Sorry sent too soon - cuddling dd & hit post by accident.
There's a chance that when our kids meet their donors they develop a relationship with them that spans the rest of their lives. This still won't be a father position but it could be a fatherly figure iykwim. Equally those of us who are single might meet someone magnificent who helps us raise our children and could become their fathers.
There are so many different ways the paths might divide that it's impossible to predict. My feeling with children is that the more people they have who love & cherish them the better.
I have a half sister who my mum put up for adoption & then found again when I was a teenager. She's part of our family now. She grew up knowing about her being adopted and is far more well rounded & grounded than me growing up in a traditional family! I She thinks this is because she knew the truth early & it was never a big deal.
I guess my point is that yes, this donor could decide to be in my child's life. Or his family could but I don't necessarily see that as a bad thing. It wouldn't necessarily be an easy thing either, but nothing related to
Parenting ever is lol.
Pickle - I would def do an agreement but I know from previous investigation that they're not legally binding; but they do show intent. This would protect him as well from me demanding child support as well.
Really helpful to hear your thoughts. I'm not decided either way yet but it's an interesting opportunity to consider!