After m/c - the [wine] and [shagging] thread

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Funthatisfunny, booboomonster, madeinchinababy - anyone else who's recently had a BFP sadly followed by a miscarriage - welcome [busmile]

Me - got a shock BFP on 5th March, had early scan at 9 weeks (after I talked to midwife about feeling something was wrong, lost symptoms) on Friday 6th April showing baby had died around 6-7 weeks. Our little Widget left me on Saturday 7th April thread here

I have been wonderfully supported here on Mumsnet but especially by the above people who are sadly going through the same thing right now or waiting to, very special people to be thinking of others at such a sad time for them and their partners.

Although the baby was unplanned and completely unexpected, we want to try. And time is against us as I am 39 in June. So here we are. I'm not sure if we'll wait a period of time or just see what happens but having had secondary infertilty with my now ex husband for 5+years I do NOT want to get het up on BBT, CM checking, OPKS.

So in talking with the lovely ladies we decided that other threads were quite well established and to start a new one based mostly on alcohol and sex

Anyone is welcome, just jump right in :)

Just found this link www.babyexpert.com/get-pregnant/conceiving/vitamins-boost-fertility-and-conception - so am going to carry on taking my Pregnacare and extra folic acid (BMI is 36) and extra Vit D (not prescribed, just taking as have been as near as dammit housebound for a year with a back problem so probably not a bad idea - plus other countries advise much higher doses than the UK does).

Hi all,
sorry to hear AF is on her wicked way hee.

Grapefruit juice sounds a good idea chuckle. Re: the B50 - I actually have stopped it partly because I realised (like a dufus) that my LP is actually 12 days, so not really short. Also, it turned my poo green (sorry tmi!) which isn't bad in itself but a bit off putting. I would be blaming it for my possible early ovulation but I hadn't actually started it until the day before so I can't see how it would have any effect. But after googling it does seem to be good and safe for conception generally, so I might take it again in the pre ov phase.

When I inputted today's temps, ff changed again! Now saying I ov'd on Friday when we did swi! So, maybe there is hope, although I honestly drank quite a lot on saturday (was out with friends from 1pm and into the evening). So I wouldn't be surprised if that's upset any chance of conception. Still swi ing though as obviously have no idea really of what's going on!!

Meant to say wild yes have come across Nora Ephron but not read any books, let us know if it's good.

It's chucking it down here today. And cold. I thought it was July... bah.

ug level two of 30 day shred is bad. and literal as I have cut open my big toes doing it! well actually I did it running, lord knows how.

chuckle I am just the same! I am starting to fret already that DH might pull out (as it were)! I hate not being to just inseminate myself this relying on someone else malarky is not amusing. that is why I like the every 2/3 days plan as hopefully we'll build up some momentum and also, last time it was rather nice and relaxing in the end. I was relaxed because I knew i had spermies there waiting whenever I ov'ed, and DH was happy having lots of sex :) I just want to be the other side of ov now, knowing we had lots of shags and are in with a damned fine chance.

must make flapjack. downside of 30 day shredding: hunger! could eat a tomato but... nah.

Can I just ask - what day of AF do you count as CD1? I have noticable spotting today but only on wiping. Tomorrow will be full on. Should I count tomorrow?

Wild, ew, poor you and those toes!!! Will look up those books, could use some nice holiday reading!

Hee, sorry about AF, although it sounds like it's not really hit yet? I usually start in quite a clear way so I count from the first show. How long have you been spotting?

Boo "I could have slept with my mouth open" and "green poo"!!!! That made me laugh out loud at work (I was catching up on the news while waiting a long time for IT support!). Temping never worked for me.

Dito Wild's reccomendation re honest, reliable ewcm! Mine's pretty reliable now that I know what it is, comes about two days before ov'ing. Yeah for your short AF, you're on your way!

Chuckle, I did the midnight sausage and chips again last night! It is soooo gooood and sooooo wrong!

No news here, CD 24 (so the earliest I ever have a period - no AF in sight yet) and dpo 8. No symptoms, but did find a mammoth spot behind my ear so could be the premenstrual one I usually get, and my legs feel like jelly by the time I get to the top of the stairs - usual pmt thing for me.

hee I never had spotting before mc but have had a day of light spotting every cycle since then. From extensive googling and counting days between OV and AF I count the day after spotting as day 1 (which is when things normally start properly for me)

first day of full flow is cd1 hee so not today. That would add another day to your LP.

I have spotting now since the mc, only for a day or two and I don't see it as anything to worry about... is it?! Just feels like AF coming slowly or is it more sinister? eek Am not a normal spotter, just post-mc... bladdy hormones.

well jell of your nightime sausage and chips one. I had sausage, fancy mash and veggies for dins with DS (early one, might as well eat together as DH out tonight!). made yorkshire puds but as usual came out flat, like little discs. Bloody. Little. Discs. Why. Won't. You. Rise.

Evening ladies, thanks for your replies. Spotting has been very light this afternoon so I think I'll not count today as CD1 which means a 10 day LP this month - yay

Chuckle never heard of the grapefruit juice thing but I love a new TTC idea so will be trying that one this month. Hope you get your EW soon.

boo Sounds like there is hope. I did like the graphs on FF but taking my temp everyday stressed me out too much. I think going by CM and OPKs is better for me. Hopefully you swi'd at the right time.

one You are making me want sausage and chips :o

wild I have only had the spotting since the mc and after some googling today it seems this is very common. I'm not going to worry about it for now

can't really believe I am discussing my bowel movements online!!
I have facebook open as well as mumsnet at the moment and sometimes I think how awful it would be to get the two mixed up...

Anyway, blimmin ff is totally confusing me as I put in that we had swi (earlier today) and suddenly it decided to make solid the dashed ov line for friday. wtf? It's got a mind of it's own.

hee day one is def first of full flow, so 10 day LP is pretty respectable no?

one it sounds hopeful... do you usually have midnight cravings...?

Just hearing forecast on tv... rain rain and more rain grrrr. Hope everyone's doing well.

I don't usually have midnight cravings, but nothing of the last 6 months has been normal, and I feel very premenstrual now, and have another lovely painful spot. My worry is I become a secret night eater and balloon out of all proportion!

Boo, your FF is being more confusing than friendly!

G'night ladies!

Lets hope these are pg symptoms rather than premenstrual one, being ridiculously hungry was my first clue with my DD and my last pg (resulting in 10lb weight gain!!)

Its grim here boo - rain all the way today. Suits me as DD has an ear infection so I am joining her on the sofa with a blanket for the day, if only she liked Jeremy Kyle instead of Peppa Pig!!

AF didn't arrive this morning so I poas.... I think there was a line.

I'm scared!

It wasn't with FMU as I initially decided not to test.

OMG, Hee, what a cliff hanger for the end of this thread, I'm off to work. Wish I could send you loads of cash for endless poas'ing. Will try and check in by phone later... (holds hand)

ooooh hee - tentative

FX and everything else extremely tightly crossed for you....

Can you try a CB digital to see the words??

Thanks one and kate. I have a superdrug digital at home so I will do that one tonight. I felt really sick on the way in to work this morning but I think it was just the shock!

OMG!!!! How exciting! Surely you are going out at lunchtime to get a test to pee on??!?!? If not POAS when you get home and give us a real time news feed!!!! Fingers and toes crossed here! x

ooooooooooooooooooh hee ooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!

x

ps did you do an IC or a FRER? cause I got a really super faint line on a IC last pg, but a lovely one on FRER... just if you happen to be passing a chemist at lunchtime...

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yo tinkers

I have taken it upon myself to make a new thread, although bugger knows why as we will all be upduffed this time next month! hurrah! xxx

:o
It was an IC. I have a couple of normal superdrug ones and a superdrug digi. I think I'll do a normal superdrug tonight then a digi in the morning. I'm sitting at my desk trying not to cry :) I had better not do a test in a toilets as it will be really obvious if I come back sobbing.
I'll do one as soon as I get home though :)

hmm. ok. still think you should do a frer at lunchtime though as they are da boom! oh no, take it back superdrug are meant to be good too aren't they.

excitement! am so happy for you!

if you are pg you have to remind me of all your shagging to get updiffed tricks that clearly worked this month

x

I so so want you all to be pg as soon as possible so we can have a special thread as you have all been fab.
Hmm lets see, we dtd every other day from day 8 to I think 17 with a couple of extras around ov. I did the cushion under the bum for 10 minutes after thing too.
Oh I really hope this sticks!

wheeeee :) thanks for that :) Am really trying NOT to obsessively plan our my shagging schedule but can't help it, in these here AF wilderness days is all I think about! And then I fret about starting too soon and getting fatigued as I don't ov till cd20. duh.

whee! can we have a special we're all upduffed thread then in the AN bit or something? exciting times; I would mark my place with fervent anticipation! :)

Shiny new thread started....

There you go wilde!!