TTC First Month

[kjhh]

Hi all! I’m new to this app - my husband and I have been married for a year now (I’m 22 and he’s 24) and we’re in the process of buying our first house. We’re so ready to have children - my body is telling me constantly that it wants Kids, I know I sound crazy lol but I want nothing more than to have them. I stopped taking the pill in August and had my first period on the 8th October - this is our first month TTC. Everyone we speak to is telling us that we’re too young and aren’t ready (which really infuriates me!) but it means we can’t speak to anyone about it.... so I thought maybe I’d post on here and see if anyone is in the same boat? I’m currently on the 1ww but I just don’t think it’s going to happen this month... I’ve been taking folic acid everyday but never knew until TTC that it can be a really long process!

Is anyone in the same boat/have any tips? Sorry for the long paragraph!! X

Hi guys, been reading this thread, it's interesting everyone's opinion on when is the "right time/age" isn't it. I'm 29 DH is 34 and we were the drunk friends lol. Been together 8 years but spent the first 5 or so being very social, out every weekend, lots of group/drunken holidays and weekends away etc. We then got married and have spent the last few years saving hard to get ourselves in a comfortable position financially and although part of me wishes we hadn't put off having kids so long i would say it's only now i feel ready. Some of you have said you're getting comments about being too young i feel i'm getting digs about needing to hurry up I've lost and gained friends over the years, I feel like i drifted away from some friends because we were at different life stages but your true friends you always pick up again. I don't think there's a right or wrong time or age it just depends what's important to you and how you feel, only you know when you're ready.

@Merrz snap! I am totally the same as you... I am 30 and my partner is 31. I’m happy to say we’ve done it all, we are ready for our baby and I am happy to spend all my time with my baby. That’s not to say somebody who is 10 years younger than me is any different. Each to their own I say. As long as your happy and feel ready that’s the main thing. Good luck on your baby quest. Xx

Cycle day 40 and nothing to report! Raging doesn't even begin to cover it. I had 2 McDonald's today. TWO!!! I went for lunch (service station, long drive back from morning meeting and caved) and text DH while I was there, he then wanted one and craved it all day so we couldn't be bothered to make dinner and I went with him saying I wouldn't get anything and then got a Big Mac. Might not have a BFP yet but definitely have a food baby 😂

I need to calm the f down - I think I'd be fine if it was just a BFN and then AF came and we could try again but it's knowing nothing is happening that's making me angry 😡

@PickettBowtruckles Is this your 1st cycle off contraception? It's soo frustrating isn't it, my 1st cycle after my withdrawl bleed was ages then gradually cycle days have come down with every cycle

@Merrz It is yeah, I had my withdrawal bleed at the beginning of October after coming off contraception and then nothing at all since. Had a few period pains here and there but nothing's actually happening. How long did it take yours to settle down?

@PickettBowTruckles
My last cycle was my first off the pill I felt every hormone symptom under the sun! Came off pill 21st Sep, had withdrawal bleed 23rd-26th then my period came on the 23/24th Oct (around 31-33 day month)
On cycle 2 now and in my tww.
Hoping your cycle comes back just as quick :)

@PickettBowtruckles this is my second one now after having my implant out - be prepared lol, my first one was ‘normal’ (the worst period I’ve ever had in my life) and now this one is the complete opposite; light, no pain, no symptoms and this is the longest month I’ve ever had too! Wish I never went on BC now 😂😂😂

My 4th cycle off the pill was 30 days and they have stayed around that since, so i'd say 4/5 months to get back to normal. Wish i'd come off the pill sooner

Is anyone having any joy?

Still waiting for AF over here @NelleB Currently on day 45 so hoping it'll be soon! How about you?

Oh god really?! Have you tested? (That’s probably a silly question to ask) I have 7 days until my ovulation window begins... it’s annoying me the wait in between trying, AF, trying x

Tested so many times DH has banned me as it's an expensive habit 😂 Going to book a GP appointment if AF doesn't show up in the next week. Ahh the waiting around is the worse bit!

@PickettBowtruckles omg! Have you got any symptoms or anything at all? Go to the doctors!!

@NelleB irritating wait but at least the trying is fun ;) x

Hi ladies! Any updates? X

Nothing my end :( Booked a doctors appointment for next week though so hopefully they'll be able to help! How about you @kjhh ?

@PickettBowtruckles hopefully the doctors can find out what’s going on!

I’ve lost my job 😩 so currently on the hunt for a new one, worried the house is going to fall through so we have to stop trying for one now which is heartbreaking 😭 x

Oh no @kjhh that's not good :( What happened with the job? I've got everything crossed for you that you'll find another soon so you can keep trying!

@PickettBowtruckles I was sacked for something stupid a couple of months ago and then challenged it as I genuinely didn’t think I should be sacked for it - in the meantime I had the job offer of my dreams come through, but I’m scared that my old employer (who have just got back to me today saying I’m not getting my job back) will tell them and they remove the offer... then I’m screwed!!

That's pants @kjhh but no reason you can't still get the dream job! I'm sure they're not allowed to give negative references. Keep your head up!

I never thought I'd celebrate not being pregnant so much but AF has arrived!!!! Could've cried. Called DH to share the good news while I was still sat on the toilet 🙈 Cycle day 52 but we're there! I have a docs appointment Thursday which I still might go to in order to discuss it with the GP but unsure if they'll laugh me out the door?!

Anyway feel a whole sense of relief now AF is finally here.

Everyone seems to have an opinion and it gets even worse when you actually have a child and then they think they can tell you what to do. I had the opposite problem to you - I had relatives wondering why we didn't have children sooner (I was 29 and my husband was 27), and I've been getting pressure for a while now to have another child. I just ignore it!

@PickettBowtruckles oh I am so pleased for you!! I seem to have lost momentum, I think it's due to my horrid bout of flu.

@PickettBowtruckles I’m gonna take it there and say congrats 😂 at least you know where you are monthly now!! Doctors are just stupid 😂😩 they just hush everyone out.. I’d definitely say maybe see them, but I reckon they’ll ask you to track this month and see how many days this one is?

@NelleB snap, this weather is really testing me!

@kjhh it's my ovulation week as well. God hates me 😂. Snotty, coughing and aching is hardly attractive!

@kjhh thanks - I feel like it's celebratory too so I'll take the congrats 😂 Yeah I think I'll still take the doctors appointment as at least it'll be on record I've been if it doesn't sort itself out!

@NelleB we've both been hit by a nasty cold too at the moment so I'm feeling you! Fingers crossed to a healthier December for us all!

Think I'm going to get some OPK's this month, haven't used them before but want to know what's going on and if or when I'm ovulating during the cycle!