at 92 when I was 62. As RedTitBlueTitOldTitNewTit said it’s hard to accept at any age but premature feels more cruel.

47

So 80 plus is good going.

87, he was fairly well for his age.

88
He had been saying he was dying for over 30 years by that point.

79, oesophageal cancer. I miss him so much

I'm never surprised when people die in their 80s, it doesn't seem premature, both my parents died in their 80s, both quite suddenly and both in reasonable health

My mother was 39 and my father was 66.

68 (Prostate cancer) far too young 😢

Mine was 88 but he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s at 72. So cruel as he was an active, non smoking non drinking chap who deserved a long and healthy retirement. He developed Parkinson’s related dementia so the last 5 or 6 years of his life weren’t the best in terms of quality.

65, Heart Attack. Mum was 77 with COPD and Alzheimer's

My dad was 79, he’d been increasingly poorly for the last 10 years of his life. My mum recently died aged 95, the last few years were terrible with increasingly poor health, but I find that age extraordinary, her mum and both grandmothers were all around 85, so all the women were long lived.

Both parents died when I was young. ☹️

75

My lovely Dad was 84, he had COPD but was very active and well until he was about 80.