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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

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Ifitquacks · 24/07/2021 22:52

How did you think he was going to keep his distance from strangers in a busy city center bar? They’re rammed at the moment!

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:56

@Debetswell

Your expectations were unrealistic

Obviously so.

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Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 22:58

These threads are endless. People need to accept that life is returning to normal.

Stop being annoyed with him for doing something that is completely normal. You can’t seriously have thought he would wear a mask while drinking at bars?

Bryonyshcmyony · 24/07/2021 23:02

You can't control what other people do but you can look after your own health - maybe if you weren't obese you might feel less worried

You brought it up as a reason you were worried!

Blinky21 · 24/07/2021 23:06

I'm with you, my OH went to the Euros at Wembley which I thought was pretty stupid

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:08

@Bryonyshcmyony

You can't control what other people do but you can look after your own health - maybe if you weren't obese you might feel less worried

You brought it up as a reason you were worried!

@Bryonyshcmyony

I’m not worried because of my size!!! I brought that up because a PP asked if I’m “particularly vulnerable”

I’m not vulnerable. My BMI is less than 40.
Other than it being 36, my health is fine.

I just don’t feel comfortable with my husband resuming “normal” life so quickly when we have spent the majority of our sons life taking precautions against catching Covid.

It must seems utterly crazy to all of a sudden forget we ever did that.

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:09

Just seems*

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Ifitquacks · 24/07/2021 23:09

When he said he was going for a weekend in a big city drinking with his mates, how on earth did you think he was going to be socially distanced from other people?

Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:09

So how long do you want him to wait to have a “normal” night out?

Bryonyshcmyony · 24/07/2021 23:10

Ok

Chardonnay73 · 24/07/2021 23:13

I mean this kindly OP, but do you think your (slightly over the top reaction) is more to do with seeing your dh out having grand old time and you being at home with your dc ( at your choice) and him catching COVID is you hanging your frustration on that?
He has probably gone out with the best of intentions re wearing masks etc but a few pints in and people let their guard down. 🤷‍♀️

DoctorSnortles · 24/07/2021 23:14

@Bryonyshcmyony

You are double jabbed you'll be fine. If you are obese you will be more at risk. Any reason you can't lose weight?
This thread is about the OP'S husband behaving like a twat, not about the OP's weight, which is none of your bloody business.
ilikecheesecake · 24/07/2021 23:18

Isn't covid going to be around for ever? is he never allowed out near people and to hug friends again? He shouldn't have lied to you about it though...

Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:19

He’s not behaving like a twat, he’s on a night out.

Honestly, people Ed to gain some perspective.

Bridie20 · 24/07/2021 23:20

I’ve just been out for a meal in Newcastle and can understand your frustration having seen how busy it is first hand! It is HEAVING! I can totally see why his snapchats will have annoyed you! I’m pregnant and would’ve been annoyed to see my DH out in that (we went to a quiet restaurant, had no idea how busy it was till we were in the taxi en route home).

I suspect your DH didn’t realise how mad it would be to be fair, and he can’t exactly go home, but maybe get some LFTs for when he comes back just in case?!

Good luck xx

userxx · 24/07/2021 23:22

It's sounds like a good night out was well overdue. You're both double jabbed so crack on with your life.

TCMcK · 24/07/2021 23:23

Her husband is not behaving like a twat, he’s having some fun. You can’t control other people. He’s behaving completely normal on a night out with friends. You do know that you & your son can catch Covid at anytime and probably will at some point?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:24

@Chardonnay73

I mean this kindly OP, but do you think your (slightly over the top reaction) is more to do with seeing your dh out having grand old time and you being at home with your dc ( at your choice) and him catching COVID is you hanging your frustration on that? He has probably gone out with the best of intentions re wearing masks etc but a few pints in and people let their guard down. 🤷‍♀️
@Chardonnay73

I can see why it might come across that way, it’s not about that.
It’s about Covid and feeling like he’s gone from being super strict to just not giving a shit.

As I’ve said previously, he’s been out a few times.
All local. Including when the football was on.

I don’t have any issues with him being out. If I wanted to go with him tonight I could have.
My mum was more than happy to have our son overnight.
It was my choice not to go.

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Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:26

So he hasn’t been “super strict” if he had been to football etc.

So how long do you want him to wait to have a “normal” night out? Covid isn’t going anywhere.

iwouldlikearefundonmybody · 24/07/2021 23:28

I understand op. I've been shocked at people's behaviour the last few days. I understand why you are worried. Sad

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:30

@Nicknacky

So he hasn’t been “super strict” if he had been to football etc.

So how long do you want him to wait to have a “normal” night out? Covid isn’t going anywhere.

@Nicknacky

He hasn’t been to football.Confused

He went to a local pub when the football was on, whilst restrictions were still in place.
He was sat outdoors and it was in a group of 4 people.
All tables were distanced etc.

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Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:31

Apologies, you mentioned football. That could easily have been going to a match.

NannyAndJohn · 24/07/2021 23:31

I'd get him to isolate in a spare room for 10 days and take a daily test.

Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:32

@NannyAndJohn Do you make your partner do that if they go to the local shop? I’ve seen you suggest it several times when a family member has dared to leave the family home.

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:34

@NannyAndJohn

I'd get him to isolate in a spare room for 10 days and take a daily test.
@NannyAndJohn

Yeah that’s not going to happen.

There’s nowhere for him to isolate.

I just have to accept we’re all going to get it at some point.

I just didn’t think he would be acting like this so soon. It’s only just the first weekend of no restrictions.

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