Ttc after miscarriage thread #8

[Miami81]

Hey. Just starting new thread. Hope the rest of you find it.

That exact thing happened to me, I'm expecting a letter with a speeding fine! Thanks for the kind words and I'm also sorry that you're having a bad day sock. I actually caved today when my colleague asked me how I was doing after being off sick. I started crying so ended up telling her. She's actually pregnant and due when I would have been but it felt weirdly better having someone who knows, she's also become a close friend over the years and was so lovely about it all and really supportive.

Emotional day here too. Been doubled over with cramps and what looks like implantation bleeding or start of af... either way ill be happy as i know my body is on the mend

@owl1011 looks like we will be going to naught speeding school together then it's really good to have people to talk to in real life. The ladies on here are a great support too, there is normally someone around at all times of the day.

I've had a great source of comfort from a friend who had a miscarriage a year or so ago. We were never that close before, but she has been a real true friend to me over the past few weeks.

I've just started a new job, my new line manager knows what happens as I had to delay my start date but I don't know my new colleagues well enough to talk to them about what happened. In a way I find it a huge relief as I have lots to learn in my new job.

Sorry to hear your sad news DJ and I hope something happens soon so you know where you are with everything.

Sock, sometimes I think it's nice to have a distraction with work but also need to make you don't work too hard and over stress yourself. I'm slowly learning that it will come with plenty of ups and downs and the ladies on here have been so supportive, thank you all x

Just want to get a full cycle out of the way so we can start TTC again!

fluffiny31 - I really didn't want to get obsessed but I should've known better. I'm the type of person that goes full speed at something once I've set my mind on it. I also thought I'd have no problems conceiving given the fertility history in all the females in my family #ignorance #rolleyes

I hate the fact that I can't just book a holiday and get annoyed at myself. The thing that was stopping me last year was I didn't want to be tee-total on holidays as I love a drink in the sunshine and of course I worried about how far on I would be and if it would be safe to fly. It also didn't bother me not going away as I had chosen TTC and that was that. However, now we are a year down the line and I'm desperate for a break away and to relax....however the thing that is stopping me is the worry of falling pregnant beforehand and then having a MC abroad. Really negative way of thinking I know

So the plan is to wait until April and book something last minute for May if I'm still not pg. OH away in April so we will miss a cycle because of that.

daddysgirl it definitely sounds like you deserve a break away. It will relax you be kind to yourself. And who knows if your not pg before then that will be the perfect time to get the practice in. I'd book it anyway give you something to look forward to. Good luck.

Hi ladies.

I am so sad to be here but I had a natural mmc Friday at 9+4 following several scans and tests earlier in the week and I'm absolutely heartbroken. In quite a lot of discomfort too. 😢

I was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism in my 7th week and I believe it's what caused my miscarriage but of course that will never be confirmed.

I have been asked to not TTC while I stabilise my thyroid problem as it could have the same effect on a new pregnancy. I'll be seeing the specialist every 2 months with a potential for my wait to be up to 12 months. I'm absolutely gutted but this is really important to me. In the meantime I plan to focus on my health, fitness and wellness to be the best I can be. I also have rheumatoid problems so need an MRI scan which I had to postpone when I got my BFP.

I've been on a TTC journey for 3 years, losing 2 stone in 2016 and so I am really eager to try again when the time comes, I'm trying very hard not to let this ruin me. I'm 33 and desperate to have my first baby.

I really don't know what to expect now. I have another scan in 2 weeks (around the same time I would have had my 12 week scan, what a shitter) to make sure I've passed everything. I'm terrified I'll never be a Mum, when does the physical pain stop? When should I stop bleeding? How can I stop the waiting from slowly driving me insane?

Thank you ladies. I'm so sorry we're all here. X

Hi Ladies, I've followed this thread over from the Misscarriage page. I have recently had a MMC and only actually has the surgery yesterday so all very raw still. Physically I am OK but keep getting teary which is to be expected. I was at my 12 week scan and they found no heartbeat:( I am desperate for another baby but when I was being scanned yesterday before the op the nurse made a comment on having lots of follicles on my ovaries. She asked if I had PCOS or maybe that I am just really fertile As far as I am aware I don't have PCOS but reading up on this I'm not so sure. We had taken 3 years to conceive and I just want to get back to it as soon as I can. Are you ladies trying again? Or waiting for a couple of cycles. Emotionally I can handle it but now I am worried I have underlying issues. Sorry this post is a little rambled!

I had tests through the RMC fluffiny and everything's come back fine, on my last pregnancy and me. So we were super optimistic about trying again....

The EPU have told me to expect to mc this week and either way to go back for another HCG test on Monday. They're still considering a possible ectopic and I asked if there was a worry about waiting a week if it is, but they've said no.

anne how far gone are you anne is it too early to see on a scan then? How can they tell if it's ectopic or not. I'm keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you.

So sorry for your losses MouseLove and user

No one understands better what you're going through than the women on here.

user I had the same thing with a MMC diagnosed at the 12 week scan. There's nothing like the shock and awfulness. I ended up having an MVA as the medical management didn't work.

I bled that night but it stopped the next day and then nothing till my first af 4 weeks later. I had some pain for a couple of days which then got loads worse 4 days later and I ended up in a&e where they gave me antibiotics for an infection.

They weren't sure what caused it but I was feeling better a day or so into the ABs and it wasn't that bad. By then I was just weak and shattered I think so rested loads, ate lots of fruit and veggies and drank water, took vitamins etc.

We waited a month then cracked on and I got pregnant again straight away but looks like I'm going to lose this one too.

Mouse, it all sucks, there's no way round it, it's shit and I'm sorry for what you're going through. I can imagine your panic about having to wait for the thyroid specialist but get your MRI done and, as you say, get yourself fit and well again so you can be in the best shape for your next pregnancy.

You've been through a lot, so don't jump into a mad fitness regime just yet. It takes a while to stop being pregnant and to feel normal again. You don't get to 9+4 and then suddenly stop being pregnant, your body's been through a lot with carrying your baby and then your miscarriage so look after yourself and go easy.

Only 4+5 fluffiny so they wouldn't see anything yet and I don't know much about ectopics. I guess maybe if the HCG stays at a certain level but there's nothing in the uterus they know it's elsewhere. Not sure.

I'm pretty fucked off today that not only am I shit at being pregnant, I'm also shit at miscarrying. If this one isn't going to stick, why is it hanging around?

DH was saying last night that he wished we didn't know and could have just enjoyed this part of the pregnancy then dealt with the loss when it happens, rather than being robbed - already - of any hope or optimism.

**AnneLovesGilbert thanks for your kind words, sorry to ask but why do you think you are going to lose this one too? This is what I am concerned with the ups and downs. My first pregnancy was so lovely and I had no problems. Now I feel like I will constantly be worrying in the future.

Sorry AnneLovesGilbert just read your earlier post! If you have had one MC are you likely to MC in future pregnancies?

The RMC doctor said I was at no further risk of miscarrying, despite my 3 losses (at that point), so 15% each time, based on my age, general health etc.

Not sure what 4 means though.

I think worrying constantly is inevitable. As much as I hope we carry on being as fertile as we've been to date, I can't imagine feeling that optimistic about a future bfp at this point. But what can you do. If we're going to have babies we can't do anything but crack on.

My body is playing a cruel joke on me. Thought I was having my first period after my mmc, I had all the grumpy symptoms last week and last night I had a spot of light brown bleeding after sex. But now nothing.

I just want to back to normal so I can focus properly on TTC

Anne
My husband said something similar to me about our second mc. I insisted on an early scan as it felt too similar to the first one. I think he wishes I hadn't insisted on knowing so early.
I keep telling myself that if they don't find anything at rmc then it could be that two different things happened! Like the first was chromosonal and the second was a random blip. Somehow it makes me feel better.
If it helps at all with where you are right now, my boss and his wife had six miscarriages, they were both over 40 at the time, they had all the tests, got referred from Scotland to st Mary's, the whole lot. Nothing they could find wrong at all, with either of them, they now have two boys (with no misses in between). So it can happen. I hope you are minding yourself at the moment.
Thanks so much for your responses to me, I hope in some small way it is acting as a bit of a distraction for you.

Sock
I have been there. It takes a while to trust your body again. Is this your first cycle?
My emotions were everywhere, had random ovulation bleeding which I have never had before and cm was a bit weird as well. Your body is working really hard to regulate itself, take it easy on yourself and you know scream at the world if you need to. Makes me feel so much better.
DH has been helping me with my fitness stuff on Sunday he got his boxing gloves and pads out and I beat the crap out of them. It felt really good. I was cursing and shouting and everything. I slept great.

Miami it makes total sense what you're saying about the possible reason, and thank you too for talking xxx

It's a difficult one, stories about other people's losses. In a way, I don't want to think about having more and waste more time, getting miserable and exhausted every time, but it's also good to know of happy outcomes too.

Your fitness sounds good! and your husband sounds lovely. Glad you've got good support. I'm exhausted today, tired most of the time actually, but walking lots which is something.

I know you said yours were both around 6 weeks so you think it might be a clotting issue. My MMC was my anomaly as it stopped at 8+5 so something was going right, heart was beating, all looked good, no abnormalities at all. So that's my comfort for now I guess, we got one that far, it must be possible to do it again.

Sorry sock My first af was 4 weeks after MMC but that and the one after weren't like they were before I was pg. I always get sore boobs, bloating, tiredness, and I was going mad thinking af wouldn't show, but it just did, no symptoms that I can remember, just showed up. I didn't have any boob symptoms again till now when I was pg again.

Miami's right, everything's trying to settle itself down again. That doesn't help, I know, but don't beat yourself up x

Would have been my 12 week scan today and instead have to do a test to check that it's negative. Today is one big bucket of suck

Found a way to keep my Angel with me at all times 👼🏻 Today is also first day of period since d&c and my god its painful. But this arriving in the post today has cheered me up 💐

dj that is really lovely.

Lovely DJ

owl thinking of you x

That's beautiful dj

Owl so sorry. Sucks big time. I have a scan scheduled for the same time as my 12 weeks scan would have been. So instead of announcing a pregnancy I'll be making sure mine is all gone. Life is cruel but we will be stronger because of it. X

DJ that is beautiful. I've been thinking of a way to mark my loss, this is a wonderful idea. So sorry for your loss. X

Ladies, thank you. Your support is wonderful. X