Ttc at 40 something!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

[LimpLettice]

I can offer some positivity if you like, ladies?

I have a ten year old from a previous relationship but started trying at 39 with my DH. We unfortunately suffered 3 losses (early ones) over a year, and as I went into my 40's just thought maybe it was never going to be.

Fell pregnant in Vegas at 41, but sadly m/c at 7 weeks. 3 weeks later got exceedingly drunk on one glass of wine and thought wtf, I'll test. Bfp - who is now 16 months old and perfect.

Early December, I woke up 2 mornings in a row with a bit of nausea and took and old test that was hanging around. Now I'm 14 weeks, with this one arriving a month before I turn 43 if all goes well. Not trying either.

Fingers crossed for you all. It can and does happen!

[bitheby]

Thank you @LimpLettice and congratulations!

I really needed to read a good news story.

[LimpLettice]

I understand @bitheby. I felt like all I ever heard was stories about fertility dropping off a cliff at 35/38/40, eggs and linings being rubbish, doom and endless gloom. Actually it was my dear old dad who reminded me that his mums generation routinely had surprise babies in their 40's. Anyway it is undeniably harder, but it's far from rare. And positive thought is good for the soul if not for the ovaries

[PMB123]

Hello Everyone! 44 here and just tried again...we have 2 kids at home, 9 and 11. We put off another one for so long due to things just getting in the way, money, etc. Finally decided to give it a go again 2 years ago and sadly miscarried around 10 weeks or so. No one really talks about the physical pain and grief you go through (even at that early stage). Anyway, I didn't want to go through that again, so stopped trying...until last month when I was feeling exceptionally broody...Husband is all in, and would love another. Anyway, AF is late, and had loads of symptoms and one faint positive...however, negative bloods on Monday, and symptoms are seeming to taper off. Very light spotting and mild cramping yesterday so am expecting AF/miscarriage any day...of course, until it shows, I can't help thinking of the 1% chance I still might be preg, but I refuse to take another test at this point....not sure if we'll try again next month- it takes such an emotional toll! (sorry this was long!)- I just can't really talk about it with anyone except my husband right now, and he doesn't fully get what I'm going through.

[Timeforanamechangeagain1]

Hello everyone, throwing my hat into the ring. I turned 40 a few weeks ago, unfortunately I had an early MC/ chemical at 5.5 weeks in November and 8 weeks in early Jan. I had fallen immediately pregnant after the first miscarriage, but obviously it wasn't meant to be. Had to have a d&c the second time and still recovering so not sure when we'll be able to try again but hopefully next month. My grandma had my mum when she was 42 so am trying to stay optimistic! I have a two year old and would love another

[Timeforanamechangeagain1]

Ps am also fed up of being told I am too old! Took two years to conceive DD and it turned out later I hadn't known I had endometriosis. I couldn't get pregnant at all when I was younger so I'm doing the best I can now

[Mumof4andahalf]

Lovely to hear some positive stories 💕 sorry for everyone's losses though, as much as it's heartbreaking I keep thinking at least I can still get pregnant

[Ameliel]

Hi all, just wanted to tell you my story to give you some hope! I had my precious LO last November, at 43! We Ttc'd for about a year when I was 41 but it didn't happen, so I gave up and just decided to get on with my life...and then this little miracle happened, total surprise! So yes it can happen past 40 - perhaps my relaxed attitude / not trying helped, I wasn't following any special diets or anything else..sorry for all your losses and Good Luck, don't lose hope but try not to get too obsessed! X

[BooseysMom]

@Ameliel ..i remember you from the 40+ ttc thread! Your story is very similar to mine. I had DS at 41. I had given up hope and then out of the blue there was DS! Didn't even realise until 3 months into the pregnancy!
Lovely to hear all going well x

[PMB123]

Hi again everyone- My late AF/early miscarriage arrived today- so I can stop the "am I? aren't I?" thoughts and get on with it. Just came across an old classmate on facebook today- she's preg at 44 and will give birth at 45! Just what I needed to see, truly- it gives me hope. I've decided to give it another try! Starting my 4WW today ;)

[Mumof4andahalf]

@PMB123 so sorry you didn't get you're BFP this month

[Chickoletta]

Hi everyone. So pleased to have found this thread. I'm 40 and DH is about to turn 40 next week. We have 2 amazing children, DS9 and DD6 - we really thought we were done but recently decided that we'd both love another. This is our 4th cycle of TTC and I'm trying hard not to obsess! Both of my previous babies were conceived on our second cycle of trying, so already taking longer, but I know we've been really lucky.

I know that the chances of conceiving are lower and I know that the risks are higher but I also know of lots of friends and acquaintances who've had their perfect babies in their forties so I'm going for it.

Good luck everyone - look forward to seeing good news soon.

[PMB123]

Thanks @Mumof4andahalf. Honestly, we only half-seriously decided to try last month after a few years of not thinking about it...so that I got that faint positive was in itself good news...but the emotional rollercoaster sucked. Hoping for a good egg next month! Tonight though:

[PMB123]

And welcome @Chickoletta! I'm a little older than you, and my kids are a little older at DS11 and DD9...I wish we hadn't waited this long, but so it is...we finally feel ready financially, etc...so figured we had better get at it. But I always really wanted 3, so fingers crossed. Figure we'll give it a few months and see how it goes. Good luck to you!!!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Welcome @Chickoletta

[mazdaz25]

Hello! Can I join you all on your ttc journey?
I will be 42 in April, already have a DS 8 and a DD 5.
Had a surprise pregnancy which ended with a MMC just after my 40th birthday. Which left me a bit confused!!
Thought I had settled with just having the two children but having given it serious thought we have decided it's now or never!!!
Started pre-conceive vitamins, Co enzyme 10 and Omega 3 & have my OPK at the ready!
Good luck to you all!

[Chickoletta]

Well, we’ve done everything we could have done this cycle I think so now it’s just fingers crossed and wait and see. AF due 28th Feb - anyone else around then?

[Mumof4andahalf]

@Chickoletta I'm 6 dpo at the moment but my cycle is completely out this month, ovulated 3/4 days later than expected

[Mumof4andahalf]

Welcome to the thread @mazdaz25

[Timeforanamechangeagain1]

I'm definitely out this month as I am waiting to recover from a blood clot in my womb and a result of my recent miscarriage (consultant is confident it will flush out with my next period) but I am as sure as I can be that I ovulated on Sunday which is massively reassuring because I was so worried the two miscarriages close together and the d and c would have sort of broken me and I'd never get back to normal so hopefully on a few more weeks

[claire7930]

Hello ladies! I've just turned 41 & started TTC for #2 this month. Trying to get my head around what we should be doing as we were very fortunate to fall pregnant first time with #1 when I was 38.

We have some genetic complications in the family which means I'll need to have full CVS testing at 12 weeks if we do get lucky & get a BFP, which means we've sort of set ourselves a six months window to just see what happens... good luck to you all!

[Mintjulia]

Good luck all. I had ds at 45 as a late surprise, and I wasn’t the oldest mum in his year at school.

[mommybear1]

Hello ladies 👋🏻 I'm 41, 42 in July I had my first DS after two failed ivfs (unexplained infertility) I conceived naturally, conceived at38 and born at 39. We've been trying to conceive #2 pretty much since DS arrival given my age DH is younger than me at 35. No luck so far, I just wondered what if any supplements anyone is taking to assist? Good luck all here's hoping for some BFPs

[Mumof4andahalf]

So many positive stories to give us all hope 💕
How many of you test ridiculously often? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[Timeforanamechangeagain1]

@mommybear1 I'd get the book 'it starts with the egg' to read up about supplements but coq10 ubiquinol, good quality multi vit (with methylfolate not just folic acid) and vitamin d are where I would start. We are very similar in our timings by the way, have you had any tests/ultrasounds etc? It turned out I had endometriosis which is why it took so long to conceive DD