TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

[victoria401]

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

Ah thanks for all your advice ladies! Good idea to ask about tilted uterus too! If I have a normal 28 day cycle this month then it will be day10 when I go for the scan, do you think the CD matters at all? I think you are right, wait until I have had as many tests etc as possible done first, then think about going private. I am just being impatient, and after waiting 20 weeks another 6 feels like forever. Also, I don't have a lot of faith in the NHS actually giving me an appointment in the next 6 or so weeks, but i will keep pestering them every week!
I am a bit annoyed with DH, he won't even take time off work to look after DD while I go for my scan, nevermind come with me and hold my hand through it. I know it's only a scan and won't hurt but some support would still of been nice.
Vic after telling you off for SS I am doing it like a crazy woman today. AF is due anytime over the next couple of days and I have been convincing myself of all sorts. We only dtd once in the ov window so I'm about 98% certain I won't be pregnant.
blue let's hope the iron tablets could make some difference? Maybe if you're body was running on low it was preventing any chance of conception? Sorry to hit the 18month mark, how utterly rubbish, good news that you have your app coming up though, I hope it's all good news for you and you start making some real progress soon.
metal it all sounds like very positive news, if still unexplained as to why it isn't happening yet for you. 5.3mm sounds close enough to 6mm and hopefully it will continue growing up until ov, if you are concerned though is there anything you can do/take to help thicken it? I've wondered about PCOS as I have a few of the symptoms, but fairly regular periods, and I think it's the irregular periods that make conception hard with PCOS, so even if she does think they look a bit polycystic you should be fine! Someone please correct me if I'm wrong though!!
Oh, with regards to being overweight, I was half a stone heavier when I conceived and carried DD with no problems, and now cannot conceive at all. I have heard of some people shifting some weight and then immediately falling pregnant, and have seen some huge people make and have babies. There seems to be no rhyme nor reason to it

ginger I think supplements wise there's not a lot you can take to thicken your lining, and things like estrogen you can only get on prescription. I haven't really got any symptoms of pcos apart from slightly irregular periods and somewhat thinning hair, so hopefully even if I have got it, it's not so bad.

Sorry you're feeling low at the moment blueberry. I'm finding it quite tough too at the moment, I think every now and then you just hit a milestone or something happens that makes it all seem much worse. Maybe your apportionment next week will bring some positive news.

blueberry Thanks for the advice,DH has pushed for the afternoon off now so can come with me to the HSG appointment now (phew!). We've not told parents yet although I suspect they've figured out we're ttc, would've loved to have brought my mum.

I'm 2 months off the 18 month mark so will think I'll be the same as you. The lethargy of anaemia can make you feel exhausted which can contribute to that lack of positivity. I find iron tablets affect my IBS but liquid floradix really helps (from Holland & Barrett) plus try and have orange juice when you eat protein to help the absorption of iron from your diet.

Caved and took a test earlier - obvs negative but felt a bit fidgety til i got it out of the way - daft really I think i'm only coming into ovulation this week!! Have managed to dtd every other day, so far so good! Haven't lost any weight this week which is a shame but still hoping it's all ok. Got a mega bruise from bloods taken test and going back for day 25 on Tuesday...hope we're all having a good weekend so far x

Ah sorry it was neg Laura, possibly a bit early though if you think you're only just ovulating! Good effort on the DTD front, hope it pays off.
Well I'm out again this month, AF got me yesterday, knew she was coming but it doesn't stop it being shit does it. Had some cider, chocolate and a bit of cry, and ready to pick myself up and move onto the next month. Scan in just over a week so something to work toward at least now.
Hope everyone's having a nice weekend.

Sorry to hear that too Ginger - how crap :( like you say at least you've got a plan and you indulged a bit to get yourself over the crapness...

laura lol! think you may be a little too keen there! fx tho

ginger sorry she got you again the cow

I can't get all this ivf stuff out of my mind atm. I just need to get to this appt now and know what's going to happen when!

I know Lil ha! It's cos of my messed up cycles dunno whether I'm coming or going! Any hint of a sign and I'm all over it! Still, were being good and dtd lots so will wait it out now a couple of weeks (she says casually)!

Thinking about ttc on my holiday, suprise surprise! Writing this from my hotel balcony! Expecting af tomorrow or Tuesday. No sign of anything yet, thought I'd have spotting by now. Maybe I'm preg! Hahaha!

Sorry for the disappointments ginger and Laura. And blue, it may have been 18 months but you've only been ov-ing for a few. Plus my friend was low on iron and her doc said there was no chance of conceiving, put her on pills and she got preg not long after. Chin up x

Hi guys, vic I hope you get a lovely surprise whilst you're away :) hope you're enjoying yourself.

Dh has suggested that I take some time off here as I seem to be getting slightly obsessed a bit anxious and I think there might be such thing as too much information.. I think he's probably right, so I'm not going cold turkey but I'm trying to spend a bit less time..

My last af only lasted for one day (of proper bleeding) so now I'm convinced I'm going to start with early menopause. I'm going to ask her to re-test my hormone levels when I'm back in a few weeks just so I can stop thinking about it.

Hope everyone's ok

Vic ooh where in the world are you again? Hopefully the ups and downs of the last few months can fade into the sunset...helped with a cocktail or two..!

Cooper we've all had our awol moments off here where it's got a bit too much and we need a break. Hope you find a bit of peace with it all...

Laura I'm in Croatia! Very nice :-) pretty sure I'm gonna get af any min. Calculated today or tomorrow from when I got my ov pain, been a bit crampy for days tho. Dreamt I was preg last night, but it wasn't my dh's! Ooops! Lol! No chance of that I hasten to add! I think the dream came about coz I felt a tad queasy last night, combo of oily foreign food and a beer and a wine I think.

Its hard not to get obsessed cooper, you can't switch off from it. Especially if you have any tests coming up. Big hugs to everyone x

Any sign of AF yet vic? Very jealous of your holiday, I can't wait for half term when we're going to Germany for a week.

Good luck with your 2ww laura, sounds like you've put in a good effort this month.

I'm getting increasingly frustrated,was supposed to be having my day 21 bloods this month but my body isn't playing ball. I got what I thought was a +opk on Saturday, but since then - nothing. I'm using IC opks and Clearblue, and the ICs are still showing quite a strong line but Clearblue is negative, my cm has gone back to being creamy rather than watery and I haven't got any of my usual ov symptoms, so it looks like my body tried to release the egg but didn't quite get there. I've asked the GP to ring me tomorrow to ask what I should do, I'm CD22 today so not sure how long I should wait with the blood test.

Afternoon Ladies,

Thanks for the responses im trying to be positive but generally im not a very positive person anyway lol.

Ginger Men are annoying I think its in their genes, To be fair though my DP is pretty good and has been at every appointment apart from HSG as he couldnt get off work.
I hoping the Iron will help with my energy levels I could quite easily fall asleep any time of day, but no one has mentioned it might effect fertility.

Metal I never expected it to take this long I knew after being on depo it might take a tad bit longer so I expected a year but now its 18 months it feels like itll never happen.
I hope you feel more positive soon to.
My bodys being annoying this month to have all the symptoms but no positive opks yet hmmmm

Non Glad your DH pushed you will be glad he is there I held my mums hand while they were inserting the tubes etc it hurts a bit, the worst bit is the weird feeling the balloon gives you, like period cramps but in the wrong place.
Ive been on the tablets before an luckily no side effects, I also tried the floradix for a while but often forgot to take it, whereas I take a fair few tablets at the moment its easier to remember the iron tablet lol. Im also on b12, calcium and vit d, and folic acid.

Laura sorry about the bfn but as you said probably to early.

lil hopefully you can find out some more info soon!

Vicky How nice a surprise would that be if AF didnt turn up and you were pg, fx for you! My doctors never said anemia and fertility is joined in anyway, ive been anemic for years as my body is incapable of taking alot of vitamins in. We will see.

Cooper hopefully its not menopause, Id love a one day period how nice would that be if thats all it was.

Having a bloody good go at dtd this month gave my dp a pep talk and everything lol poor bloke!

vic hope you're enjoying it! I love Croatia!

Blue my DH feels the same about IVF too and finds it hard to explain. I think I get it but hard to put across on a forum.

Me: 13dpo. I am FREAKING out right now. In 16 months I have only ever got to 12dpo and that was a one time occurrence. I average 10dpo and then my period comes (only 9 days last month). I'm gonna test tomorrow if nothing.
Tbh I feel like I'll come on any minute and so am just trying to be happy with the fact that this has been a "normal" cycle. But in the back of my head is the fact we DTD 3 times over my 5 most fertile days this month (a lot for us!) and that maybe just maybe we stand a chance...

Oooh Lindsay that sounds very exciting!! Fx it's good news for you tomorrow.

For me, the opks have gone back to negative but I still haven't ov'd as my temp hasn't risen at all, though I am now having some cramps... just wish my body would make it's bloody mind up what's happening! My GP said to have the day 21 bloods anyway and then take it from there, though I'm not sure what he's going to do with a result that shows nothing?!

I've booked myself an appointment with an acupuncturist next week. Even though I'm sceptical about that sort of thing I'm getting pretty desperate, and if nothing else it might just help relax me a bit.

Metal I'm a huge fan of acupuncture and even my DH goes now! I started in February and go every 2-4weeks. It helps balance out your mind and body so I'm sure you'll find it relaxing,worth a go anyway!
Also,it has being medically proven to increase you endometrial lining to help implant the embryo so good to do if starting fertility treatment. Let me know how you get on.

P.S. Forgot to add good luck to Lindsay tomorrow, hope you get some sleep!

Fingers crossed for you Lindsay!

I'm still af free on my hol! Feels like I will start any minute tho. I'm glad it stayed away today so I could enjoy my coach tour to the national park. However I do have a mosquito bite on my face, most attractive! I must have been nabbed as I stood on the balcony last night in my pj's trying to photograph lightening!

I'll check in tomorrow for Lindsays news and an update on mine!

Ooh Lindsay and Vic very exciting for you both, fx and will keep checking back for news! And never been to Croatia but glad you're having a lovely time!

Metal I've been having acupuncture for ages (was for IBS now I use it for general good health with the slant on fertility), hope it works for you!

I had my day 25 bloods done today so will leave it a week and ring for all results together. Don't feel like I've ovulated at all but my acupuncturist thought I felt warm tonight and so maybe it's gearing up. We've been keeping up dtd every other night so nothing's been lacking there!

If I was having the same 3 week cycle as last af then I'd be 3 days late by now but pointless testing again after the -ve at the weekend I reckon.

Stark White BFN! OMG what?! I honestly now do believe that someone up there hates me! LOL!

The ONE month I have a normal luteal phase and am 4 days late is the ONE month in 16 that I didn't use OPKs because I was on holiday. Everything I get around ovulation seemed exactly the same so I pinpointed it at cd18 or very latest cd19. Today is cd32.

AF does feel imminent but it's worse this month coz I am also completely baffled!

Ugh :-(

Argh Lindsay doesn't seem right?? Maybe give it another try later on? At the very worst at least your cycles are regular and your LP isn't working against you for now...

Oh no lindsay, how annoying! Maybe you ov'd a few days later than you thought after all? It's so frustrating when you think you know your body and then it goes and throws a spanner in the works again.

Thanks laura and non, I will keep an open mind about the acupuncture and report back on how it went next week.

Got my blood test booked for Friday and will go and see my GP next week, hopefully he can give me something to bring on a period if I still haven't ov'd by then so I can write this cycle off and move on.

Laura Yeah, for the first time I really am throwing my hands up in the air! FFS! lol

Hope the docs appt is quick and easy metal No one wants that on a Friday! :) I feel the same as you, let's just get on to the next cycle already!

Lindsay Men are weird theres nothing I wouldnt do to have a baby so if IVF is the way hes going to have to deal with it! Sorry about the BFN maybe you ovulated later due to your holiday?

Vicky let us know hopefully AF doesnt come!

So tomorrow is my second gynae appointment if he turns me away because I didnt lose weight I will punch him. I have lost a couple of inches on my bum and hips so something is working.
No idea what he is going to say but hopefully nothing bad has shown up.
Although it would be helpful if I had something to treat instead of not knowing why I can get pg.

Got annoyed at dp last night because he was to tired to dtd and it was they day after my positive opk, I didnt talk to him all evening men can be such asses. I stayed up extra late on Monday to dtd but noooo.

I also had mega ovulation pain Monday night all day yesterday and still slight cramps today so not sure whats going on.

Hope every one is okay.