Ttc at 40 something!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

@awbaby the spotting has turned red so looks like it's over for me x

@Mumof4andahalf so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself 💛

@Mumof4andahalf my bf had bleeding and ended up rushing to hospital , she bled throughout the first trimester but she’s fine now. I hope you are just experiencing this . Big hugs x

@Sunshinelove8 it's been an odd 2 days. The bleeding stopped overnight so I went to work as normal, it started again with back ache and mild cramps but not enough to soak a pad. I really expected it to get worse by now but still not much. I'm being seen by the epu at 11.30 so will know today exactly what's happening x

How stressful. I feel for you. Meanwhile, over for me this month. Planning to try IVF next month, with poor prospects...

@Anxiousbuthopeful I'm so sorry. Don't give up hope though. You hear so many stories of people falling naturally while waiting for the first round of ivf. I think sometimes it happens when you least expect it xx

Thank you @Mumof4andahalf. I hope it goes well for you today. X

@Anxiousbuthopeful Thankyou xx

Good luck today @Mumof4andahalf, I really hope everything turns out okay for you xx
@Anxiousbuthopeful i start my ivf next month too , hard times , but we Got to keep going and trying x

@Sunshinelove8 Thankyou. Keep us updated on your ivf journey xx

Morning guys, hope you dint mind me joining in. I'm 40 in sept and we have just decided to try for another. We have 2 already, youngest is nearly 10. I have a herniated disc and that put us off for yrs, but I'm mad broody now. Think because of the age and it been a now or never scenario. So DH has been very supportive.
We were using any contraceptive so hopefully that stands to us. According to apps my ov day is tomorrow (we will be 14yrs together) so we have been DTD daily this last few days. No sign of a mucus or that really. I never paided that much attention before but have felt the ov twinge. My cycle is generally spot on to the day. So fingers crossed. We had no issues conceiving before but the age thing def worries me.
Anyway wishing you all the best and hope to see plenty BFP posts.

Sorry to hear you're bleeding @mumoffour I had my DD when I was 40 and I bled heavily from about 5 weeks until 18w. Was admitted into hospital at 16w because I lost so much blood. I hope things go well for you at the EPU.

I would like to join this thread if that's okay? I'm 42 and trying. Got a faint positive last month but think it was a chemical. I have been depressingly reading a thread that lists all the reasons why people in their 40s shouldn't have children which I've found pretty miserable to read. Currently in my fertile week and hoping this month is our month.

Just back from epu. Scan showed a gestational sac and slightly large yolk sac but no baby. They dated the pregnancy at 5 weeks but I had a positive test over 5 weeks ago 😭

I am so so sorry to hear that.

Really sorry @Mumof4andahalf thinking of you x

I’m so sorry @Mumof4andahalf I’ve had 2 mmc and gone weeks feeling everything is fine (also seeing heartbeats) when everything was over weeks before - it’s truly heartbreaking. It really is so cruel. You’ll feel in shock today and overwhelmed , sending you all my love .
Have they told you what will happen next ? xxx

The reason I ask is having been through it I can hopefully give some advice x

@Sunshinelove8 sorry for your loss 💜 I had an embryonic pregnancy last year followed by a miscarriage so i know what to expect this time round. They want me to return for another scan in a fortnight to check for progress or miscarriage xx

I find it so hard they make you wait for a follow up scan , I just wanted to move forward . I took the d&c route both times in the end . I hope you have your dh/dp there to give you lots of hugs xx

@Mumof4andahalf so sorry for your loss. So hard to hear what has happened, hope you're OK. Xx

@Sunshinelove8 I honestly think a blighted ovum/embryonic is so cruel, I threw up this morning as normal yet there's nothing there!
@awbaby Thankyou I'm ok x

Hi all I’m 41, had my DD last year at 40.
In the October before I had a miscarriage and I’ve just had another last week. Had an Mva which wasn’t great as you can’t have GA at the moment so had to have it done under local.
We hope to start try again next month

Morning all. Is it possible to have very little or no mucus during over and still get pregnant?
This is our 1st cycle ttc, would it be due to DTD too much?
I had a little mucus 2&3 days ago. Not alot.
Tim sorry, I would be very wet during sex, would this cause less mucus?
Can't find much info about it.
Def think I felt the twinge tho

* TMI not tim 🙈

I'm not holding out much hope, day 18 of cycle and hardly any discharge or mucus. I've felt the twinge tho (well think its that) I read the DTD too much can cause that you to be dryer? See what happens. It's our 1st cycle, will try ov test strips next month.
I dont think we missed the opportunity, I'm just not sure if I ovulated 😥