Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

I thought af should of been coming today I've had quite a lot of cramps. Dp decided last week he didn't want another. Now what how do i tell him. I'm so happy but so scared what if it doesn't stick what will my dp say. Will he try and make me get rid of it?

Wow *fluffiny
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First of all congratulations. How do you feel about it?

I really hope your DH responds well but it might take him time to come round to the idea. Tell him sooner rather than later or you will worry.

Fx for you and again congratulations!!

Petrified claire I've had cramps on and off all day. It was a fluke to as i thought i ov on sun but must of been the tues exactly 2 weeks today but like my last pregnancy symptoms are minimal where as with my dd i had it all really early. And as for dp i think he'll go mad. He's not home from work till tomo and don't fancy telling him over the phone either will i get monitored any different does anyone know my pregnancies are already high risk because of my dd but only had one mmc so far. Please let it stick. This could be my last chance.

keepon, I definitely know that frustration! DH works shifts which can play havoc with TTC. I tell him to just do it when he comes in, even if I'm half asleep . He says he feels like I just use him as a stud at times - he is correct .

AGnu, keeping fx for you.

fluff, congratulations! Hope DP is happy too. If not, I'm sure he'll come round. Whatever happens, he can't make you get rid of it .

Got my GP appointment tomorrow, wish me luck. Needless to say, still bleeding....

Congrats fluffy. Best tell him soon. And it takes two to tango or whatever so hopefully he acknowledges that quickly and can be supportive for you.
Not sure on extra monitoring. As there is so little they can do to make them stick, I think they generally do very little until 12wks.
Def try and get a reassurance scan at your epu if you can? They told me next time to come to them at 8.5wks.

Best of luck Agnu
Today you are pregnant. Just take it one day at a time. Congratulations.

Sorry Agnu just read your post again. Sorry I thought you had already tested. Best of luck with it.

agnu i think my dp will be hoping it doesn't stick when I tell him tomo i really want to tell him tonight but can't do it by phone. Thanks guys. It's the cramping that's worrying me miami that's not normal is it?
sock hope everything goes well tomo and let us know how you get on.

fluff congratulations on the bfp! Mild cramps (at least mild for me) around the time AF was due were my early pg symptom last time (until the start of week 5, when my boobs suddenly got sore and ballooned.) It's a head melt that so many of the symptoms of AF are also symptoms of PG, why does our body do this?!?! Good luck with the conversation today.

AGnu I wouldn't worry or second-guess him. Men generally say what they mean so if he says he'll be happy if it happens by chance, he means it :) When are you going to test?

Moring all, anyone joining me for some early yoga? Ommmm...

Massive congrats fluff don't be worried perhaps this is meant to be and like others have said It does take two to tango!

I took a cheapie test today and got a negative so not sure what was is going on. AF has still not arrived in full force, I'm thinking I have confused my spotting for AF. It's my first after erpc so not sure what to expect? Anyone else had a really light AF after erpc? X

Congratulations fluff, excellent news to start the day

Thanks wlmcl dreading the talk. I'm hoping he wakes up before i go out. Thanks user thats really confusing isn't it. How many dpo are you? My surgery was 5 weeks ago so I'm one week behind my normal. That was definitely a positive test you had.

Wlmcl not sure about yoga. But it might do me some good. Thanks sock not sure my dp will agree with you.

Congrats fluff! I hope the chat with DP goes better than you're expecting.

WLMcI I'll pass on the yoga thanks but I have managed to drag myself on a run this morning.

I'm about 15 dpo. I'm tempted to book a Dr's app to see what's going on. I'm worried if it's leftover from the MMC. I'm 4 weeks post surgery...do you think it's too soon?

When did you have Spotting. And did you get a negative before the positive. Your test the other day was positive thats a definite maybe ring your docs go see if they can do bloods from what others have said if its retained products think you bleed more on and off. It might be worth testing in a couple of days. What test did you use this time?

Also user the Spotting could of been implantation bleeding.

I have rang the doctors and managed to get an appt tonight so see what they say.

I had spotting over the weekend, felt a bit eugh so tested Sunday with a FR and got the positive I posted on here.
Used a CB digital on Monday and that came up not pregnant.
Had more spotting yesterday, thought it was start of AF but nothing came of it. Tested again this morning and it's negative.

When I write it down I sound like a crazy lady with all the testing!!!

User not at all. If you didn't test you wouldn't know what's going on. Let us know how you get on.
Well told dp he didn't go mad but did say he's going to get the snip as i catch to easy. So this is my last hope of having my second baby. As i know he will not change his mind at all now. I'm so scared. I hope it sticks.

Hi girls

Congrats fluff hope it goes ok today.

I am CD29 not sure DPO vause I don't know when I ovulated lol. But app says 5 days to af but I have lower cramping so think she's on her way😠

Good luck with the appt user hope you can find out what's happening!

Hope it sticks this time fluffy. It's so hard when you want another but your DP isn't on board.

I don't have any plans to test yet. AF is due on Saturday so if I get as far as Monday I may test then but I can see myself getting to 6+ weeks & still being too scared to POAS! I'm feeling less nauseated today but I'm breathless weird response I've had to hormones before & a bit crampy, maybe... I did go to the GP before Christmas with unexplained cramps that she thought was just stress so it's plausible the stress of this has brought it on again... I'm feeling pretty pessimistic though.

Wow fluff! That's so exciting. I'm sure your DH will come round. Fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy.

I'm cd 24 today, but only 3dpo as ovulated late after my mc. Will test on 18 march probably but not sure we had enough sex so not holding out too much hope. I did have extreme ovulation pain this month though and have had gentle cramps ever since which is new for me - has anyone had this?

Oh my god fluff, what a miraculous bit of news, sending you a hug, your head must be all over the place

Normally I'd say you need to tell him asap but I think it's better for you to have a couple of days to process the news yourself tbh and have an idea if what you're going to tell him and how you're going to proceed depending on what he says. Please keep talking to us if it helps.

Good you've managed to get an appointment for this evening user, hope the doc can shed some light.

Best of luck with your appointment swim. You've had such a grim time, really hope they can help.

Thanks anne i told him this morning and to be fair he wasn't that bad. But he has says he's getting the snip no matter what happens as I'm too fertile.
Thanks harriet I've had mild cramps thought af was coming but it hasn't. Thanks agnu he broke my heart when he changed his mind and said we couldn't try again so I'm hoping this is it and will be my happy ending. And hopefully you'll all get your happy endings too.

Really pleased and relieved it went well.

Please please look after yourself. Wishing you a totally uneventful pregnancy! And don't leave us if you want to hang around!