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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

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Aposterhasnoname · 24/07/2021 22:32

Have you had your jabs? Are you particularly vulnerable?

Ifitquacks · 24/07/2021 22:33

What did you think he was going to be doing when he said he was going out?

Duckyneedsaclean · 24/07/2021 22:34

Are you vaccinated? You'll probably be fine, even if you do catch it, it's just a run of the mill illness post vaccine.
Your 18 month old will also almost definitely not get ill, because nearly all young children don't get ill with covid.

You can't never have contact with others again can you?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:35

We’re both fully vaccinated.

Still don’t want to take my chances. Im obese.
(BMI 36)

Urgh I just feel really annoyed with him.

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:35

@Ifitquacks

What did you think he was going to be doing when he said he was going out?
@Ifitquacks

Not acting like Covid / pandemic is over!!!

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:37

@Duckyneedsaclean

You can't never have contact with others again can you?

No I know that, but he’s literally just gone from 0-100 with no inbetween.

He’s acting pretty selfishly.

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SmidgenofaPigeon · 24/07/2021 22:38

For goodness sake.

Blankspace4 · 24/07/2021 22:38

He hasn’t had a night out in 18 months….he’s doing nothing wrong.

Relax. You’ve both been double jabbed. Get him to take lateral flow tests during the week.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 24/07/2021 22:39

Snapchat though? For real? Hmm

Darbs76 · 24/07/2021 22:39

I think people do need to still be careful. I’m double vaccinated and on day 10 of Covid and this is not a run of the mill illness. But at the same time if you knew he was going then why has he done anything wrong?

HairyFloppins · 24/07/2021 22:39

Try living with a 19 year old who goes to packed clubs every week. You will be fine OP. I had covid pre jab and I'm bigger than you. Just keep your distance from him for a few days if you are worried and do you maybe have any lateral flows he could take daily?

Wanttocry · 24/07/2021 22:40

Did you discuss your concerns before he went? Because you seem annoyed by the pics you’ve seen, but surely that’s what you expected when he said he was going out for a friend’s birthday?
It wouldn’t bother me, but if it bothers you I’d have thought you’d raise this with him rather than be annoyed now you’ve seen pics.

Noterook · 24/07/2021 22:40

He hasn't been out in a year and a half, you are both double vaccinated, I think it's a bit of a wild leap to presume he will bring it back with him, but even if he does, at what point will he be allowed out?

Haudyourwheesht · 24/07/2021 22:40

You'll probably be ok, especially if you're vaccinated. He'd have to be in close contact with someone who has it for a good while, and most people (still) don't have it. Can he take a couple of LF tests, over the next few days, as reassurance?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:40

@Blankspace4

He hasn’t had a night out in 18 months….he’s doing nothing wrong.

Neither have I but I still wouldn’t be acting like he is.

Also, he has beeb to the pub several times to meet friends, but all when restrictions were in place.
Tonight is just his first “proper” night out, away for the weekend.

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Halfwaytoholiday · 24/07/2021 22:40

I'd be annoyed OP. I think that is very risky behaviour. Each to their own though.
Except of course that he lives with you and you have to put up with whatever he brings home with him - could he stay slightly apart till he's done a couple of LFTs at least?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:42

@Wanttocry

Did you discuss your concerns before he went? Because you seem annoyed by the pics you’ve seen, but surely that’s what you expected when he said he was going out for a friend’s birthday? It wouldn’t bother me, but if it bothers you I’d have thought you’d raise this with him rather than be annoyed now you’ve seen pics.
@Wanttocry

Yes, of course I did.

He assured me he’d wear a mask and keep his distance from strangers.

But the pics I’ve seen was a group selfie of them all at a crowded bar, no masks, surrounded by strangers.

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Frazzled2207 · 24/07/2021 22:42

I’d be annoyed op. My dh is the exact opposite. Fully vaxxed yet doesn’t want to take chances. We are meeting friends but outdoors if possible (that’ll be interesting in November)
Has an opportunity to go to a football match this week and declined. Won’t go anywhere indoors that “looks busy”. I’m with him tbh. And I realise that makes both of us party poopers.

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:45

@Noterook

I think it's a bit of a wild leap to presume he will bring it back with him, but even if he does, at what point will he be allowed out?

He’s allowed out now. He’s been out several times over the last 18 months.

This his first night away (over night) and night out without restrictions in place.

He’s not just gone to a local, he’s gone to a busy town centre.

I don’t think I’m over reacting here.
I think he’s acting really selfishly considering we had a conversation before he went.

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Noterook · 24/07/2021 22:46

[quote Dandy008]@Noterook

I think it's a bit of a wild leap to presume he will bring it back with him, but even if he does, at what point will he be allowed out?

He’s allowed out now. He’s been out several times over the last 18 months.

This his first night away (over night) and night out without restrictions in place.

He’s not just gone to a local, he’s gone to a busy town centre.

I don’t think I’m over reacting here.
I think he’s acting really selfishly considering we had a conversation before he went.[/quote]
He's allowed out to places you think are okay, that's not the same.

Wanttocry · 24/07/2021 22:46

Yes, of course I did.

He assured me he’d wear a mask and keep his distance from strangers.

Well, in that case I’d have been annoyed at the time that he was promising something that to be honest was always going to be virtually impossible on a night out. You can’t realistically promise to keep away from strangers while in a bar.

Bryonyshcmyony · 24/07/2021 22:48

You are double jabbed you'll be fine.
If you are obese you will be more at risk. Any reason you can't lose weight?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:50

@Bryonyshcmyony

You are double jabbed you'll be fine. If you are obese you will be more at risk. Any reason you can't lose weight?
@Bryonyshcmyony

I could give you plenty of reasons, but that’s not what my post is about.

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SmidgenofaPigeon · 24/07/2021 22:51

What did you think he’d be like little Jack Horner in the corner of the bar, mask on and keeping his distance from everyone having fun?

A night out and a bit of fun would probably do you good OP in all honestly, but I can see that would be difficult to manage with your anxiety.

Debetswell · 24/07/2021 22:51

He may have had a conversation with you but he's not going to say to his mates that he's promised to keep his distance and wear a mask is he?

Your expectations were unrealistic I'm afraid.

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