Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Thanks everyone! I just wish I had a little bump, or bigger boobs or anything convincing. I neither look nor feel pregnant.

googie according to the internet 3 scans are routine in France 11-13 weeks, 21-24 weeks and 33 weeks. Of course, if you/your insurer will pay, you could have one privately at 9 weeks and then the normal one at 12-13 weeks.

laff I have had bleeding after epic constipation. Although I managed to ascertain, by means of rooting around up there, that it definitely was not coming from the front. I think the strain of constipation can break the small blood capillaries up your bum.

biscuits I ordered the angel sounds from Amazon that was £25. I couldn't justify £80. Maybe it will drive me crazier, but hopefully not. People think once you pass 12 weeks, you can relax, unfotunately, I can't! My scan does seem ages ago. I am seeing the consultant tomorrow to get my karyotyping results. I think that they are ok, cos if there was a problem, they would have seen me sooner than now. Maybe she can reassure me tomorrow.

Thanks for the words of wisdom about the bleeding Kat it's comforting to be here because no one really understands what I'm going through in RL.

I on the other hand do look pg. A colleague commented on my boobs, another one asked if I had eaten too many cakes. I try not to get upset by it cos people have no idea what I've been through!

Ha I look like I have eaten too many cakes anyway recently. I put on a stone after the last mc so I just look generally a bit fat and I'm sure nobody would notice any difference yet. How rude though for someone to make that remark to you!!

In keeping with the title of thread I am officially freaking out today. Had a brown blob appear when I went to the loo last night. Nothing since and no cramping. But all my miscarriages have started with a bit of brown spotting .
Am really hoping it's from when DH and I had sex on Sat morning (first time since bfp). But I can't help being on high alert now. Have a scan this afternoon at 4.40.
Sorry for me me me post. I see these 'oh shit I'm spotting' posts all the time on here and it always works out fine. I really really hope it's the same for me. Supposed to be 11 weeks.

digitalgirl

Oooh, lots of sympathy for the stress . . .

Good luck for your scan this afternoon.

digi so sorry you have to go through this stress. As you know, lots of us, myself included, have had the spotting.
I will be thinking of you this afternoon and hoping so much that it is good news for you.

Ah digi I'm just heading to bed and sincerely wish that when I log in again in the morning I'll see a line from you saying everything is ok. I think it is more likely to be a bit of cervix irritation than anything else, esP with no cramping.

I'm also putting the freak out room to good use as have had quite a crampy/backache day, which is a pre-AF feeling and makes me wonder why I'd be feeling like that unless it's all over for me. Less nausea and b

Gah! Bloody phone!

Erm, oh yes, less boob-ache too, although sitting here in bed I am forcing myself to remember that I woke up feeling shitty as per usual. Sigh. Anyway, will find out what's what soon enough.

Sympathy to those nervous post 12 weeks, I do remember it as being a really hard time with DS. A month or so of absolute limbo. Things all kicked off me at 17 weeks, that's when I first felt movement I was sure were movements and also HAD to switch to maternity stuff.

digi I'll be thinking of you at your scan this afternoon and hoping all is well.
I'm sure it will all be fine. Most bleeding in pregnancy doesn't mean the worst and there are loads of posts all over MN about bleeding in pregnancy after sex.

Biscuits everything is fine. You've had 2 fantastic scans and there is no reason to think that anything has changed. Second trimester MC is very rare as we all know, so just think you have got the worst part over now (1st trimester) and in another few weeks you will be able to feel your baby wriggling about.

Ha, says me! I'm am the most pessimistic person when it comes to myself. I am also mentalling today after having weird pains all weekend. Got a scan on Wednesday morning which should hopefully show a 10 week baby, but I won't sleep for the next 2 nights worrying about it.

Sorry to read everyone is having a bit of a bad time at the mo, fingers crossed all is well for us all and it is just mentalling.

Biscuits I felt first flutters at 15+6, confirmed by midwife at 16+1 so it might not be that long for you now

I also bought the cheaper angel sounds doppler and highly recommend it, has reduced my mentalling greatly - only advice I would give is don't try to find HB for ages, if you can't find it after a minute put it away, have a big drink and wait till you are bursting for the loo and try again. It got me stressed at first trying for 5 mins or so unsuccessfully so DH made me do it this way and it is MUCH better!

Digi keeping everything crossed for your scan this arvo. As everyone else says The bleeding is hopefully nothing but I know nothing will set your mind at rest apart from a scan so good luck xx

I am sure I am just fretting over nothing, but I think my stressing has gradually reduced a I went past the 8 and 12 week scans and has reached its minimum level and will remain here until I'm taking a baby home I think! There may be a slight decrease I'n stress (not visible to the naked eye) when I am getting regular movements.

Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

Digi I hope everything's ok this afternoon. I had lots of brown goo episodes and bleeding up until 14 weeks. I know that doesn't help though!

Thank goodness you have a scan today digi to put your mind at rest. I know how you feel. The sight of blood drives me to despair.

Thinking of you.

Well I?ll try to catch up but apologies if I miss anyone, been lurking but a combination of things meant I haven?t posted for a while. Have had my parents over visiting, been doing a little travelling and also have the most hideous sinus infection / sore throat / cold and cough that I think is possible to have. Seriously bemoaning the lack of drug taking at this point in time.

digi hope everything is ok at the scan today, i was too scared to dtd for ages in case it unsettled things and I just knew I?d be a basket case if i had any spotting. Poor dh has been very understanding.

Also my boobs have not changed in size at all, but i do now have a bump ? it popped out at pretty much 16 weeks. I also had crampy pains and back ache and generally af feelings for quite awhile, now I can definitely tell it is ligament but before it was hard to distinguish the difference. I am glad I had the 16 week scan to break up the wait between the 12 and 20 week one, it has definitely helped the mentalling for me. No movements here yet.

limeflower i eat five dried apricots a day (yep i count them out) and also find drinking apple juice helps things move along

lady yay for a good scan last week and fx for you for the next one

Welcome googie, i had my first scan at 9 weeks which was a good time for me, had also prev seen a hb and then mc so wanted to wait a bit longer this time

Welcome also to pointy and aandr

scarlett thinking of you for your scan on wednesday

Waves to biscuits, shellshock, LAF, kat, livin, moomin and any lurkling grads

To all those getting dopplers i second shellshock on not trying for ages to find the hb, in fact i couldn?t get it at all until nearly 16 weeks so after trying a couple of times unsuccessfully before then put it in the back of the cupboard for a couple of weeks. Last night as I was quite worried and nearly flipped out when I couldn?t find it but dh did a very methodical scan and found it for me. Didn?t get a good listen as it must have been wriggling all over the place but it was enough to make me a bit less stressed.

Haematologist rang last week when I was away to say my blood test the week before was a bit low and she wanted to increase my fragmin dose so now on 7500 in the morning and 5000 at night. So very nervous that either my being so poorly or not increasing the fragmin dose soon enough will have affected the bean but guess I?ll know more in a couple of weeks. GP gave me some antibiotics this morning so hopefully that will help clear things up and I?ll feel a bit better. I seriously thought I was through the worst of my ms but this last week has just been hideous, being in Italy and not being able to eat is like torture!

Quick question then on reading the last few posts - personal so don't anwser if you don't want to!

But have people started to DTD then? We still haven't since the BFP DH is fine about it, and we almost did the other morning but I was worried I'd get upset afterwards or panic for days so we didn't?

He thinks that we just won't do it now till after, but that seems a bit crazy in the cold light of day, but perfectly sensible at anytime it is on the cards!

I've done it a few times. I had a scare at 6+5 with some spotting and didn't do it again until 9 weeks, had another a couple of days ago. So probably about 5 times since conception and I'm 11+4 now!

shellshock we have once and that was just after we had the 16 week scan so I felt ok about it then - I did have lots of anxiety about it early on but now thinking I might be ok with the occasional go . Have berm sick since then so nothing more since then.

Have to admit we haven't. I have zero libido and I'm scared as I'd hate to see blood afterwards!

Ditto LAF

Agree with stitch too that I haven't felt well enough anyway for a lot of the time, I think maybe that's where this train of thought is coming from...got my iron dosage upped last week and feel a bit like I am coming out of the other side...which is prob why we almost DTD at the weekend and why I'm considering it a bit now...maybe after the next scan would be a good time like you say stitch thanks

Welcome, pointy and aandr.

Shellshock, we did it once my initial spotting had stopped for 2 weeks, and it was fine, but after the next time, I had some more spotting the day after, so I'm a bit wary now.

digi, hope the scan has gone ok.

kat, I'm feeling The Fear too. I've got 11 days til my scan, and I feel the same as you about mine. It's nearly 5 weeks since I saw my 6 week bean on the scan, and dreading being told the worst. Fingers crossed everything will be fine for both of us! I don't know how I'll get through the morning at work beforehand, I will be a nervous wreck. My nausea has virtually gone now, and I'm not even 12 weeks yet. Hoping that it's just that I've got to the stage where my body has adjusted to the hormones.

(waves to everyone else).

Baby fine - measuring spot on and good strong hb at 171bpm. Will post more later when I'm home. Thank you ladies

So relieved for you! Thank goodness for that!!

We haven't dtd since before the BFP. Purely because I don't want to risk any bleeding of any kind, it would just freak me out too much.

Yay that's fab news digi what a relief.