#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

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This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

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And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

I tested today only 7dpiui bfn on one step test strip but sure I got very faint positive on one last night sure trigger is gone as had negative for few days since positive trigger on day 3. Dunno how reliable these tests are have ordered first response one to do in few days even though I know still to early I don't feel different though so don't think this is my month x

Ooh! That sounds hopeful at the very least. I believe a fast positive is pretty unusual. Fingers crossed.

That sounds good ttc I was getting positive tests from 8 days post iui I never actually got a negative so wouldn't trust the results until we had the blood test!

We had our gender scan on sat and found out we are having a girl and a boy!

Wow Smithguy a set, congratulations!!.

Our clinic appt has been brought forward a day due to my unpredictably irregular cycle. Estimated date of egg retrieval is w/c 18th June. Eeeekkkkkkkk

Fingers crossed ttc and congratulations Smith how lovely to have one of each. How many weeks are you now?

Aw that's fab news congrats Smith! I'm not too hopefull think it must be either chemical pregnancy or the line came up to late or maybe it is last of the trigger coming out x

Good luck button moon that's exciting u have a date for ec! X

Oh, how lovely, smith!

button, that's great! You must feel so relieved to have an actual date in mind.

Great news button!

I'm 17 weeks today still suffering pretty badly with the sickness but apart from that all good! Delighted that we are getting one of each as I don't think I ever want to be pregnant again! Are you getting on pickle how is baby pickle?

Hi everyone. I'm just starting my first cycle of donor egg IVF in Prague; I have the ultrasound on Friday to check endometrial thickness and if all goes to plan, embryo transfer will be some time after 24th May.

I'm TERRIFED that it won't work. I feel in my bones that it won't. A handhold would be appreciated

Hello! Welcome.

Here's a hand from me. Sorry you're so terrified. Does it help to talk through reasons why?

Hi all, been absent from this thread for quite some time but been keeping an eye out - congrats pickle and others for BFP's. It's really lovely to hear about the success stories!!
So I'm single, 38 and had 2 cycles of unsuccessful medicated IUI (think 2nd cycle might have been a chemical as had 2 positive tests day 14/15 then all negative). Just about to start my next cycle of IUI, baseline scan on Friday. Thinking about what to do next - for some reason the thought of IVF scares me...! Have people who have gone from medicated IUI to IVF found it a very different experience? Also - what is the egg retrieval process like?

Thanks LRD - I think the primary reason I'm terrified is because I'll have to finally face the very real possibility of a life without children, a life of never having carried a baby, and the sadness and disappointment we'll feel. I'm SO negative and I can't get my head into a more positive place.

I've had a bit of a self-esteem issue throughout my life as well, so a big part of me feels that I don't deserve this . . .

Hi LovelyMojitos - snap, this is my first IVF too. Donor egg though, so no egg retrieval for me.

Hi tired I completely understand where you're coming from, I've always imagined myself having children and to think of myself in 5 years, 10 years without having had them makes my heart hurt.
I'm actually doing one more cycle of IUI, then thinking about IVF, have you done IUI with donor sperm or are you going straight for donor egg IVF?

Just got bfn on frer 10days piui 👎x

👎🏼ttc but still early days...

I have premature ovarian failure, Lovely, so we knew we had to go straight to DE IVF if we wanted to try for a family.

TTC I'm so sorry to hear that

lovely, I'm in exactly the same boat as you and also rather nervous of IVF. A friend had a nasty experience of it - she found the medication made her feel awful.

tired - yes, I can absolutely understand that. But, you know, you absolutely do deserve this. The thing that strikes me over and over on this thread is how much love we all have to give to a baby. We are all planning and hoping each month. A baby who knows how loved and wanted it was is a lucky baby, and all of our babies will know that. So you absolutely deserve this, and I hope it happens for you.

ttc, I think first response is a bit shit TBH!

A very very faint line came up but after the time frame I'm guessing this is just an evaporation line? X

It's just very early to know, I think.

Hello tired and lovely.

Best of luck tired. I’ve found everyone here to be super supportive and open. And there is always someone out there who shares (parts of) your experience.

Sorry to hear about your bfn ttc, but maybe it is still early days?

lovely, DP is embarking on IVF following 2 unsuccessful IUIs (donor sperm). So far the process is familiar (up until egg collection), but with higher doses of same drugs. We’re pleased to be in a situation where we know how to inject/symptoms to expect etc. So we’re hoping things will go smoothly! It is a lengthier process and requires more visits to clinic and obviously more expensive. But it feels good to just be trying something different - feels like we are being proactive in something which is largely out of our control!

Going to indulge in some relaxation next week in preparation with spa break booked and walking in the Brecons. Cant bloody wait.

Thanks ginger good to hear a positive story re IVF, fingers crossed!!
ttc I drove myself crazy with pregnancy tests last time - had few first responses that were positive from day 13 (hadn't tested before) but normal tests were all negative. The first response stayed positive til day 17 (although was getting lighter) and then was neg day 18 and period started (despite progesterone pessaries). Not sure when to test and with what next time - part of my thinks maybe wait til I'm a week over OTD so it's clear one way or the other but don't think I could do that in practice!! I also have developed an irrational hatred of the clear blue digital 'Not pregnant' in black and white just seems so much harsher than not seeing a line - silly I know!!

I have to say after 2 rounds of IVF I didn't have any symptoms from the injections. I have had a bit of pain following egg retrieval both times but I think thats partly because my left ovary is hard to get at but also because I tend to grow more follicles than the number of eggs retrieved, so they are flushing the follicles a few times to try and get an egg out.

Hey so I haven't updated for a while. I started my 2nd ivf cycle in Mar and whilst response wasn't great I actually got 1 top quality blast and a 2nd blast which was slightly lower quality but still good enough to be frozen. I started getting bfp's on 5/6 dp5dt which was confirmed by a positive beta of 174 on 10dp5dt. Unfortunately a week later I started spotting and my hcg was only 268, a sure sign I was going to miscarry. I am now about 2 weeks on from the actual miscarriage and my hcg levels are being very stubborn (despite never getting higher than 330). For the last 2 Fridays they have stayed around 50 so I am just hoping that my test tomorrow shows a drop.

It's been a tough few weeks but I am now trying to concentrate on FET as well as diet and exercise in case I have to start a new cycle.

Anyway that is a long update but was just easier to stay away during last cycle. Here's hoping my little frozen blast is the one.