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🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

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ELM7 · 16/01/2021 18:53

On to thread 5 Ladies!

@Annny27
@Nuggetlover27
@27DONFIN
@Babyghirl

Please tag anyone I’ve missed from the old thread.

I’m currently enjoying my first glass of wine in about 10 weeks. Will happily give up alcohol for a baby but no baby I need alcohol 😂

Really hope that’s the start of a BFP for you @Babyghirl let us know when you test in the morning.

@Annny27 Sorry it looks like AF has arrived.

@Nuggetlover27 Fingers crossed for a positive FW

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Annny27 · 02/02/2021 09:47

I was 11.5 weeks but baby was only 6/7 weeks and I still had lots of clots and stuff :S but the nurse said that the sac had continued to grow whilst the baby hadn't so I guess I had placenta/ sac passing as clots @babyghirl

Babyghirl · 02/02/2021 10:09

@Annny27
When I miscarriaged the second time there was no clots not that I felt anyway, trying to get through to the epu to ask them what's normal for a 6 weeks miscarriage, x

SLCxxx · 02/02/2021 11:20

Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind me joining, been feeling very alone.

Firstly, I’m so sorry for all of your losses, and the current loss @Babyghirl, and all of the BFNs and AF since.

Congratulations to those who have their ongoing pregnancies!

I miscarried 6th jan @ 8+2, my scan that morning baby measured 6weeks, I passed it that evening following painful cramps. I didn’t have any clots but had the placental tissue come out. I stopped bleeding after 6 days and then started to bleed again 6 days later, EPAU scan confirmed all was gone. I have never ever felt so shit and down and alone. Started blaming the small amount of caffeine I was still drinking, or that my MIL bought us a baby bath 🤦🏼‍♀️ Completely mad I know.

The only way I could feel more positive was concentrating on conceiving again so started the every other day method and I spent a fortune on ovulation kits and tracked twice a day and got my positives on Sunday, so DTD, and again yesterday which would be my supposed ovulation day... now at 1DPO I just feel lost.. nothing to do but wait. Decided to see if there were others people out there also playing the waiting game and came across this thread which felt more fitting to me as I’m not just ttc, I’m ttc following a mc.

Can I ask a question? Sorry if it’s TMI.
You ladies mention EWCM, what does that mean? On Friday last week when I wiped my discharge was clear and stretchy (like a lump of goo), google said DTD, but on sat morning clear blue said not fertile 🤔 I didn’t see anymore of that discharge after that one occasion. My LH peak was Sunday evening but by then my discharge was more watery 🤷🏼‍♀️. Do you ladies go by when you have the clear stretchy CM for fertility?

Thank you

Sarah x

Babyghirl · 02/02/2021 11:30

@slcxxx
So sorry for you finding urself on this thread and your loss, its been a great support to me through my tough days you can vent and scream and ask anything you like and never get judged. Ewcm is egg white cervical mucus it's resembles egg white that's the stuff u get around ovulation or it will be watery for some people don't be to tough on urself while trying to conceive again as it will take over ur every day life glad you found us and good luck xx

27DONFIN · 02/02/2021 12:19

Just catching up ladies

@Babyghirl I’m so sorry 💚 I can understand you not wanting to try until you have spoken to someone about it. Sometimes a break even just helps your mental health as we all know it’s not easy going through this.

No tracking no ovulation tests for us this cycle and so far it’s working for me not anxious or stressed by it all. Also enjoying dtd it had become a total chore the last 6 months was just a tick box exercise

Babyghirl · 02/02/2021 12:30

@27DONFIN
Thank you feeling quite down today think it's just with the blood loss and that has me drained, but wanting answers nw as it's just nt bad luck there has to be something there that's causing the losses. Good on u nt tracking or anything girl the relax approach is the best approach good luck this month 🍀💚

chali7 · 02/02/2021 14:22

How are you feeling @Babyghirl? Did you get hold of the EPU?

Welcome @SLCxxx sorry you find yourself here - I find this thread so supportive and hope it helps you too xx

SLCxxx · 02/02/2021 14:32

Thank you @chali7 and @Babyghirl x

Babyghirl · 02/02/2021 14:33

@chali7
Got hold of them this morning but I'm OK cause I'm nt filling a pad every 15 mins but bleeding nt as bad nw and I'm just passing black stringy clots nw so hoping that's it all moving along xx

SLCxxx · 03/02/2021 10:11

Ladies, have any of you ever felt ovulation pains? If so what do they feel like? My tummy’s cramping like mad and hoping I don’t start bleeding again for the 3rd time 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Babyghirl how you feeling today?x

Annny27 · 03/02/2021 10:16

@SLCxxx I have noticed that I get a slighy cramp on one side for about a day - nothing too painful at all!

@Babyghirl what have the epu said about what to expect?

@27donfin me too! I haven't done an opk since early December! Feels liberating haha

Babyghirl · 03/02/2021 12:37

@slcxxx
I get one sided pain now and again around ovulation can happen before during or after egg is realised. X
@Annny27
Just that I will have to pass the sac and that thought bleeding was easing off but its picking up again so still clearing out xx

Nuggetlover27 · 03/02/2021 18:09

Hey ladies
Hope everyone is well

How are you doing @Babyghirl ?

Thank you @chali7 💕

Sorry for your loss @SLCxxx 💐 I also get cramps around ovulation. Not usually too painful though but sometimes can be. Mine are usually just on one side.

@Annny27 are you in TWW now? If so my fingers are crossed for you!

Babyghirl · 03/02/2021 18:51

@nuggetlover27
I'm OK not feeling to good health ways drained and no energy but that's with the blood loss so to be expected but oh just away to work so I'm just tidying up then going to take to my bed and catch up on my soaps, where r u in the cycle xx

Nuggetlover27 · 04/02/2021 11:40

Glad you are feeling a bit better @Babyghirl Keep resting up and look after yourself and hopefully your health will also start to get better 💐 I'm currently 11DPO. Expecting AF today or tomorrow but hoping so hard she doesn't arrive!

Babyghirl · 04/02/2021 12:18

@nuggetlover27
Still waiting to pass the sac and things hoping it nt much longer as the bleeding is draining me been like this from Monday nite nt bleeding loads on the pad that's just a heavy period type blooding just more in the toilet when I go to the toilet if you knw what I mean, hope the witch stays away for u and this is ur month xx

Fizzl · 04/02/2021 20:03

@Annny27 i want to tell you guys but just wondering if anyone recognises me on here and I'll give it away?! I'm sure not...
were rubbish at keeping secrets too so the cat will be out the bag soon I'm sure!

@Babyghirl I'm so sorry you're going through this again 😔 it's so unfair!

@Nuggetlover27 thank you 💐 it's so hard when you're on the other side - I was always so happy for everyone but also really sad it wasn't me at the same time. If I had a crystal ball and could have seen this time last year where I'd be now it would have been so much easier. Sending you lots of positive thoughts 💐

Hope you are all keeping well - I'm really hoping you all get your rainbows now. You're all coping so well and you deserve this to be your time now 🌈

Babyghirl · 04/02/2021 20:14

@fizzl
Im hoping 5th time lucky nw lol, but nt trying no more to I get answers 4 times is enough for anybody to go through this just hoping it's nearly over I'm drained with all the blood loss. So glad to hear your doing well and your we rainbow will be with u soon enough xx

Babyghirl · 05/02/2021 19:05

Well bleeding slowed right down its now the brown blood thank god passed two clots yesterday and straight after it slowed down so hoping that's the end off it now and I can try and build my strength back up again.
How's everyone doing in there cycle. ❤️

chali7 · 05/02/2021 19:37

Pleased to hear this is coming to an end for you @Babyghirl and really sorry this has happened.
I've had alot of cramping today. I'm extremely nervous Sad
How is everyone? Xx

Babyghirl · 05/02/2021 20:26

@chali7
Fingers crossed its just bean getting cosy for the nxt load off months. How far along r u now xx

chali7 · 05/02/2021 20:52

Thank you @Babyghirl I am 5 weeks now, our local EPU are seeing me next week for a scan just to check its not ectopic again, which I'm relived about because thats my concern, that it'll happen again. Have you been taking time to rest up? Xx

Babyghirl · 05/02/2021 21:06

@chali7
Sort off lol I'm ocd so like to be up doing things can't sit for to long, the oh shouts at me but knows to well wat I'm like 😂😂😂😂 I spend the days I was bleeding up keeping busy cause I think it moves things along quicker than lying abot, just hoping an app comes through for the fertility clinic soon and I have everything crossed for you xx

chali7 · 05/02/2021 21:11

Haha I know what you mean, I'm exactly the same. Although this week I have tried to slow down a little. I hope your app comes through soon! How long have you been waiting for an appointment? Xx

Babyghirl · 07/02/2021 11:02

Well bleeding picked right bck up again so obviously not over yet girls. I rolled abot the bed last nite in agony must off been my urters squeezing to try to expel everything, just want it to be over nw tbh was due to go bck to work tomara cause I thought it was all over but going to have to take another few days off can't risk going in and blood run out off me 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈. Xx