TTC 10+ months, Part 11

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A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Rages, just did a massive post and lost it because I went to copy it and pressed paste instead, wiping the whole thing out. Poo.

mrsden you have been in my thoughts today. I'm relieved for you that your op will be soon. The waiting is the worst part, I promise. I think you'll need at least a week off work. It's important to really take time to heal and rest, especially if you will be gearing up for ivf soon after. I'm still amazed this hasn't been picked up before. Will you be getting a second opinion? I say this only because of my own experience of things looking like one thing and ending up being another. I'll be here to award you your lap medal of honour and you can join the special club of lappers, with your own tiny belly button sign. It is a very exclusive club! Do most of us have one on here now?!

sar I have gift wrapped you a billy bass fish. But stranger things have happened! Do keep us posted.

critter enjoy Scotland! Interesting to hear about the adoption. It worries me to think that even if I do put this chapter behind me I have to start an equally challenging one. That sounds a bit miserable. Stop being a pessimist rabbit!

gin bad Dave! I hope he has acquired you a new toothbrush.

madness oo liking the sound of the penthouse. Hope you are feeling alright and mending up more and more each day. Can I ask where you buy your quilting fabric from?

buzzy poor Kayla. I'm not sure my fur monster ever truly forgave me for taking away his balls. But he didn't die a virgin as I left him with two girl rabbits when I went away on holiday and he was naughty

euro hope you have now moved! Cramps are the ultimate insult to the shitness that is a period. Once I used to be relieved when my period came. Phew I used to think, I'm not pregnant. Ha!

nao well done from moving to lurking to chatting . Lots of people on here have got their bfp between 1 and 2 years. Indeed I think the act of delurking has been known to actually cause a bfp! Fingers crossed for you and loads of support to be found here.

I had a very nice time indeed. Now time to make Christmas lists. Big wave to all those missed lemon pout joycep doll art (hurray for nausea!)

Oh and yes, me too happy for Facebook adding. Except now I forgot who said it! Pm me if you want to see my face on a massive Internet book. Promise no second head here euro. I'm off to find that baby hiding app..

Also, is nelly now mrsnelly?

sar did you ovulate later than normal ???

rabbit I feel a bit of a bitch that I am doing all I can get updiffed and I have now taken away her only chance the sulking continues..... naughty little bunny

Just popping on to say that this place is my favourite for fabric. John Lewis is always there in a pinch and we have a fab local fabric store that I usually use for all of my backing fabrics and bits and pieces.

And Oh Fransson is my favourite quilting website. She taught me how to do proper corners on edging .

Sorry. The last post was for rabbit

madness love the fabric link, I usually go john lewis and sometimes hobbycraft, the USA has beautiful choice of fabric, pity they are so far away

Have just spent the past hour looking at fabrics thanks madness. 2013 is the year of the quilt! I have no idea how to make one. But I will learn!

I am so with the rain now. But trying to embrace the beauty in all weathers and seasons

Did anyone see that prog on Xmas spaces? I want my own crate studio in the garden! I have decided not to talk about my own ttc with hare or you lot until 2013. Now that's a challenge! So will be talking about other things but of course listening to you all and fish offering/hand holding. I have officially bored myself with my own reproductive organs.

You are very welcome rabbit . My friend and I did a weekend quilting course through the council's adult education programme. It's really easy to get started. You only have to be able to sew in a straight line (although I am now doing free motion quilting which has lots of loops and is remarkably satisfying). The American quilters are über serious and do lots of diamond patterns that terrify me. I shall stick to more modern squares and rectangles!!!

I have recorded the amazing spaces show for future viewing.

rabbit you can find some nice patterns online, at work we used to have a 'stitch and bitch' club where we used to drink eat and sometimes do a bit of stitching, some made started quilts, just had a look at ebay, they have some nice fabric on there, I fancy some bunting

I like the sound of making a quilt but I can't sew in a straight line so I'd never be able to do it. I do wish I could be good at craft things, it must be such a great hobby.

There's another Sam brick article in the daily mail today. I understand what she feels. Christmas is a hard time for us infertiles.

critter I forgot to congratulate you on ovulation. That's such good news, if your problem is just an ovulation one then maybe you'll get that bfp soon.

sar did af show up? I hope not, maybe you ovulated later than usual?

I had another sleepless night, there's nothing worse than lying there in the dark and your mind whirring. I wish I could fast forward to after the lap. I'm going to be wishing away my Xmas holiday now. It does make me wonder if things happen for a reason. Dh has always been so positive about our chances but now even he is doubting it will ever happen.

mrsden it WILL happen. You need an egg, a sperm, a nice embryo placed back exactly where it should be and your odds are really good. You have age on your side and I really believe you'll get there. This is just a horrible roadblock, to be navigated around. Big hug, I wish I could take it away for you.

madness I'm sat in bed on the eternal maker.. This could get pricey! Oo I love a new crafty project.

Thanks rabbit I know I sound like a bore, and I hate to be so negative but it feels like these horrendous obstacles are being put in our way at every turn. It's like one of those dreams when you can't get any further. I can't remember if it was you or nelly that said you can imagine it happening for everyone else on the thread but yourself. That's exactly how I feel. I'm so hopeful and positive about everyone else's chances, I can imagine you all getting there. For me it feels hopeless at the moment, but Im hoping this is a temporary feeling. It's not helped by being in the slide towards af now.

Den - sorry you had another horrid night. I understand what you mean about obstacles. The type of problem you have found just recently is very 'overcomable' to coin a a phrase. But it is nomal and necissary to feel anxious and angy about what is happening. Don't deny yourself this and let it out. I wounder if you could try turning this on its head. Thank goodness the swollen tube was found now before IVF, otherwise you may have been wondering why things weren't working. However I feel like a total fraud giving that advice as I find it difficult to do myself. Bg hugs.

You craft ladies are amazing. I ought to get myself some new hobbies to try and distract myself. A homemade quilt sounds awesome.

AF still hasn't shown up. And another BFN this morning. It plausable that I ovulated later than I thought but that would be the first time in over 3 years that I got it wrong - but bodies do change so I guess yes, that is very possible. The other weird thing is I was getting dull cramps 2 days before AF was due. But now they have gone and to be honest I feel very fit and sprightly with no cramps at all like you would after a period. My stomach is also very flat not bloated. It's like my period has been and gone and nobody told me. The BFN's at this stage make pregnancy highly unlikely. However I did POAS only 3 and 4.5 hours after the last wee. But still, at 16 DPO there should be some line if I was preggers shouldn't there. I have read up on prolongued leutal phases - it could be a leutal cyst. Don't know if I would have pain with that however. Ah well, I am no fool, the test said BFN and that is that.

How puzzling sarlat!

Poor kayla! Make sure you don't laugh at her (within earshot) when she has her silly collar on. Pets can be very proud! When our old dog wore one of those collars after an op, she had no sense of how wide she was and kept walking into things with it - us, doorframes, furniture.... Poor pup.

I'm impressed by all the crafting tales on here. I am wholly uncreative. The only vaguely artistic hobby I have is photography. I love taking pictures and making up photobooks, getting some made up into canvasses or framed, etc. I don't have a great eye though, but I do manage some good photos and a lot of dross.

I am just in the process of uploading a batch of "hobby" photos (as opposed to holiday snaps) to photobox to print, if anyone wants to take a look: photos I'm sorting through all my 2012 photos and I'm about halfway through so far.

I'm working from home today, waiting for a turkey and a man who wants to take a look at my sewer(!). Mr Euro is in Ireland visiting his rellies, so I have the place to myself. Yippee!

AF has just made her first appearance. Dam and blast - didn't need a head feck day before the wedding or cycle before the lap. Something was different this month though. Sigh. Not a lot I can do but see what 2013 brings.

Sorry sar not what you need this month. But, the lap will bring answers and new plans for next year. I'm glad your sister did a murmured apology. Enjoy the wedding, let your hair drown, drink some fizz. You WILL get there. It's just like we are traveling up the motorway and keep getting stuck in traffic jams.

euro nice photos!

I have been shopping again! I am going to a fancy dress party over Christmas and me and hare have secured our outfits. Mine is hideous. Now for more wrapping. Family christmas visits start tonight and then, tomorrow is the Great Christmas Bake Off! Hope everyone is doing nice Christmassy things.

Higs sar for the AF + sister's wedding combo. I thought of you this morning, because I dreamed my little brother's girlfriend told me she was diffed last. Not a pleasant dream.

So sorry mrsd about the crappy finding on the scan and now wishing away your holiday. I am thinking of you. Listen to rabbit re:lap. You will be okay!

Madness you are being very, very effective distracting me too. I love crochet and knitting and have been threatening to learn how to quilt for ages. And now I shall. Maybe. If I finish the rabbit, scarf and elephant that live in my yarn basket, half finished!

Impressive no talking about reproduction until 2013 plan rabbit. I really won't manage that even if I wanted to. 5dpIUI and odd cramps in the bowel region, rather than the ferti-location. But it means nothing because I had no symptoms while diffed. I'll find out before the year is out (and will probably start stabbing again on Jan1st...)

Jan 1st is a good day to start lemon but keep remembering IUI works for you a this could be the month. Make a quilt with me! I have now managed 36 hours of not mentioning ttc and the inner workings of my uterus or, as my nhs leaflet says, 'gential tract' vomit.

Oh and lemon I'm saving it all up til New Year's Day!

Oops just saw that I told sar to let her hair drown. Sorry! Don't do that!

Rabbit we can start quilting on Jan 1st! But it leaves me in a big quandery. I have some John Lewis vouchers, which I was going to turn into MORE YARN tomorrow as a holiday treat (together with Dvds, a book and some chocolate, I took the suggestion from me counsellor to be nicer to myself a little too seriously!) But maybe I should invest in some fabric. And leave it til the new year. I have plenty of yarn and stuff to keep myself entertained...

have started new thread but on crap computer at work so unable to set up link, sorry