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#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 9

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kwick · 02/06/2017 07:52

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 9
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Everhopeful76 · 03/08/2017 13:22

Hi Nicole welcome to the thread!! Meant to say and then lost the thread of what I was doing, that re the cervical cancer scare, and especially if you do have a bit of a family history there, am sure you could ask for more regular smear tests!? Often you would be presenting with other symptoms, bleeding between periods if there was a concern.

As Pickle says I think its more for repeated cycles and with high dosages of hormones, I ve heard treatment relating to ovarian cancer outcomes too, but whilst doing fertility treatment we have dildocams like theres no tomorrow so they always checking the general health, and also I have endo so it ll continue to be checked annually. If you re worried about it maybe they would check this for you more regularly in the 5 years after fertility treatment. I would never let it deter you TTC tho, main concern with cervix is HPV isn't it? That would be a concern whether you were trying or not. Good luck with everything.

Thanks kwik and stork. I am really hoping if I get a BFP I will feel more relieved rather than panicked, we shall see. Just want to be knocked out in time for the birth bit, as I know it will feel like an age being pregnant. With all Mabel's scans and fetal tracers (hated those tracers especially), it was a never ending pregnancy, to 35w never mind any longer xx

StorkAhoy · 03/08/2017 13:59

We'll be with you Ever at least virtually!!!
xx

ps, pah ha ha re dildocam!

Everhopeful76 · 03/08/2017 15:02

Thanks Stork but may possibly even see you in Serum reception. Your first go, probably my FET!!! Hehe x

pickle162 · 03/08/2017 18:11

So I have some news..... otd is tomorrow but these haven't been getting lighter so as long as nothing major happens overnight.....

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 9
TurtleTree · 03/08/2017 18:33

Eeee pickle so exciting! Everything crossed that it continues for you.

Thanks for advice on ICSI guys. Bit of a relief that that's a cost I can shelve for now. Ever know what you mean about remembering people's situations - i find this thread moves so fast I can't keep up at all! Blush I'm single and at the moment don't know how good my eggs are but we'll see.....

StorkAhoy · 03/08/2017 18:38

Holy shitballs Batman! pickle be up duffski! Congratulations!!!

ever, we should totes go at same time, it would be perfect, no?!

Everhopeful76 · 03/08/2017 19:50

Preggosaurus Pickle yay yay yay!!! Hoping for a chain of BFPs now!!

Yea Turtle thread moves extremely fast. I ve managed to find a cog in the wheel to jump in and keep up with it for now, but I don't achieve this very often. When are you having an egg check hun, any plans to start treatment soon? Where are you based geographically and what clinic are you considering?

We may well be there at the same time Stork although first go will be 3rd week in September (unless my period is mega late this month).

I ve just had an email back from Katie. She says the following about notary signature.
"For the notary certificate its €75 with the notary near here. I don't know if its cheaper to do it locally. But if so, you can just let us know when we are open after the holidays and our paperwork lady can send you the certificate you need to sign with the notary (a notary is like a solicitor but they have a particular international law registration status)" Clear as mud yes!?

Also Stork do not make the mistake I appear to have done inadvertently. Have had the bloods to start treatment, they ve come back clear, but apparently there is a slight risk I have syphilis eeeek(Concept have either made this error or they do not include this test, and Serum need it). So for 1 blood test I will probably have to get that done in Greece, or go to Care in Northampton to get 1 blood test. Not sure how reasonably priced this may be locally, or how awkward they may be about doing it if have no intention of being treated there. GP very awkward and know wont. So what a ballache that is. Need to check Concept wont supposed to include this!!

I am wondering if I made the right choice by choosing DE cycle over transferring 2 donor embryos. If I only get 2 blastocysts from this, you are quite right you get 2 x 2 embryos for the same price. My issue is only wanting 1 put on board because of my history, but with your IVF's you had 2 transferred for at least 1 of your cycles, yes?? Twins are lovely and cute etc but they do make it a higher risk pregnancy and a likely premature birth. Think having 2 top qual blastocysts tips a single pregnancy to something like 75pc but then a 40% chance of twins. Its a worry for me if neither a fresh and a FET fails from DE cycle (and I didn't get any more)? And equally if get more, the cost of storing them as will have to store 1 batch in a 2. Someone I speak to on the Serum page, says that you can freeze in 2s and then the embryologist can pick the best embryo and discard the other, but I am not going to want to do that I don't think. Aaaah!!
x

pickle162 · 03/08/2017 20:04

It doesn't quite feel real yet, I can't say I feel wonderfully happy or excited yet just a bit shocked!
So tomorrow I'll be doing the test that my clinic give you to use and then give them a ring and then refer myself to the midwife-eeekkkkk!!!!

Stork and ever my goodness your brains must be mush, sounds so bloomin complicated. I think you should both merge your cycles and go out together,that would be fabulous,great support :)

StorkAhoy · 03/08/2017 20:12

ever, evening!

I've had 2 put back in twice! And nothing! I'll be doing two again, and if it (twins) happens it happens, there is still a chance of mc due to my lining apparently, and I've read loads of stories about donor embryo and egg donor cycles for my age group where two have gone in and only one has come out. So I'm taking the chance. I'm sorry for making you doubt now! Sorry! Money is a consideration for me though and I don't like variables (Control freak) when it comes to finances. Also the matching isn't as good as you are getting, so if that's important to you, then Donor eggs are the way to go. I'm fine with the adoption aspect, and the fact that colouring will be matched only, so if the kid doesnt have my pointy chin and green eyes, then so be it.

But ditching an embryo does seem like going against the grain, huh?

Re bloods, oh so I wonder what is the best thing to do then?! I think they have a list of tests I need to have done, will check if syphilis is on it!

Re notary, prob just easier to pay the €75 I'm thinking? It'll be £60 in Milton Keynes from the research I've done, so getting it done there seems easier.

Wish4Future · 03/08/2017 20:30

pickle!!!! How exciting! That's fantastic!!! Eek! Fingers crossed your good luck continues into the rest of us!

LondonGirl80 · 03/08/2017 21:10

Pickle - delighted for you! Congrats!

My second scan tomorrow after a week of Gonal F - hoping for nice big follicles!

Wish4Future · 03/08/2017 21:25

Ooh London fingers crossed your follicles are doing what they should! Xxx

pickle162 · 03/08/2017 21:34

Good luck London for your follies :)

Wish how you feeling after iui? It seems like an age away since you had it.

Thanks all, hoping it's going to be the first bfp in a long list of many

Everhopeful76 · 03/08/2017 22:45

Hi stork what has been said about your lining? Can Serum potentially do something before you cycle with them? No worries - I should have asked them the questions about donated embyros - asked every other possible question but that didn't come up, but I had been rattling on about not having twins so maybe she felt wasn't relevant. Its cost versus worry about twins, and then worry about not many being available and then they not work etc. Def wouldn't want to abandon an embie as I ll be thinking its the one that will work!! So a head fcuk!!

I think I ll do the notary cert in Greece

Concept charge £35 for syphilis test, have asked if can do that test out there. I mean, I am 99 pc sure I don't have it hehe.

Good luck London with your scan tomorrow

Bear1980 · 03/08/2017 23:29

Aargh pickle so excited for you, can't wait to see results of test tomorrow. Did you have any different symptoms this time or just the same? Love the preggosaurus 😂

pickle162 · 04/08/2017 06:01

Thanks bear 🐻** barely any symptoms at all which is why I thought it def hasn't worked, the only 2 symptoms I had was
1)emotional (more so than usual) but more easily riled and angry with times of weeping but put that down to the trigger/luteal support injection as seemed to cluster around the days after this
2) I had a creamy sticky cm discharge that I hadn't noticed before during any cycle but thought perhaps I'd missed this before cos wasn't examining every wipe (sorry tmi)
3) more thirsty than usual but not excessively ( I'm always thirsty and carry a drink with me anyway)
4) about 5 mins of a sharp sort of stabbing pain on day 9....implantation???
5) from I think 13dpiui I've had a mild cramping/ twinging around lower abdomen/pelvis but again I sometimes get this with my ibs
But all of these I could think of different reasons for why occurring so apart from the cm changes I honestly thought it was a no.

Last time I had like a switch that went on where had excessive (!!) thirst, nausea,dizziness and something came on and then after 5 days disappeared like the switch went off but was convinced looking back that I was pregnant for a bit but then had early early mc....no one will ever know but I expected symptoms like this this time and didn't.

The only real symptom I have now is bloating and gas 😳and digestive system def slowing down.very mild queasiness but my body doesn't seem to fussed by hcg-even after massive injections of it no obvious changes to boobs or anything else it's meant to

Excited and scared to do the test today....fingers and toes crossed.
Will update later with pic and when I've spoken to care with my scan date (ah if still
Ok)

pickle162 · 04/08/2017 06:03

Ignore the bit... the only " 2 "symptoms and then list 5 🙄

kwick · 04/08/2017 07:11

pickle CONGRATULATIONS!!!! So pleased!!!! StarStarStar

I agree with pickle I am not sure how you Ever and you Stork are able to digest so much information... the scary thing is I should probably know all this stuff for IVI and I don't 😬 I did not really discuss options with consultant as I had to lose the weight first... maybe I should start to make a list of questions to ask? Hmm

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Pez82 · 04/08/2017 07:59

Yayyyyy Pickle!!!! I'm soooooo excited for you!! Enjoy the symptom free period while it lasts!
I like others really hope you've reversed the trend and we'll only get BFPs going forward.

Good luck to everyone cycling at the moment or preparing for the next step. Ever and Stork, I am so impressed at your plans and feel very positive about them.

pickle162 · 04/08/2017 08:11

OTD 😁

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 9
pickle162 · 04/08/2017 08:13

Thanks everyone, couldn't have done it without all your support along the way xx

Good luck to everyone ⭐️

Bear1980 · 04/08/2017 08:24

Yay pickle that's so exciting, will you get an early scan from your clinic? Fingers crossed that's the luck turned around 😀

pickle162 · 04/08/2017 08:37

Yeh should be in about 3 weeks which is included in my package of treatment

Just self referred to midwives eeeekkkk! Says they will contact me for booking appointment when 8-10weeks 😁

StorkAhoy · 04/08/2017 09:26

ever shall add that test to the list!
Re my lining, nothing is wrong with it, that we know of, but obviously if this doesn't work, then questions will be asked about it as currently we are blaming lack of implantation on my egg. And I'm sure it'll be antibiotics before, and steroids and progesterone after transfer to try and make sure lining is as good as possible, shall also slurp down pomegranate juice by the gallon before transfer!

kwick yes do start a list! I have a constant tab open for all my questions!

pickle that test is one of the best things I've seen!

Wonky35 · 04/08/2017 10:21

Wow pickle, congratulations! That is so exciting.

Fingers crossed for some more positive results from others on here.

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