TTC 10 Months Plus, Supporting each other & Staying Positive :) This thread will be the BFP one!

[victoria401]

This is a thread for ladies who have been ttc longer than 10 months who have started the ball rolling with tests and treatments. We are all here to support each other though these darker days to the baby shaped light at the end of the tunnel!

I am also interested in the soy but I don't want to mess with my already regular cycle so think I'll wait and see what happens in the few months after hsg. I have also stopped drinking alcohol and caffeine so hoping that also assists!!!!

I am trying the pineapple core again this month, starting today as I believe I am around 1dpo so will do that until 5dpo.

I was thinking about trying the soy as well in the hope of shortening my cycles a bit, so will be watching with interest! (Decided against trying it this month as I'm having my day 3 and day 21 bloods done and would like to see if everything is normal first.)

I did the soy for a while after my mega 7week AF but I didn't find it really did anything. maybe I wasn't taking enough. I might look into it again.

Aw at your dd starting school metal, hope you managed ok with your baby starting to grow up! :)

So I'm 8dpo today and tomorrow going away for a very boozy hen party long weekend talk about great timing! I don't know what to do, I know that if I were to be pregnant it'd be so early it wouldn't have any effect but I'd still feel guilty if anything were to happen..

I think I'm getting a bit ahead of myself anyway, because what are the chances?!

I'd drink cooper but don't get absolutely blotted. we've all said it before, no link until about 5weeks so wouldn't be an issue, but I know what you mean about the guilt if something did happen. fwiw I'd drink what I felt like and invoke sods law!

Haha, here's hoping for Sod's law lil! I can't not drink at all, it'd provoke too many questions..

Evening all, its great to see such positivity!!

I haven't really been on these boards much recently but am dipping back in again now.

So, stats etc. I am 37, ttc #1. Stopped BC in Sept 2012, but took until June 2013 to get AF. So that's when i started counting cycles, and due to my slightly short cycles am on no.18.

AF due tomorrow (very regular normally)

Had day 21 (or 18 in my case) tests last week, all ok except thyroid borderline abnormal. Needs to be tested in a couple of months. SA is tomorrow.

Oops....posted too soon.
I am a bit on the tubby side though not mentioned by GP. Could lose a stone and a half really. Drink too much wine.

Good luck everyone, lets hope we have some success with this thread. :-)

cooper I second what lil said, just enjoy yourself and if you can try not to get completely wasted. If it's any help, two days before I got my BFP with DD I drank about two bottles of wine on a work night out as I thought AF had arrived... only it was implantation bleeding! Needles to say I was crapping myself the whole way to the 12 week scan, but she turned out absolutely fine.

Hey all! Cooper defo have a few but don't go mad! It'll help you relax and enjoy the party!

Had my ultrasound and internal scan today (dignity left at the door)....and turns out I'm fine, no polysystic ovaries at all! Great but feeling deflated now as I don't know why it's not happening :(. Also still on af now 12 days. Not a great day over all. DH and I will keep trying for couple of months and then see what happens...

Hi all- back from a wonderful holiday today so on a bit of a downer! No need to worry about finding out I was pregnant while away as I had another one of my crappy 23 day/ 9day luteal phase cycles and so got AF before I left. Silver lining: at least it was gone by the time we were leaving.

Recap for me:
Me and DH 33 years old
TTC #1 seriously for 17 months but NTNP for 4 months before that.
Sperm analysis and my blood work all good.
I believe that the fact I often have a short luteal phase has a lot to do with why it is taking us a while, despite what the fertility specialist says!

Hoping we all have a bit more luck on this thread!

linds have you tried b6 for lp, can't remember

Hi dottie! Yeah, up to 200mg B complex for a few months. Also Agnus Castus and a few others. I'm au naturale now! LOL It was just so frustrating trying all these things and never seeing improvement

Hi MrsE, remember you from the buses, sorry to see you here.

Nice to read up on everyone's stats. I have one awful memory!

Feeling pretty shit at the mo to be honest. Been arguing a lot with dh, worse this weekend. Everything taking its toll. After our last tues appointment and the nurse saying I was about to ov we dtd a few times to 'catch the egg'. I've spent the last few days in london with my friend and I had pretty bad ov type pains with spotting yesterday and really sore boobs. So after thinking we had a chance now we've been declared normal I am now angry that we must have missed 'real ovulation' last week after my scan and we didn't dtd this weekend or week because of our bickering and then me going away Monday. Part of me is thinking what if I did ov last week and yesterday was implant stuff but I know its all a big fat load of crap. Sorry for the negativity guys :-( I think I'm over tired from my trip x

Hey Victoria sorry to hear you're feeling crap. Sounds like you're putting tons of pressure on yourself, I hope you can go a bit easier on yourself :( at least you managed to dtd a few times which was better than not at all...I'm trying to lower my expectations at the moment just because I hate all the expectant waiting (excuse the pun). I really hope you can ease the pressure and just go with the flow for a bit xx

Vicky I agree with Laura I know it is hard but you have had some good news and you need to grab on to that and try and be positive.
Definately worth you getting some opks to narrow down when your ovulating so theres less chance of missing it. And Relax!!

You and your DH have been through a lot recently but this is the time to grab on to each other and be thankful that everything isnt as bad as you thought!!

MrsE sorry your here with us!!

Lindsay glad you had a nice holiday its not easy coming home is it!!

Hope everyone is ok

Af got me again last week and im still down about it to be honest im so tired of it all!!

Hi blueberry! It's not the end of the world yet, still plenty of time to go. I should have expected a harder ride after last time. Probably a bit optimistic to think id fall straight away after 2 years last time. Difference being dh is more on board this time,so fx we can get some intervention earlier on just to see where we are at!

Nice to read a recap on where everyone is up to. Seems we are all in a fairly similar state of mind too. Just waiting and down right fed up! I am sick of thinking about babies, and being pregnant and when to DTD etc. My new mantra is I refuse to be miserable. I am fed up of it taking over my life and my thoughts so I am trying to just enjoy the life I do have! it will probably only last until next AF arrives again, but I am doing pretty well at pushing down any thoughts of babies and focusing on something else. I do tend to go out of my way to avoid having to look at babies or pregnant ladies however! Have also just adopted a newer healthier lifestyle she says with G&T in hand I've read that it can about 90 days for any lifestyle changes to take affect, so today is day 1 of 90. Who's with me!? Should bring us nicely up to Christmas to drown my sorrows if we've had no success by then.....
vic also sorry you are feeling down. Like the others have said, try not to get too stressed. I would imagine after having the news you had you are expecting to get pregnant soon as there is no real clinical reason as to why you aren't, but try to relax and not put too much expectation on you and DH, it's tough going trying to time DTD to perfection month after month.
Laura glad your results came back all ok.
Notta how did the SA go? When will the results be in did they say?
cooper hope you are having a lovely booze filled long weekend!
I'm off to research soya iso thingys......

HOLY FCK, victoria*!!!! How did I miss this news re the SA?! What the ACTUAL...?!?! It was an ERROR?! OMFG.... you have had one hell of a ride.

I suppose it's good news because if there is gonna be any issues then we want them to be with us, I guess... There's more they can do with the woman, I hear. But seriously, I am virtually hugging you so hard right now! I just read something about you wondering if you DTD at the right time and I was like "Hang on a minute... scroll scroll.... Whaaaaa?!" lol

Ugh, just heard that I didn't get the job I interviewed for yesterday. My life seems to be just one big disappointment after another at the moment, I don't know why I even bother...

Ah metal I'm so sorry, at least they let you know soon though? Stop you getting your hopes up over the weekend? Sorry, weird silver lining I know!! Have you got anymore interviews lined up?
I agree with you over the disappointment, DH and I are not getting on at the moment, DD seems to hate me, I hate my job but don't want to waste time and money embarking on a new career when I'm hoping a miracle will happen, summer is over, and our bank balance is rapidly diminishing. And I'm still waiting for a bloody referral.
My optimism didn't even make it to AF, I stupidly just decided to watch One Born after drinking half a bottle of wine and am now completely upset and pissed off all over again. I'm just sick of this whole bloody thing.

Oh ginger :-( your life sounds like mine at the mo. I won't tell you to stay pos coz I'm not either so that would just be patronising or whatever the word is. too much wine too

Sorry about the job metal

Yes Lindsay they Fucked up big time. What a complete rollercoaster!

Sorry af got you again blue but at least you're ovulating now so you really do have a chance! I'm going to do ov sticks next month, although it does say in my leaflet not to try the month of HSG. The following month then eh?

Forgot to say sorry for AF blue, I think we're all bloody tired of ttc at the moment. vic I hope you're feeling a bit better now too.

Yes I'm glad they at least put me out of my misery soon Ginger. I've decided to have a break from job hunting for now; after my mc in Feb I thought it was a good idea to focus on something else, but it's proven more difficult than I thought, and I had a bit of a meltdown this afternoon. Not being able to get pregnant is bad enough, but I think the constant rejection on the job front on top of everything else is just too much to bear at the moment. As much as I hate my job, I feel like such failure that i can't cope with any more knock backs. I guess I'll have to try and focus on the positives, e.g. The fact that I ear a good salary so will be able to pay for private tests and treatments if necessary.

Sorry you and DH are not getting on at the moment, but I'm sure your DD doesn't hate you. I often feel my DD prefers her dad, and it really hurts, but I know she does love me and it's just because he's more fun and less strict than me.

morning ladies.

metal sorry about the job. sounds like you are having a totally shit time of it. Im really lucky that dh earns well so when I lost my well paid but totally stressful and shit job last year after being signed off with stress I was lucky that I didn't have to throw myself straight into another one. with ttc not happening and the stress of fighting for my Job I just couldn't have faced it. I guess what I'm trying to say is I understand how you must be feeling, so you aren't alone.

Vic I hope things with you and dh are improving. I found the forced month off of the hsg a godsend. no forcing DTD because we should, no wondering if I'd be pg that month. hopefully having the pressure taken off will help you guys focus on each other again.

blue hope you're feeling a bit better now

ginger I keep trying that but can't seem to get past day 1!!! how long have you been waiting for your referral? have you chased them? hope you don't live where Vic does!!

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of youall. It's a shame our positivity is definitely taking a knock right now on this thread but it does come in waves and we've all been waiting for so damn long now...