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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

286 replies

Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

OP posts:
QueenStromba · 25/07/2021 06:52

@Darbs76

I think people do need to still be careful. I’m double vaccinated and on day 10 of Covid and this is not a run of the mill illness. But at the same time if you knew he was going then why has he done anything wrong?
I'm day 18 and am still completely floored by it, also double jabbed.
garlictwist · 25/07/2021 06:56

My other half rolled in about 5am from a stag do. I also have the covid fear. But I couldn't really ask him not to go or to change his behaviour. I think that this is the way things are now and I just have to hope he's got away with it.

Oblomov21 · 25/07/2021 07:02

"But there’s a difference between doing things we have to do, and just going out to busy places and rubbing shoulders with 100’s of strangers."

I'm not sure of your risk analysis. There's more chance that your dc will bring it home From nursery. And yes Dh didn't need to go to the pub or packed place.

But in hindsight getting him to agree to wear a face mask and distance, was not realistic.

Stuffin · 25/07/2021 07:10

I think you are BU and unrealistic of what a night out would involve.

If you are still bothered about it shut yourself in a room in the house for 10 days and get him to leave food outside and only come out when he isn't in the house. Wear a mask when you go to the toilet etc. Change your behaviour not his.

Personally though if you are vaccinated then ask yourself when you would like to get back to normality because it looks like your DH has decided he wants that now.

pollylocketpickedapocket · 25/07/2021 07:11

Get a grip, you’re fully vaccinated.And concentrate on losing weight, you’re more at risk from high blood pressure and cholesterol than Covid.

torquewench · 25/07/2021 07:11

[quote Dandy008]@Bryonyshcmyony

My sister in law wasn’t vulnerable, but still spent 11 days in the ICU!![/quote]
And I know a 23 stone asthmatic with a bmi of 51 who had a heart attack in 2019. He caught covid last year and spent a week at home on his couch. Said it felt like a bad cold.

Katie517 · 25/07/2021 07:25

@Dogvmarmot completely agree with your post. I’m not a fat shamer but nor do I think being overweight and unhealthy should be celebrated. Having a baby 18 months ago really isn’t an excuse, spoken by someone who had one 11 months ago.

OP you seem to want to control your husbands behavior to ease your anxiety about the risk of covid but aren’t prepared to change your own behavior and reduce your BMI which will help far more. Your husband clearly wants some normality back in his life and who can blame him? If not now when do you think you would be happy with it?

olympicsrock · 25/07/2021 07:25

You are getting a hard time here OP. YANBU. Just because Boris has removed restrictions doesn’t mean it is safe to mix with hundreds of people in a hot sweaty environment in a region with a major covid problem. There needs to be personal
Responsibility.

Covid is a horrible illness. I am still suffering from tired and shortness of breath 16 months later. Why should the OP be out at risk due to this risky behaviour?

ItsAllBlahBlahBlah · 25/07/2021 07:27

Wow what spiteful people there are on here. If you don't agree with what the OP says can't you just say that or offer some supportive response? Picking on her weight (yes, I know, OP mentioned it) is just pointless, that's not what she's upset about and has said that multiple times. For the endless 'I've been losing weight..'posts, well whoop de do for you. You're missing the point here. OP might be on a cabbage soup diet atm dropping 6lbs a week, would that mean she is worthy of a better response or something?! Damned whatever she says I reckon. Just bullies jumping in.... Again.

OP. I'd be annoyed too that your DH said one thing and did another. And ignore the comments about your weight.

Stuffin · 25/07/2021 07:39

People are mentioning the OP weight because it is a factor for covid. She wants to dictate what her DH does which you can't for an adult so you can only change your own behaviour. My DH lost over 25kg to reduce his risk for covid as that was something he could control.

PrettyBlunt · 25/07/2021 07:40

Try not to worry OP.

It was pretty selfish on his part if he knew your anxiety would be this bad.

Also the comments about her weight. Get a grip.

Toottooot · 25/07/2021 07:43

Poor guy.

pollylocketpickedapocket · 25/07/2021 07:45

@PrettyBlunt

Try not to worry OP.

It was pretty selfish on his part if he knew your anxiety would be this bad.

Also the comments about her weight. Get a grip.

Why??? She brought it up and it’s a massive factor. Also Bmi from 29 to 36 is nothing to do with having a baby 18 months ago, that’s an excuse
Remmy123 · 25/07/2021 08:04

Omg please get yourself some help this is not a normal reaction!!

Let your husband have a good night!!!

MaxNormal · 25/07/2021 08:23

It's not logical to be so much more worried about your husband's night out than nursery. Given the daily exposure there, if you're going to get it, it's way likely that will be where from.

Also agree that being that overweight is far from ideal healthwise. Imo it's that as well as an ageing population that is a factor in why we had such bad hospitalisation and death stats prior to the vaccine rollout. Every time there was a scare-mongering news article about a "healthy" younger person who died/wound up in hospital with covid, a picture of them showed that they were anything but, metabolically.

ItsAllBlahBlahBlah · 25/07/2021 08:23

@Stuffin congratulations. Everyone who doesn't do as your DH did is obviously inferior

VanGoSunflowers · 25/07/2021 08:31

You are being ridiculous OP. Utterly ridiculous.

Your DH has every right to decide to go out and enjoy himself and I think you’re being unfair to try and stop him from doing that. The rules have now changed, I wouldn’t be annoyed at this.

You’re both double-jabbed. You’ll most likely catch it at some point. It’s not going anywhere!

morepizzapls · 25/07/2021 08:31

its naive at best to think having a bmi of 36, regardless of whether you had a baby 18 months ago, is less of a problem than your husband enjoying his first night out since March.

genuinely, at some point people are going to have to come to terms with the risks and the fact that we are not going to be living with zero COVID. are you honestly expecting your husband to never hug or interact properly with his friends/family? what kind of life would that be?

VanGoSunflowers · 25/07/2021 08:31

@MaxNormal

It's not logical to be so much more worried about your husband's night out than nursery. Given the daily exposure there, if you're going to get it, it's way likely that will be where from.

Also agree that being that overweight is far from ideal healthwise. Imo it's that as well as an ageing population that is a factor in why we had such bad hospitalisation and death stats prior to the vaccine rollout. Every time there was a scare-mongering news article about a "healthy" younger person who died/wound up in hospital with covid, a picture of them showed that they were anything but, metabolically.

So much this!
supersonicginandtonic · 25/07/2021 08:33

No way would I be expecting my partner to stop living his life because of my ridiculous ness. He's doing nothing wrong, he's not breaking guidelines.
You could've gone but chose not to.
And if your BMI is bothering you do something about it. Mines higher by the way:

ladyvimes · 25/07/2021 08:36

My dh recently had covid. We were all stuck at home with it. None of us (me or the kids) caught it. I wouldn’t worry unless he actually gets it and then shut him a room for a week!!

Dandy0911 · 25/07/2021 08:36

What did you expect for a night out drinking?

I don't understand.. he pulls his mask down for each sip he takes?
But you don't worry about your child coming home from nursery where there's zero social distancing whatsoever, and numerous households are mixing.

He's on a night out. It's been 18 months since his first weekend away. Let him be. He doesn't need to be the one in the corner social distancing wearing a mask and his other mates having a good time.

Just have him do a LFT this week and move on?

Seems like you're just not happy he's gone out whilst you're at home. He's gone for a night out. Covid isn't going anywhere. We can't stay locked up forever.

Halfwaytoholiday · 25/07/2021 08:42

I had a great weekend away with friends recently. We managed not to cram ourselves in anywhere that was overcrowded, we didn't hug or kiss and mysteriously we still managed to have a fantastic time.

morepizzapls · 25/07/2021 08:45

@Halfwaytoholiday

I had a great weekend away with friends recently. We managed not to cram ourselves in anywhere that was overcrowded, we didn't hug or kiss and mysteriously we still managed to have a fantastic time.
not everyone wants to live like that for the rest of their lives though.
SmidgenofaPigeon · 25/07/2021 08:46

Wonder what grief the DH is getting currently from daring to go out and have a good time.

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