#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread
Thread 9
Thread 8
Thread 7
Thread 6
Here is the link to the one before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

[TurtleTree]

I've been sick as a dog with moderate OHSS. Had to cancel ET, and will have to wait two cycles. 2 embies made it to blasts and are now in the freezer. Feeling a bit disenchanted with it all at the moment.

Good luck with your 2ww Bear

Mandy is the endometrial preparation the scratch / Pipelle? Or am I getting confused with a different procedure?

[Bear1980]

Aww turtle sorry you have been sick with OHSS I hope it settles down soon. Better to cancel than risk getting worse because of pregnancy hormones but I am sure this doesn't make it any easier.

Good that you have 2 blasts in the freezer, I have read a lot about the success rates of frozen blasts being high so fingers crossed you will get your bfp just a couple of months later.

Take care x

[pickle162]

Ah bugger Turtle 🐢 2cycles 😱that sucks! But as bear said better off being healthy than risking more problems** but still sucks when you have a timeline in your head. Hope the symptoms pass quickly and you feel much better. Look after yourself sweetie xx

[TurtleTree]

Thanks guys, I'll perk up when I'm recovered I'm sure. Hopefully those couple of months will pass quickly. It definitely didn't feel like the right time to start a new life off so I don't regret the decision.

[Pez82]

Hi lovely ladies, so the time has come to share some good news with you!!! Ellie (Eleanor Jane) was born last Saturday (10days early) following a long induction process due to pre eclampsia I developed at the end of the pregnancy. She weighs 2,5kg (5 pounds 10) and is absolutely perfect 😍
I can’t take my eyes of her

I keep lurking around here sometimes and I hope you all get to become a mama soon!! Best of luck to all xx

[pickle162]

She is absolutely gorgeous Pez huge congratulations and big hugs to both of you xx

[TurtleTree]

What a gorgeous little face! Congrats Pez - sounds like you had a tricky time at the end so hope you can find some time to rest up now and enjoy your time together

[Bear1980]

Aww congratulations pez she is gorgeous.

[ButtonMooooon]

Oh Pez she is absolutely beautiful, congratulations

[Wonky35]

How cute is she! Especially as she doesn't have the squashed head you get with term deliveries. Congratulations Pez! I hope you are doing well and are recovering.

[Wish4Future]

Congratulations pez!

[Latenightreader]

Oh Pez, she's gorgeous! I've been wondering how you were getting on knowing you were due soon.

Congratulations Stork - amazing news!

[Latenightreader]

Hi I'm latenightreader, 39 and single. I've been trying for two years - four IUIs in 2016, two rounds of IVF plus a FET this year, one embryo in the freezer. AF started today which means I'll have my next transfer in early Feb.

For the last FET I was on cyclogest pessaries, everil patches, metformin pills and lubion injections. This time they want to add clexane and something else. I'm trying to find the Asda online pharmacy and failing utterly...

[Everhopeful76]

Hi ever here, not been on here for ages and lost track of what is happening.
I'm 41,single, had my first baby Mabel upon 1 st successful ivf, but she sadly died aged 29 days of edwards syndrome, born just shy of 35w gestation. Nov 2016.
2nd ivf in June 2017- catastrophic failure 1 egg retrieved and failed due to polyspermia. Both of these cycles at BCRM. Protocols identical.

Moved to serum in Greece for full donor egg cycle in sept. Successful on first go, currently 16w +2 with another baby girl. Due: 31 st May. Wonderful experience with clinic out there, great female donor match, felt well cared for and still in touch regularly to have progress reports on pregnancy/ scans etc.
Had harmony testing and NHS tests this time round, all came back low risk. That said, still terrified, booking reassurance scans and finding the lead up to xmas excruciatingly tough because should have a 14 month old daughter here with me, last xmas I was too numb to even think about it.

Hi to all the newbies since I last frequented this page. Hope your journeys are as smooth as can be.

Good to hear on your pregnancy progress wish and wonky. Congrats fellow serumite and DE- ite stork on your bfp

Congrats on Ellie pez she is adorable.

Hi late I hope you can get started again, sorry to hear of your recent failure. I got all my drugs from Asda, but the localist branch, no online experience. Asda seems to have mixed reviews, depending on where you are. I found superdrug were able to help on occasion but that was for relatively cheap donor egg cycle drugs and not such big buck drugs.

Sorry turtle about your ohss symptoms and having to wait extra cycles . I hope these clear up soon and you can have your fet as soon as u possibly can
Good luck bear when is your otd lovely?
Hi to everyone else, can't scroll back further. Will try and be more present and hope for lots of babies in abundance in 2018 xxx

[TinyPaws]

Pez congratulations, what a cutie!

Had the counselling session, it went fine, the counsellor was really nice which is something I had been slightly worried about as not all the nurses have been.

Onwards to planning and consent appointment!

[pickle162]

Sorry the nurses haven't been great tiny, glad the counselling went well :) so pleased it's all coming together for you finally

[CautionHormone]

Hi ladies - yet again I’m ducking back into the thread after being AWOL for another few weeks... I have missed so much - I didn’t realise how long I’d been away!

Kwick, I’m really sorry you’ve recently had a BFN. That’s heartbreaking, I’m so eager for you to succeed, as I’m sure everyone else is! It will happen one day, and in the very near future, I can feel it in my bones!! I’m so glad you’re comfortable at IVI; feeling comfortable and having faith in the professionals is half the battle!

Pez, I’ve been thinking about you a lot because I know you were due just before Christmas, and she’s here! Congratulations, she’s absolutely beautiful; and her name is gorgeous too. She definitely looks like an Ellie - how are things? I bet you feel like you’re on cloud 9!

Stork, a massive congratulations! It’s been tough for you but I’m so glad you’ve got your BFP. How many weeks are you? Have you had a scan yet?

Pickle, I cant believe you’re over 20 weeks gone! That’s gone so quick (well for me, anyways ). How are you feeling? Had the nausea and sickness subsided? A little girl - how lovely! I bet you’re so excited...

Ever, that’s fantastic news. Very very pleased for you! How is everything going? I’m also happy for you that the tests have come back as low risk; hopefully that’s put your mind at ease but it’s totally understandable that you’re anxious!

Treasure, what a weight! Rex is gorgeous, and I’m not surprised you can’t get enough of him. He’s so cute he’d melt the coldest of hearts!

It’s so lovely to come back on here and read that there’s been a lot of BFPs and a couple of births! It makes my heart swell to know that you lovely ladies are having your dreams come true... For the ladies that haven’t had got a BFP yet, hold on; 2018 is your year!!

I also hope that 2018 is my year; this year (as I’ve said previously) has been a complete washout. The last four months at least have been disastrous, with many infections and health issues and a few family problems too. It’s been exhausting, so I’m very grateful that this time I two weeks it’ll would’ve ended (only just!).
My revised and renewed plan is to go ahead and start in March. I have currently lost 16lb, which has brought my BMI down to 35.9 - so close! I haven’t actually meant to lose anything, but with three infections in 4/5 weeks and a severe loss of appetite, it’s just dropped off. And it’s still going!! It’s nice to lose weight without trying and get on the scales every week to see another 3/4lb loss, because losing weight is one of thee hardest things ever and my body behaving and doing it automatically is another stress off my shoulders. Hopefully by March I would have lost another stone/stone and a half and my BMI will be closer to 30 than 35... But I’ve got to a point now where I am point blank refusing to hold it off any longer because I’ve wanted this for 3 years now. I’m through waiting!!!

Sorry this is so long it’s typical of me!
Hope everyone is doing ok and that you’re generally feeling positive. Christmas is just around the corner - my favourite time of year!

Lots of love. X

[StorkAhoy]

Thanks for all the thanks!

I’m 6wks tomorrow and the nausea kicked in yesterday. Here’s a hint, don’t go on a carousel ride once the morning sickness starts, even if your little nephew begs you to.... eugh I feel ill!

caution welcome back!
late hi!
bear thinking of you and your OTD.ever* yeppers, we are totes Serum buddies! If anyone is thinks no of a foreign clinic we can’t promote Serum in Greece enough, my consultant answers my mails all items of the day and night, and is so much more helpful than the two uk clinics I used. he’s pretty hot too....aka hotdoc!

[Everhopeful76]

Welcome back caution - had been wondering how you were and it seems its all been a bit of a nightmare for you. Congrats on weightloss! Fab news you are planning treatment in March. Are you going ahead with the clinic in Leics was it? Or still considering CRGW?
Definitely cant recommend serum enough, Stork and I are not on commission haha!

[pickle162]

Lovely to have you back Caution, sorry you've been so poorly- 2018 will be your year

I'm 24weeks today, struggling sleeping and being a huge ranty rat bag (thank goodness for good friends a peeps on here that I can moan to) majorly stressed at work. Itchy boobs and cramps But little miss is healthy and moving around nicely so all worth it.

@Bear1980 thinking of you, otd must be soon. Keeping everything crossed for you!!!!

[Bear1980]

Thanks all for the well wishes been keeping my head down for the tww and now choked with the cold. Otd is tomorrow but been testing negative for past few days so looks like I am out this cycle. News has gradually been sinking in so hopefully won't be too bad when I get "the call" tomorrow. Been looking at money and should be able to manage another cycle early in the new year (it will be dates and protocol that determine when but most likely March / April.

Good to have you back caution, sounds like you have had a rough year but hopefully this settles down in 2018 and you can get started.

pickle, ever, stork glad everything is progressing well for you all and can't wait to see pics of the bubbas in 2018 😀.

[pickle162]

Oh bear that sucks, I hope it changes tomorrow 🤞 if is bfn use those 3months to eat a follicle stimulating diet as I'm sure it's about 3months for things to mature etc....
Hopefully next time they will get nice mature eggs to give you a lovely sticky bean xx

[Everhopeful76]

So sorry bear. When you say get the call? Do you mean your getting an hcg to confirm, at the request of your clinic?
Hoping you can have your next go early on in new year, as you could still be in with a shot of having a baba in 2018, albeit at the end of the year. I hope this happens
Thanks for the well wishes xxx

[Bear1980]

Thanks I am just glad I have the option of another chance. Not quite sure what i'll do if another cycle doesn't work. Just have to think positive that it will.

ever yes my clinic like to do a beta blood test just to check if anything is happening and also look for signs of potential ectopic.

pickle yeah my plan is diet and exercise to improve egg quality. I am a bit annoyed with myself because I was doing so good in the summer but totally went off the rails in the last few months.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Hello everyone! Jumping back on. I lurk much more than I post, but I was here a few months ago. We have one DD, my DP's biological child, conceived with donor sperm through IUI. The donor sperm selection process was very simple - the clinic just sent us three options and we ticked a box.

I'm now trying. I have multiple fertility issues, but am hoping to try IUI too (it's not contraindicated). We had some donor sperm saved, but it's now expired. Boo!

Thing is, the clinic has just told us that they only have one (!) donor on their books, who is someone we already rejected as a donor for DD. We don't feel right with the idea of explaining to a baby that we used a donor we'd previously rejected, so we're going to go to another sperm bank and use the same clinic. I think.

Question is, how does this sort of thing work? Does anyone have advice if you're selecting just a sperm bank? Do prices vary a lot, or waiting times? What should we think about?

Thanks!