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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

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Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:52

@Dandy008 No, I can’t see where you are coming from. Your H has went on a night out. That’s all.

If you are so worried about covid then I would be far far more concerned about nursery.

When would you be happy for him to go on a normal night out? You haven’t answered and this is the third time I’ve asked?

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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:54

@Nicknacky

When would you be happy for him to go on a normal night out? You haven’t answered and this is the third time I’ve asked?

Well I was happy for him to go this weekend, but that was when I suggested masks would be worn
and he would be behaving with caution.
Not because I told him to, but because he said he wanted to.

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Nicknacky · 24/07/2021 23:55

@Dandy008 So when will you be happy for him to go without masks?

You set him up to fail if you think someone is going to go on a night out drinking wearing a mask!

Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 24/07/2021 23:57

@RoseRedRoseBlue

Oh FFS get a hold of yourself! MN is full of increasingly manic posts tonight from people who need to have a reality check.
This made me laugh. It's true though- I've gone for a curry, DP has gone playing his guitar with his band and DD8 has gone for a sleepover. It's good to be normal.
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Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 23:59

@Nicknacky

I didn’t set him up for a fail. He was the one who said he would be wearing his mask.

Nothing I can do now. Just have to accept we’re going to get it at some point.

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Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 24/07/2021 23:59

[quote Dandy008]@Nicknacky

When would you be happy for him to go on a normal night out? You haven’t answered and this is the third time I’ve asked?

Well I was happy for him to go this weekend, but that was when I suggested masks would be worn
and he would be behaving with caution.
Not because I told him to, but because he said he wanted to.[/quote]
Sorry to say but he was bullshitting you about the masks. As if he would wear a mask on a night out.

SprayedWithDettol · 24/07/2021 23:59

A mask doesn’t protect the wearer - it helps prevent the spread of droplets from the wearer to protect others.

Nicknacky · 25/07/2021 00:01

@Dandy008Be honest with yourself. Why did he say he would wear a mask?

Look at your reaction for him not wearing one!

Do you worry this much when your child comes home from nursery?

Nicknacky · 25/07/2021 00:02

Be honest with yourself…

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Dandy008 · 25/07/2021 00:03

[quote Nicknacky]@Dandy008Be honest with yourself. Why did he say he would wear a mask?

Look at your reaction for him not wearing one!

Do you worry this much when your child comes home from nursery?[/quote]
@Nicknacky

No, I don’t worry about my child coming home from nursery.
But again, I don’t think you’re seeing my point.

Sending my child to nursery; with 8 other children and 3 members of staff, is NOT the same as my husband going to lots of different crowded bars in a busy town centre.

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FlatteredFool · 25/07/2021 00:03

@Dandy008 Thanks for you. I understand why you are upset and annoyed and I get your point of view and concerns. Lots of people don't give a shit about covid any more as evidenced by the scores of comments on threads like this. You have reasons and experiences that make you more cautious. I do too and people just don't understand and think we are crazy and ridiculous, boring and controlling etc. Ignore the shitty comments about your weight too Thanks

TooOldandTired · 25/07/2021 00:04

[quote Dandy008]@Nicknacky

I didn’t set him up for a fail. He was the one who said he would be wearing his mask.

Nothing I can do now. Just have to accept we’re going to get it at some point.[/quote]
This is ridiculous, of course you are not all going to get it!! Read some stats on the chance of you catching Covid having been vaccinated.

Livpool · 25/07/2021 00:05

YABU - and I am CEV

Life has to move on at some point

MichelleScarn · 25/07/2021 00:06

There's going to be so many controlling domestic abuse perpetrators revelling in the never ending covid fear isn't there?
'Of course you can't go out, covid!'
'See your friends? No way! Covid!'
(N.b not insinuating op is one!)

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Dandy008 · 25/07/2021 00:06

[quote FlatteredFool]@Dandy008 Thanks for you. I understand why you are upset and annoyed and I get your point of view and concerns. Lots of people don't give a shit about covid any more as evidenced by the scores of comments on threads like this. You have reasons and experiences that make you more cautious. I do too and people just don't understand and think we are crazy and ridiculous, boring and controlling etc. Ignore the shitty comments about your weight too Thanks[/quote]
@FlatteredFool

Thank you. x

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Nicknacky · 25/07/2021 00:07

@Dandy008 But it’s exactly the same as nursery. Your kid is getting licked daily and there is no social distancing!

Look, you are clearly paranoid and I’m not. My h and I have worked throughout, our kids have went to school and life goes on. It’s only on mumsnet that I see this amount on anxiety and I don’t think it’s healthy.

Give your h a hard time when he gets home, it’s no skin off my nose. Or realise that he has done nothing wrong.

Roundearth · 25/07/2021 00:07

your bmi is your biggest risk to your health with many issues outside of covid... something which you have the power to sort out.
your husband going out is realistically nd statistically only going to be a real problem for you because of your own bmi

PickAChew · 25/07/2021 00:09

I get you. The numbers are horrendous, up here.

Bryonyshcmyony · 25/07/2021 00:11

There's one person in our local hospital with Covid (local news today). I'm not worried.

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Dandy008 · 25/07/2021 00:13

Is mums net anti fat or something…?
Funny how I only mentioned my BMI once yet that’s all people seem to be talking about.

It’s 36, it’s not like it’s 46!
I had a baby 18 months ago, prior to that my BMI was 29. Pretty sure I’ll be back to that or lower at some point. Don’t all worry yourselves.
It’s like the fat police are on here.

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RoseRedRoseBlue · 25/07/2021 00:14

[quote FlatteredFool]@Dandy008 Thanks for you. I understand why you are upset and annoyed and I get your point of view and concerns. Lots of people don't give a shit about covid any more as evidenced by the scores of comments on threads like this. You have reasons and experiences that make you more cautious. I do too and people just don't understand and think we are crazy and ridiculous, boring and controlling etc. Ignore the shitty comments about your weight too Thanks[/quote]
It’s not true that people “don’t give a shit”, they just have the good judgement to realise that living in a constant state of fear isn’t viable.

Nicknacky · 25/07/2021 00:15

But it’s you that mentioned your weight as a concern, not those posters who commented in it.

Blacktothepink · 25/07/2021 00:18

Yanbu op, I’d be fucked off too.

Newchallenge · 25/07/2021 00:20

YANBU. I'd be annoyed too

sergeilavrov · 25/07/2021 00:21

You mutually came to an agreement. You trusted him, he didn’t uphold it. That’s a problem: regardless of whether people on this thread would enter into that agreement themselves.

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