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Turning off ventilator

186 replies

jinglybell · 06/02/2021 06:31

Partners brother has been ventilated for 3 weeks now.

A little improvement but he got an infection a couple of days ago and everything has gone down hill.

They are removing the vent shortly to let him pass.

Gutted.

OP posts:
SunsetOverEasterIsland · 06/02/2021 18:13

So sorry for your loss OP and for everyone going through this. Devastating.

Madhairday · 06/02/2021 18:18

I'm so sorry OP Flowers

Escourtie · 06/02/2021 18:20

I'm so sorry. Thoughts are with you and the family xx

WhatMattersMost · 06/02/2021 18:23

Jinglybell - much love to your partner and you, sweetheart Flowers

CrunchyCarrot · 06/02/2021 18:25

So sorry for your loss, OP. Flowers

LazyDaisy22 · 06/02/2021 18:26

So sorry to hear this. Will be thinking of you all 💐

dottiedaisee · 06/02/2021 18:30

Am so sorry.My thoughts are with you all 💐X

Oneearringlost · 06/02/2021 18:34

The best thing you can do, in honour of his life, is to put your arms around your partner.
No words are needed sometimes.
And then find someone else to comfort you.
Flowers

SirVixofVixHall · 06/02/2021 18:41

So very sorry OP. Tragic news.

frumpety · 06/02/2021 18:45

Such a tragic situation, my heart goes out to you all Flowers

Rainbowsandstorms · 06/02/2021 18:52

I’m so very sorry Flowers

IloveJKRowling · 06/02/2021 18:54

@jinglybell - so very sorry to hear about your loss.

We lost a family member recently - closer to DH than me. I found just hugging him was better than talking, but of course everyone grieves differently. My friend died earlier this year and the thing I wanted to do more than anything else was talk about her.

I hope you, your DP and his family manage to find peace in time.

I think you are doing a good thing posting on here - hopefully it will help you to share here so you can be stronger for your DP but also I think people need to hear these stories.

I'm a bit fed up of all the people that seem to assume everyone under 50 will be ok so they can expose others to risk with a clear conscience - the fact people are asking your DPs brother's age shows that people are so wedded to the idea it just doesn't affect healthy people under 50 and it's just not true. I know several 20 somethings who've ended up in hospital - yes, they've been 'ok' (though still breathless and much more unhealthy than they were before) so don't appear in the statistics, but I know not a single person who's ever been hospitalised by flu in their 20s, 30s or 40s. It's a horrible, terrible disease.

HaHaVeryBunny · 06/02/2021 18:55

I'm so sorry to hear this.
Sending you and your family, love and strength Flowers

Lovemusic33 · 06/02/2021 18:57

So sorry for your loss, I think some people still find it hard to believe that younger people without underlying conditions are dying from covid. I heard of a 50 year old lady that died today, she went to hospital for something else and caught covid, she had no underlying conditions (other than what she went in for which would not have made much difference to covid), just so sad.

Ellie56 · 06/02/2021 19:01

It is scary how many people go into hospital without Covid and catch it while they are there. Sad

Tyranttoddler · 06/02/2021 19:02

So sorry to hear this sad news. Dreadful.

BejeweledCrocs · 06/02/2021 19:04

I'm very sorry, sending love to you and your family x

Abraxan · 06/02/2021 19:08

I'm so sorry for your loss.

46y is far far too young - and scary to think about too.

Wishing you and your family much strength to deal with this.

Squiffany · 06/02/2021 19:18

I’m so sorry OP. Flowers

Bereftmypoormum · 06/02/2021 19:21

I’m so sorry op, the shock must be unbearable. I recently lost my mum (70, well, active) multi organ failure following Covid pneumonitis. The damage it did to her lungs was so severe. It just seems to ‘go for’ some people. Big hugs to you.

Janus · 06/02/2021 19:21

God this is horrific, I’m so truly sorry for your family’s loss Jingly, take care Flowers

ajandjjmum · 06/02/2021 19:22

Awful - so sorry for you, your partner and the wider family - and everyone else affected by this awful disease.

Dorisdaydream2 · 06/02/2021 19:25

I’m so very sorry Flowers

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 06/02/2021 19:26

Oh, I'm so sorry.

Everything about that is just brutal.

IloveJKRowling · 06/02/2021 19:28

It may be too soon for this right now, but for later it may be useful to be aware of this organisation. They have lots of information that may help families on this page - including ways of linking up with other families who have lost loved ones to covid-19 and also specific help such as charities helping children.

www.covidfamiliesforjustice.org/information-for-families/