Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

I was sure I was out, lower back ache and low down tummy cramping last night and this morning. So so bloody tired as well.

But had a manic day and realised an hour ago it had been gone most of the day.

So who knows. Other weird thing is I'm well but almost completely lost my appetite the last two days.

Anne Those sounds like promising symptoms! Fingers crossed for you.

I'm not getting too excited just yet. Will test in a few days to see if the line gets any darker. Haven't told a soul other than you lovely ladies. X

We'll see user. It's okay if this isn't the month but either way I'm getting pretty bored of not knowing and if af is coming I'd like her to show! Building cramps and back ache are usual af signs but it's gone again.

Get a digi with the weeks and give that a go when you've had another double-liner in a few days. Cautious cause for celebration for you but it's normal to feel a bit wonky as well so go gently on yourself x

user we're all rooting for you! And Claire that's a great update, so nice to get some positive...er, positives!

I never could tell when I was ovulating in terms of feeling it, and this month is no different. But for the first time I have noticed the CM (probably because I was paying more attention) increased drastically over 2 days and then went away. Just so happens we had DTD in the (ahem) approved manner a few days before and the day of said CM appearing, so we shall see... As it's such an unpredictable month after the MC, I'm going to wait until AF is truly late (about 3 days) before testing though, so march on the 15th! Fx for anyone testing soon.

I see a line user fx!

Congratulations claire and user, I definitely se a line, fx.

Ffs, bleeding has just got a lot heavier tonight and back to clotting again. Really wish I'd gone sooner and not listened to the GP. Been 7 weeks since MC, so not great if some RP still there. Just want to get back to normal so can start TTC again. It's so exhausting. Night night everyone

swim, I'm going back to the EPU today and it's been 8 weeks since my MC

Congratulations claire and user hope all goes ok swimchick and teamlentil

Good luck lentil, sounds like we're having the same crappy experience. Hope you get some answers

Spoke to someone at EPU, basically let the phone ring for about 15 minutes straight til someone eventually picked up. They've taken my number - they thought it might not be for them but someone in gynecology instead. Going to call back, do fingers crossed it's soon. I can't stop crying - haven't felt this emotional since the MC. Really hope they call soon.

Aww swim hugs to you. It's a really shitty situation but things will only get bethere

Shit swim, no wonder you're feeling so awful. I'm sorry they're being crap and unsupportive. Where are you today?

Sending love and hugs x

They phoned back. I've to phone GP and get a referral to gynecology. Said this unit is only for pregnancy and I'm not pregnant. No really! I felt like screaming I KNOW I'M NOT ING PREGNANT, THAT'S THE WHOLE ING PROBLEM!! Think it would have been different if I'd fine there in the first place. Now waiting for GP call......

Oh Ffs swim that is awful. I can't believe they have been like that to you. What a pain!
Hopefully your gp can be a bit more proactive about the whole thing. Honestly if you feel iffy at all then go to a&e, I really don't think these things can be messed around with.
I think there was a lady on one of the mc boards and eventually they gave her drugs to stop the bleeding. As it had gone on way too long. Also after this amount of time then anti b's may be required.
Keep calm, but if you feel unsupported or fobbed off then really make whatever noise you need to. I know the NHS are under pressure at the moment, but this is your individual health and cannot be left untreated or uncared for. It's too important. It's not like you have a head cold. You are bleeding, if you were bleeding from any other part of your body they would be all over it like a rash.

Exactly what miami said swim kick up a fuss they need to sort it.

Well I got a big fat negative today af due today got cramps and sore boobs and I think I'm done can't carry on trying it's hurting so bad when it doesn't work out my littlest was always meant to be my last I've had a year of my head in the clouds thinking of a baby I'm starting to think is just not meant to be I was so complete before I got pregnant again i hoped trying again would help me feel complete again but maybe I just need to grieve accept my baby isn't going to be in my arms and move on I feel a bit like all this trying has brought me some closure just not how I thought. Wishing you all bfps and happy healthy babbas xxxx

i'm on CD31 now, loads of cramping and bit nausea i think (unless i'm just hoping)!! def ovulated on CD14 as i felt it and did a OPK so i'm definitely late but when i tested yday it was BFN! I honestly keep going to toilet at work to check if AF but now i'm scared - why would i have all these cramps? it will be 4 weeks tomorrow that i had mc! Did anyone else have continuous cramps after ovulated after mc? I hope all you ladies are ok - if it helps everyone who i've spoken to who has been through this says that it gets easier and you will have some bad days but i don't see that happeneing for me for a long time! It's all i can think about! I had a horrible experience at the EPU - treated me like i was in for an abortion or something and never said the words "you've lost the baby" so my partner could not register that it had happened until i explained it to him! I will never forget that woman's face and how cold she was with me! When i went in for my final scan to check i was clear the first thing she asked me was if i'd had a nice weekend!!!!! Urgh makes me so angry just thinking back!

GP called and was very nice. She said it was unlikely to still be MC as I has stopped bleeding previously and have had no discharge to indicate any sort of infection. Agreed it was odd that I've been bleeding so long now, was going to call me back on Wednesday morning but I cried so I am going to see her on Wednesday instead and she is going to check whether I'm anaemic and se how the bleeding is doing.

I know the folk at EPU have to be able to treat everyone just as patients and not get emotionally involved but i agree sully that they could be more compassionate. When my DS had a MC, the midwife said "and are you even married" as if that matters at all.........

So sorry you're still having a rubbish time with it swimchick. I'm glad your GP was helpful.

iecgi I'm sorry you feel you've reached the end of the road with trying. I hope you manage to find some closure soon and wish you all the best with your lovely family.

Congrats user! There's definitely a line there.

Anne any update? I hope AF has stayed away.

Well, I've gone back over to the irrational side. Although I know I had AF last week my boobs still feel prickly at times and I just can't get the what if out of my mind. I think there is nothing for it other than to pee on a bloody stick to shut my mind up once and for all.

swim, keep making a fuss! I'm livid on your behalf with your EPU. Bunch of heartless wankers. Good your GP is being better.

Do it keepon, worst that happens is you get a bfn. Which might help ease your mind for now. And you never know anyway!

I got a bfn yesterday, couldn't help it. Still no AF. Still getting couple of bouts of back and tummy cramps a day but not for long at all. Boobs are like basketballs, I can feel them with my arms by my side (I used to get this for a week pre af but haven't had it when not pg since) and loads of creamy cm.

God knows. If no af Wednesday I might test again. I purposely didn't buy many and am rationing them!

claire, congratulations! So delighted for you. user, I definitely see a line and really hope to be enthusiastically congratulating you very soon. And fingers very firmly crossed for you Anne!

I'm having textbook ovulation this month - all good timings, EWCM, strong LH+ surge right on time - so hoping that's a good sign...!

Oh swim that really is awful.

I promised I wouldn't do this but- can anyone else see the second line, to make a cross?

I will test tomorrow first thing, I know I should probably just wait. Due AF in 4 days.

Putputput I can see that. Yep. Congrats.

putputput Yep I can see that too - congratulations!

That's lovely and clear! How exciting! x

Thanks ems. I keep forgetting this is a post mc cycle, not a normal one, and it might be longer than usual, symptoms could be general messed up hormones. You know.... Talking myself out if it.

Your ov timings sound excellent, really good news