Hoping for a May BFP?

[curiousgeorgie]

Had a search for a may BFP thread and couldn't see one (please correct me if there is!) so thought I'd start one..

curiousgeorgie - TTC #2 - Testing April 29th

Anyone with me?

Rubbish!! Everyones getting busy and im still bloody waiting for AF to Go.
CD5.

This month I will be mostly .... trying not to wish the days away before ovulating and then days of the 2ww.

I have made the decision today to not let this TTC malarky bother me anymore. What will be, will be.

I am going to get pregnant and have another baby I may be about 65 at this rate, but there you go, but just maybe not today (obv not today as CD5! But you get my meaning), so my resolution for this month is drink the wine and enjoy the baby free life while I can.

Whats the bet that im hyper when I ov then tearing my hair out the rest of the month.

Positive thoughts out to you all DTD and on the 2ww..

Well this is new. Cycle day 18 today and some slight brown spotting and very mild cramping. My last two cycles were 38 days and I've not had a positive OPK since starting them on day 12. My last period was very light for me, but I'd not really given it much thought, just assumed it was lighter than normal as it was definately a period, not spotting or anything. Anybody any idea WTF is going on? Could my body just be clearing itself out ready to start a shiny new cycle? Heeeelp!

@Ribs - I'm right there with you, DS is only a toddler and he's a real handful but at least he's sleeping through the night and i fit into my size 12 jeans, so i figure that i might as well enjoy the unbroken sleep and wardrobe of stuff i can fit into! hopefully i will get preg sooner rather than later but i guess it's all about seeing the positives in the situation i'm in at the minute rather than worrying about the situation i want to be in - esp since whenever i do get preg i'll prob be throwing up 24/7 and missing the vino (& going to zumba!) lol

@Sticklebricksuk - I'm on CD14 and on CD12 and today i've had some slight brown spotting too. No cramps, tho. Seems to be a huge amount of stuff on the web as to what it might mean but nothing conclusive, some websites saying you might hav a bit of spotting when you OV or you might have a bit of spotting as an implantation bleed etc etc, but there's nothing conclusive i've found. As long as it's not heavy bleeding i probably would just try not to worry about it and not think about it too much, that's what i'm trying to do anyway, because otherwise you get yourself worked up. Hang on in there, you can poas next week and then you'll know for sure whether the spotting was a preg sign or not...

(or u can just poas now and see whether your AF last month was really your AF, ifkwim?) ??

CD16 here and just got my smiley on my OV! Yeah!

Really pleased as I got my smiley last month on the same CD so perhaps my cycles are becoming more regular ? hope so!

As I'm doing SMEP I'll be DTD tonight, tomorrow. the day after, miss a day and then one more for luck ? phew!

This means this cycle I will have DTD CD 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 17, 18, and 20 ? I'll need a lie down (WITHOUT hubs!) after all that?.

lol @winkle, you're doing well, i'm on CD14 and we've managed...4 times i think?? you're a one woman sex machine! but you've got the smiley face, so it's green lights and full steam ahead, woo hoo! hopefully you'll be the first BFP for the thread

Hello all, definitely out for an April BFP, AF has arrived.

Having looked at our calenders I'll probably not get a May BFP either because DP will away for a 5 day golf trip right at OV time. I'm gutted

Obviously we'll still try up until he goes (will be using loads of sperm saving lube too to give it an extra chance but I'm highly doubtful). Desperately hoping for either a really early OV or a really really late one!

Good luck to all about OV, think fertile thoughts

Argh sorry to hear that Rue. Grrr at OH going away for 5 days - def stock up on the sperm with the lube!!!!

Littlemisssnowshine - good effort there too! Ate you doing every other day method or just doing it as much as you can?

Ribs- I know what you mean! I'm on CD 4 and am just wishing the days away until we can get cracking again!

Winkle- I'm exhausted just reading that!! This'll be our first month of tt - DP won't know what's hit him! How long have you all been trying for?

Rue- only just saw your message. Rubbish AF and rubbish golf trip- another reason not to like the silly sport! What lube do you use (honestly, this ttc business is more complicated than I ever realised!!)

Rue: business trip sounds rubbish, what a pain. Can he pop back home for a night or you go with him?

My implant came out 3/52 ago & no sign of AF. I have really sore boobs today though so think she may be on her way. Have been having random SWI as no idea what cycle day I'm on.

Interested to know how other people stay sane. I am struggling & it's only been 3 weeks. DH thinks we are both young, DD is 11 months and we should just RELAX. I'm just so scared of the idea of another ectopic pregnancy (& this probably infertility) I want to be pregnant but I want it not to be an ectopic so much more. Not sure if I am making any sense & hope I don't offend anyone.

Winkle: good news on the smiley. Just reading your post made me feel tired!

Ooops...iPhone! Post should say (& THUS probable infertility) changes the meaning a fair bit!

Boo for all the AFs on here, but yay to everyone gearing up for their May BFP!

Me, I haven't got a clue what's going on. Will somebody please tell me what the flipping nora my BBT is playing at? Geek's chart Initially I marked my ov date as day 17 due to other signs lining up, but I surely can't be on 17 dpo? Can I?? How long can it be??? My alternate cycles are all around the 28 day mark without fail (as per last month), so I do accept that I am on Month Squiffy.

Good news is DP will JIAJ on Friday morning ready for SA drop-off, so will then be able to book follow up appointment for SA and blood results some time around the end of April. We can then get on with planning our DTD days and I will really feel like we are off the mark then. At the moment I feel like I am the only person on these forums who is actually desperate to see AF arrive!

JIAJ- Jizz In A Jug?

Unfortunately toobreathless it's a 5 day jolly to the Algarve to play golf. Whilst I would love 5 days off work in the sun I deffo wouldn't want to play golf for 5 days! So he'll be there with his friends and I'll be here, without his sperm

My rational mind says suffering one ectopic will lower your chances of having another one, you know, lightning won't strike twice in the same place theory? However, I know fear is very often not a rational thing.

Got it in one Rue, one of the ladies on the brooking thread coined the term and it's kind of stuck in my mind. Of course, there are a number of variations on both 'J's!

Wishful - we were not trying but not preventing from August last year but to be honest we just weren't having enough sex. So we've really upped our game this year. After all you can take folic acid, give up smoking/drinking, etc, but the ONLY thing that's going to get your pregnant is having sex!!

Geek - I have no experience with charting but maybe someone else will and be able to help?

Breathless - I did the relaxing method last year, made no changes to my diet etc and no BFP so the relaxing method doesn't work for me!

Ha! Winkle, love it! You are so right the only thing to get you pregnant is having sex. I'm finding the 'relaxing method' anything but relaxing at the moment. The irony!

Rue: thank you for your kind words. The Algrave is about if a sticking point. You never know sods law the one month DH goes away you might ovulate early or late and get lucky. Unfortunately one ectopic does increase your risk of a further to up to 1 in 10 depending on your age, risk factors blah, blah, blah. DH thinks if we conceive this month fine, if it's one year away: also fine. I'm finding the uncertainty very hard.

@Winkle - no method in my madness at the min, just trying to fit in dtd where possible. Cant decide if having DS makes it harder to find the time (shattered&early morning starts!) or easier cos we tend to hav much more of a routine these days..hmm.. Either way, when I got preg before we werent trying / werent preventing (and cos of the pcos also not expecting!) so dtd whenever we're able to fit it in will hopefully get us the same results...

@Rue - oh no, both about AF arriving and your OH's badly timed golf trip. I think OH's work trip caught us out last month cos we were dtd loads around CD14 but I think I OV late, more like CD19 or so which was when DH was away for a few days. Needless to say...no bfp last month! But hopefully u'll hav better luck than me on that front tho

CD14 today and dont think i've OV yet, def going to get some OPKs for.next.month if I havent scored a BFP. Anyway giving DH the night off, since hes got the cold (yuck!) and he'll need his strength for rest of the week lol

Right, smiley today, conceive plus and legs in the air for half hour afterwards!! Not much more I can do is there?!

Curiousgeorgie - TTC #2 - Testing 1st May
morecoffee - ttc #3 - testing 1st and 15th may
Too breathless- TTC # 2- Testing 1st May
Dexi - TTC#1 - Testing 1st May
winkle2 - TTC #1 - Testing 2nd May
Hai1988- TTC #2 - Testing 3rd may
Figaro82 - TTC#1 - Testing 4th May
Cejay8 - TTC#2 - Testing 7th May
CraftyGirly - TTC#1 - Testing 7th May
StephieFranks - TTC#1 Testing May 8th ish
Sticklebricksuk TTC#1 - Testing 8 May
Tedmundo - TTC#3 - Testing 8th May
littlemiss - TTC #2 - Testing 9th May
OpenMindedSceptic - TTC#2 - Testing 9th May
Persuasion - TTC #1 - Testing 10th May
PandaWatch - TTC #1 - Testing 12th May
Geeklette - TTC#1 - Testing 19th May
RightUp - TTC #2 - Testing 19th May
Ribs - TTC#2 - Testing Mid to late May (keeping it vague)

Ok, have updated with my new date, think I had a 1 day AF, because had BFN today. Think all my 'pregnant feelings' can be put down to mirena removal. So am starting again, now on CD6 and feeling surprisingly positive.

Hi everyone! :)

Just been catching up on everyone's progress.

Im either on CD38 or CD26

Here's some of my weird cycle stats if anyone can work this out:

First day last period Mon 12th March and the last day was Mon 19th March
Had a bleed on Sat 24th March which lasted for 6 days!
The next week I had a BFP on Fri 6th April
BUT all further tests were BFN
Then... on 13th and 14th April, lots of EWCM. Not opking as no sticks left ARGH!

So, does anyone know what this means? I'm obviously not preg as have retested loads of times and got BFN every time (inc yesterday). Maybe it was a false positive? It was too bold to be an evap line though. Maybe a chemical preg? But no AF yet. And, what about the EWCM on 13th and 14th? Could I have ov then and therefore am I now on 2ww? Argghh!

Still dtd eas much as poss, mostly EOD although, we missed last night. :( we managed every day over potential ov weekend though.

@Winkle - Sounds like you've got all your bases covered lol unless there's some strange tantric babymaking position in the kama sutra that we've missed? could be fun to try that one out!

@Persuasion - Feeling positive seems to be a good strategy, the calmer, more chilled and more positive you feel the more in the mood to dtd and the more likely you'll be looking at a BFP sooner rather than later!

@morecoffee - that is all very strange Have your cycles always been like this or is it a recent thing? Have you recently come off pill/implant/coil? My cycles are always up the left too cos of pcos but there's things that seem to calm them down a bit for me, like staying at a healthy BMI, agnus castus drops, plenty of exercise and sleep and reflexology was good for me before too. I think it's basically impossible to track what's going on with your cycle when you have bleeding, then no bleeding, then more bleeding and BFNs followed by BFPs, it's very confusing and frustrating for you I'm sure everyone's already asked u this, but hav u been to the GP for a check up or a referral? I suppose all you do is wait and see if AF shows up, and just keep dtd as much as you can until/if it does. Good luck and hugs

Took night off from dtd last night in our house, prob get back to it tonight tho, but i'm off to zumba and then have to get showered when i get back and then have to get all ummm...sticky again...ho hum!

I used Conceive Plus last night and you know usually after DTD stuff comes out and then again the next morning? Well after using CP nothing came out till this afternoon! So hopefully it kept loads of sperm up there! I'll be using it tonight and tomorrow too.

I'm feeling really positive this month :) I felt positive in Feb, kinda meh in March and had no PMA in April but this month I can imagine seeing those 2 lines and telling all you girls on here, etc!

Hope I'm not setting myself up for a fall!

@ winkle - #we know what you're doing, we can hear the noises#. have fun tonight!!!

@ morecoffeemorecoffee .. That is beyond me hon. But DTD lots has to have been a good back up strategy so maybe take a test next week...?

This month is draaaaaaging. Still using opks but there is NO WAY I cannot drink or pee for 4 hrs. I think I test on 1 hr wee at best. Always negative... Hmm maybe that is where I am going wrong

DTD EOD ... Cd7 and 9 so far. night off tonight but back onto the job tomorrow. Romance is alive and kicking in our house...