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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

286 replies

Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

OP posts:
Neverrains · 30/07/2021 22:35

@JesusIsAnyNameFree

Incubation period is 2-14 days. 5.5 days is the average. 97.5% will show symptoms after 11.5 days after exposure. So, no, 6 days is not enough to say for sure.
Let’s think positively eh? Wink
User135644 · 31/07/2021 08:41

Going out to packed bars at the moment is irresponsible. You can understand it from the student types and youngsters who've missed out on nights out when hitting 18 etc.

You can go out on the town without going wild (avoiding packed out places, sticking to pubs and bars that are well ventilated and doors/windows open etc.

TheDevils · 31/07/2021 09:26

Going out to packed bars at the moment is irresponsible. You can understand it from the student types and youngsters who've missed out on nights out when hitting 18 etc.

It depresses me to see how judgemental people have become.

Bryonyshcmyony · 31/07/2021 09:34

@User135644

Going out to packed bars at the moment is irresponsible. You can understand it from the student types and youngsters who've missed out on nights out when hitting 18 etc.

You can go out on the town without going wild (avoiding packed out places, sticking to pubs and bars that are well ventilated and doors/windows open etc.

Of course it's not unreasonable. Fgs.
Neverrains · 31/07/2021 09:36

Going out to packed bars at the moment is irresponsible. You can understand it from the student types and youngsters who've missed out on nights out when hitting 18 etc

The bars won’t survive if people don’t go to them. They can’t make a living just from 18 year olds.

TheDevils · 31/07/2021 10:10

The bars won’t survive if people don’t go to them. They can’t make a living just from 18 year olds.

Exactly. So many people just don't care about that but these are people's livelihoods we're talking about.

Bryonyshcmyony · 31/07/2021 10:12

I meant *irresponsible

It's not unreasonable either though

Feelingoktoday · 31/07/2021 10:14

[quote Dandy008]@Duckyneedsaclean

You can't never have contact with others again can you?

No I know that, but he’s literally just gone from 0-100 with no inbetween.

He’s acting pretty selfishly.[/quote]
Actually I think you are being selfish. As long as he takes precautions, has been vaccinated then I’m sure it will be fine.

Have you considered your risks to other illnesses such as heart attack, diabetes etc. Are you doing anything about your risk. Covid is here for ever,

Feelingoktoday · 31/07/2021 10:17

@TheUnlucky1

Well there’s the risk of long Covid, the risk of being ill whilst caring for a toddler, the risk of passing on Covid to someone else, the risk of causing others to self-isolate, apart from an admittedly very low risk of serious disease.
But you could get run over by a bus tomorrow. Life is a risk. Having a child is a risk. Eating ham and bacon is a risk. Ring obese is a risk. Sitting in the sun is a risk.
starbrightstarlight8888 · 31/07/2021 10:17

Surely it's about the having to isolate though isn't it? Well it is for me.
Teenage dsd went out last Friday night and was hugging everyone and now has covid. Obviously the whole house now has ot isolate including my ds 11 who is on school holidays and has just come out of isolation from a school bubble bursting.
Selfish behaviour.

Neverrains · 31/07/2021 10:23

Also pretty selfish to expect a teenager to, well, not be a teenager. They need contact with their friends. Hugging is what teens do.

TheDevils · 31/07/2021 10:30

@starbrightstarlight8888

Surely it's about the having to isolate though isn't it? Well it is for me. Teenage dsd went out last Friday night and was hugging everyone and now has covid. Obviously the whole house now has ot isolate including my ds 11 who is on school holidays and has just come out of isolation from a school bubble bursting. Selfish behaviour.
But one of your household could have caught covid from the supermarket, work or a dozen other places.

What do you expect your teen to do? Stay locked away forever? I'd say that's pretty selfish.

NannyAndJohn · 31/07/2021 11:09

@Neverrains

Also pretty selfish to expect a teenager to, well, not be a teenager. They need contact with their friends. Hugging is what teens do.
They can make that contact outside and distanced, or over Zoom.

And if they happen to be 18 or 19, can move out and get their own place so they're no longer putting their family at risk of Covid.

Neverrains · 31/07/2021 11:23

They can make that contact outside and distanced, or over Zoom

Do you remember what it’s like to be a teenager?

Pastrydame · 31/07/2021 11:26

I wonder if the teenager in question now feels it was worth it.

NannyAndJohn · 31/07/2021 11:27

@Neverrains

They can make that contact outside and distanced, or over Zoom

Do you remember what it’s like to be a teenager?

Yep, we didn't have the luxury of just being able to press a button to see our friends and family.
Neverrains · 31/07/2021 11:30

Yep, we didn't have the luxury of just being able to press a button to see our friends and family

No, instead you had the ‘luxury’ of being able to actually see your friends and family, and have normal human contact with them. Human contact is necessary for a teen’s development, and zoom is a poor substitution.

QueenofKattegat · 31/07/2021 11:46

Going out to packed bars at the moment is irresponsible

Get a grip of yourself. What a ridiculous comment 🤣

WindyWindsor · 31/07/2021 11:46

I think this is stemming from an unknown on people's part at what's happening at bars at the moment. It's definitely not the same as going to a pub during restrictions. Bars are very busy, there's zero masks in sight (that applies to the staff too, I didn't see anyone wearing a mask). From the bars I've seen, table service tends to still be a thing i.e your group has to sit round a table, but that usually means you're all bunched up together with not even the slightest bit of social distancing. It's nothing like a pub during restrictions.

Just want to make people aware that's what it is like. It's a environment where it's very unlikely people will be social distanced with masks even if you think you will be going into it. If anyone or their partners are saying they'll stay social distanced and safe on a proper night out then it's just extremely unrealistic at the moment.

That being said, I get why OP is taken aback as it's something she wasn't expecting, your DH probably wasn't expecting it either. But double jabbed you're thankfully at very low risk of serious illness. What's done is done now. Your DH has posed some risk to your family but it's small. Just try keep that in mind. Hopefully he brings nothing back. It's not a given that he has.

Good luck OP

TheDevils · 31/07/2021 11:46

Yep, we didn't have the luxury of just being able to press a button to see our friends and family.

Seriously?? You didn't need to because you could meet up in person.
Zoom is a poor substitute

QueenofKattegat · 31/07/2021 11:47

And if they happen to be 18 or 19, can move out and get their own place so they're no longer putting their family at risk of Covid

You need help.

Neverrains · 31/07/2021 11:49

And if they happen to be 18 or 19, can move out and get their own place so they're no longer putting their family at risk of Covid

I hope you don’t have teens, I really do. Or kids at all, actually.

NannyAndJohn · 31/07/2021 11:54

@TheDevils

Yep, we didn't have the luxury of just being able to press a button to see our friends and family.

Seriously?? You didn't need to because you could meet up in person.
Zoom is a poor substitute

Hard to do that regularly if they're on the other side of the country.

Only got to see the grandparents a couple of times a year.

Neverrains · 31/07/2021 11:55

You had friends though, yes?

TheDevils · 31/07/2021 11:58

Hard to do that regularly if they're on the other side of the country.

Only got to see the grandparents a couple of times a year.

But you could visit if you wanted to /had the means.

And you weren't banned from seeing your friends or hugging them.
It's not comparable

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