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Turning off ventilator

186 replies

jinglybell · 06/02/2021 06:31

Partners brother has been ventilated for 3 weeks now.

A little improvement but he got an infection a couple of days ago and everything has gone down hill.

They are removing the vent shortly to let him pass.

Gutted.

OP posts:
EileenGC · 06/02/2021 23:05

I'm so sorry OP. Praying for you and your family.

This virus is so cruel. A family friend passed away just before Christmas... He was 42 and had two primary school children. Fit, healthy, no underlying conditions, ran marathons and was always out and about helping people in the community.

Sending you lots of strength for the coming weeks Flowers

FrancisCross · 06/02/2021 23:06

So sorry x

oakleaffy · 06/02/2021 23:08

@jinglybell

The hospital are allowing 4 people to be with him so his wife and 2 children will be there as well as my partner. My heart is breaking for them. I donymt know how involved I'll be in what comes next but I'll do all I can to support them all. My partner is very calm, not showing any emotion while I'm sitting here in bits.
The numbness of Grief.
Shitfuckcommaetc · 06/02/2021 23:08

I'm so sorry for your loss @jinglybell

My mum is currently ventilated, she's 57.
Its so hard, and I don't think many people realise that the people critically ill and om vents aren't 80-90 year olds.

IthinkIm · 06/02/2021 23:16

I'm so sorry for your loss, and everyone else on here who has lost someone too.

It's too soon yet OP but winstonswish.co.uk are a charity who help children/teens cope with the death of a parent or sibling. When we needed them they were our guardian angels. Thanks

SaltedCaramelIcedLatte · 06/02/2021 23:19

So sorry you are all going through this Flowers

Hailtomyteeth · 06/02/2021 23:37

Very sorry Flowers

Mittens030869 · 06/02/2021 23:37

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. ThanksThanks

2021isalsorubbish · 06/02/2021 23:49

So sorry Thanks

daisydoodle11 · 06/02/2021 23:58

So sorry op Thanks

Mamanyt · 07/02/2021 00:20

I am so very, very sorry. My heart with you and with his family.

If there is a soul, and I am certain that there is, it has flown free now. It is no longer tethered to a failing body that cannot support it.

Fair winds and following seas, Dear Man. Fair winds and following seas.

Serin · 07/02/2021 08:38

Thinking of you and your family.

kirstyvw · 07/02/2021 08:45

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking. Flowers

IloveJKRowling · 07/02/2021 20:07

@jinglybell - was just thinking about you so thought I'd pop on to say I hope you and your DP and his family are as ok as it's possible to be. Keep hanging on in there. Flowers

wifterwafter · 07/02/2021 20:12

I'm so sorry to read this. Your post really brings home how awful this virus is xx

Original poster
jinglybell · 09/02/2021 22:01

Thank you all so much Flowers

It's been a difficult few days. Today we were told that the funeral will not be until 6th or 8th of April. He died on 6th Feb, it seems such a long time.

No pall bearers, maximum of 20 people and the funeral home won't dress him.

My heart breaks for all the families that have had to go through this.

OP posts:
Blessex · 09/02/2021 22:06

@jinglybell oh am so sorry. Please look after yourselves. Sending Flowers

IloveJKRowling · 09/02/2021 22:47

@jinglybell that seems very hard, it does seem a long wait. Very hard to go through.

I attended a beautiful funeral virtually in 2020 (because of limits on numbers allowed). It was really lovely and people put messages in a virtual remembrance book about where they were when they watched the funeral and remembered our loved one. Some went and watched it in a special spot that had some meaning. May be worth asking the funeral directors about a virtual option - it does mean a lot more people can attend - even though only virtually.

IloveJKRowling · 09/02/2021 22:48

And of course... sending Flowers - keep on hanging in there

MegaClutterSlut · 09/02/2021 23:20

So sorry op, just heartbreaking Flowers

RootyT00t · 09/02/2021 23:26

@lljkk I'm not going to quote you again so that OP has to keep reading it but perhaps you could keep your insensitive , awful curiousity til another time and place.

Emerald99 · 10/02/2021 00:07

So sorry op thinking of you and yours Flowers

YouokHun · 10/02/2021 00:14

@jinglybell I’m so sorry about your situation and about the funeral. I have been there too and it does make an already hard situation so much more difficult when you can’t have the send off you want to give your BiL and the send off you all need to have as a family. Wishing you and your family continued strength Flowers

And also wish others who have been through loss at this time much strength Flowers

Mamanyt · 10/02/2021 00:31

Oh, my Dear. I so know that feeling. I have lost so many good friends and relatives, since my "nearest and dearest" seem to, for the most part, work in heath care. My heart with yours.

MsTeapot · 10/02/2021 00:51

So sorry for your loss OP, sending you Flowers.