Ttc at 40 something!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

Hi there , yes , I think I have hyper fertility too . I get pregnant every couple of months but have had 4 mc in a year . I’ve decided to do ivf with pgs to try and weed out the bad ones as I think I have a lot and this is only way I can think to de risk any future pregnancy ( can’t go through another mc )
I was on every drug going in this pregnancy as went to a top private fertility clinic but it didn’t work because I think it was a chromosome issue again ( awaiting test results) and they covered the bases of everything else that could have caused it. Unfortunately like 80 % eggs are poor at our age

Hello all, how are you? I have finally stopped bleeding (mostly). It is now exactly two weeks since my D&C. Do you reckon I should be trying again? Does anyone know when I might be likely to ovulate?

I ovulated two weeks after my bleeding stopped after first mc (used opks ) and got pg but cp . I treated my miscarriage bleed like a period and put the dates in an app to approximate when I might ovulate and get a period . Obviously it can be delayed though . They say a period can be 4-6 weeks after .
Was this your first mc @Anxiousbuthopeful?

I’ve had a chemical pregnancy before, but this was my first d&c

Just asking as was going to suggest if you had multiple mcs like me - looking at ivf with pgs or something ( on the chance like me it’s likely larger number of abnormal eggs ) however , you haven’t so good idea to keep going naturally . Was your last pg ivf ? I can’t remember xx

Yes, it was. I haven’t done so well at conceiving naturally. When do you think you might try again? How are you feeling?

Last week I was rough physically- struggled to do a no 2 ! But feel a lot better this week physically . However , been struggling to sleep - insomnia / nightmares etc . I think it’s a form of PTSD after 3 mmc so close - over one year . Actually looking at ivf when I get my period but doing pgs too . I’m pretty sure my mmc are all chromosome issues ( although await results of last one ) they just were similar - ending 8-9 weeks . This last one I was very monitored and had everything possible drug wise and it still failed . I don’t want to face anymore mcs so will only try if I know the embryo has no issues . I could do with 6 months off to be honest but none of us on here have time on our side ! That’s also why I don’t want to try naturally too , it took 5 months last time to conceive . Will you try naturally for a bit then try ivf again ? X

Hello everyone! Hi @Sunshinelove8 - how is it all going? I am not sure what’s going on with me. Still no period post MMC and my hcg is slightly positive, most likely from the failed pregnancy but I’ve a glimmer of hope that it might be a rainbow...

Hi hun , I got my AF yesterday is very heavy and feel zapped of energy ! It can take 4-6 weeks , so mine was about 4. If you have hcg in your system it will delay AF. Have you taken any pregnancy tests to see lines /darkening ? It would be wonderful to be a rainbow . I’m not trying naturally anymore as I can fall pregnant but not carry past 8 weeks so having more tests and then ivf with pgs in a month x

Hi there @Anxiousbuthopeful - no rainbow as hcg levels are falling (but still not zero). Pants, I was unreasonably hoping it might be and feeling a bit miserable now. I think I will also try IVF again as soon as I can, we might be cycling together (give or take a few days). Am considering back to back cycles of embryo freezing (possibly + pgs) to try to make hay while there is still some sun left...

Hey hun I’m sorry to hear that 😞 where are you going to do ivf ? X

My last attempt was in Belgium with a guy who is meant to be very good (Dr Platteau). I think I might do my next cycle with him too given there is supposed to be some sort of learning process. I am also looking at Spain though (Barcelona IVF and Clinica IVI). How about you?

I forgot to say - going abroad because I live in Italy and Italy doesn’t have a great track record with IVF plus lots of restrictions...

Ah yes makes sense , I live in London and flying around at the moment with covid is a bit risky so staying with clinics here . I’ll be trying pgs too . Will you be doing any banking eggs schemes ? I’m worried at our age ( I’ve also got low amh) that ivf won’t retrieve much on a one try basis x

Hi everyone, I've not been on for a while, tried having a social media break.
How are you all?
I'm still here but not tried to conceive for the last few months. Tbh after 3 concurrent losses I'm doubting it will happen and I think my partner is hesitant now.
Hope some of you have had some positives if not fingers crossed we get some on the page soon x

Hello! I was thinking about you @Mumof4andahalf. How are you? I know, I am also worried that my time may have come and gone. But don’t quite feel I can give up yet. @Sunshinelove8 - got 8 eggs last time (4 fertilized) which was more than expected. But I would like to try egg banking because I fear that I may have more miscarriages and that means say 4-5 months between attempts, so max 2-3 a year..

@Anxiousbuthopeful I'm not ready to give up completely but definitely feel less hopeful now. Hope you are ok x

Good luck all you forty somethings. I had my first baby at 41 and my second at 43. No problems apart from pre-eclampsia and a c-section with the first, but right at the end so she was full term. I got pregnant easily each time. My v close friend had her two at the same age.
My friend’s mum was 46 having her, an unexpected baby, her brother is 20 years older !

Is this strictly over 40's? I'm 35 but feel a bit old and out of place on the other threads. I'm also suffering secondary infertility. x

I am also a bit glum at the moment but nothing I can do but press on. Thanks for the inspiration @SirVixofVixHall! And nice to meet you, @Sadie406.

@Anxiousbuthopeful Thank you! Sending virtual hugs. Here if you need to talk.

Thank you! So i went today to see if I could start IVF this cycle and not looking so good. Only 4 follicles, of which one already dominant. Think we might wait this one out, although I am not sure whether next cycle will be looking much better...

Update - and apologies for hogging the stage here. Doctor suggests going ahead anyway on the basis that time is of the essence and why should the next one be better. I have started the first injection now. Such low hopes. Don’t understand why this is looking so much worse than my last cycle, it was only 4 months ago!

@Anxiousbuthopeful how are you getting on? X

Am in mid IVF cycle, scan next Saturday to see what’s happening. How about you @Sunshinelove8? I am also debating PGS, have heard conflicting reports of how reliable/safe it is and was wondering what your take was...