Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

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Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

Fuck it. Miscarriage

Oh Notnow - how awful. I'm so sorry to hear that news again. I'm sure this is a silly question but are you sure?

Moomin hope you get seen today and get some answers.

Thinking of you all today - take care everyone xx

I reckon - blood with clots last night and blood this morning. Feels the same as last time. I'll try and get seen at the EPAU this morning to confirm but I know really.
Thinking of you, Moomin.

notnow you poor thing. I do hope you get in at the EPU quickly and they can give you some answers. I'm sorry I've forgotten but how far along should you be? I'll be thinking of you.

Is there anyone who can go along with you?

Not quite seven weeks - one week better than last time. To be honest, have felt crap all the way through and have been waiting for this - have never got to the point of imagining an actual baby. Don't know what I'll do if it turns out I just can't carry a child. Still, must try not to get ahead of myself. Today's shit enough. Think I'll say goodbye now. Thanks for all the support - especially you, Biscuits. Good luck ladies.

Thinking if you Notnow - you know we're hear if you want to talk but understand if not - wishing you all the best xx

Apologies for typing - clearing I meant thinking of you and you know we're here

And clearly not clearing - sometimes I hate my iPhone!

So sorry notnow and if you are right, I hope it is over soon for you. Obviously you'll feel really shit about it but perhaps you will be eligible for some testing now. Wishing you all the best of luck in the future and hope you have that baby before long.

not now my heart goes out to you. It is just so sad. Thinking of you.

So sorry notnow that this is happening to you.

moomin hope you can get some answers and reassurance today

notnow I'm so very sorry to see your message. How awful and so very unfair. I hope at least that it's all straightforward and no horrible dragging out of physical stuff and that you can start the emotional recovery without anything else to deal with. So sorry.

notnow so sorry to hear it's happening again. It's so very unfair that it has to happen to anyone once let alone again and again.
I've had 4 mcs and have undergone tests for recurrent mcs, feel free to PM me if you have any questions, when you're ready.

moomi how are you today?

I had a call from the midwife today. I have a booking in appointment on Thursday. Hopefully won't have to cancel it after tomorrow's scan. Haven't ever got as far as a booking in...do you get referred for consultant care if you've had several early miscarriages or can you remain under midwife care?

I was already on shared care as I had seen the consultant before the midwife, as I suspect pretty much anyone on the clexane would have done. If you are not already seeing a consultant, or if you are wanting to transfer from private to NHS consultant, then your midwife will refer you. Even if you do get referred for consultant led care/shared care, you still get ordinary appointments with the midwife as far as i am aware. I intend to have all the routine midwife appointments and consultant appointments as extra on top if I can get away with it!

Oh and hooray for getting to booking in, it is a nice milestone when it becomes "official" :)

Evening ladies. Notnow, I'm so, so sorry to hear your awful news.

Thank you all so much for your kind words and advice, I haven't actually done anything today though. The bleeding is back to a lightish brown discharge, much like I had for the first few weeks of pregnancy, so I think that I'm going to take each day as it comes at the moment, if it gets heavy with pain, I will see a different GP for a 2nd opinion and demand a referral to the EPAU. I found my leaflet from the EPAU from last time, and it clearly states that once they have discharged you, should you have any further symptoms you should contact the GP who will refer you to the necessary department if appropriate. I have taken my wee sample to the Dr, so will see if a UTI has anything to do with the lower backache and heavy sensation in my belly. To be honest, I've just thrown myself into work today, and tried not to think about it all, and a part of me thinks that is there is bad news, something will happen before long. I had to wait 2 weeks between early scans a few weeks ago, so if I could do it then, not even knowing if there was a pregnancy in the right place, I can wait 17 days this time. I guess part of my is trying to deny there could be anything wrong! Especially as I'm looking more pregnant by the day. I hate going to the Drs and trying to explain myself and my fears all the time, yesterday really put me off trying to get any appointment today. They just make you feel as though you're being a drain on resources sometimes.

I'm not on any treatment, although I've had 3 miscarriages, they've been between children, so nobody has ever looked into it. I had 2 in a row in 2004, then the last one in 2007.

Hope everyone else is good!

Oh and digi, hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

digi good luck tomorrow. I was referred to consultant led care
as I've had three losses.

Hi all.

notnow....so sorry about the shitty mc. Fucking world is really unfair sometimes. :(
Moomin.....really hope your bean hangs on in there. I had my early dating scan today which showed 5wk sac. Going back fri to see if there is anything in it. Still feel positive and soooo relieved it not ectopic. Will post again fri when i know if pregnancy is starting or not....fingers crossed for me fri at 9am pls girls....xx

Just wanted to wish digi good luck for the scan today. Is it this morning or this afternoon? Is it an 8 weeker? (apologies - I'm so forgetful )

Oh no - 10 weeks I see - sorry

Good luck digi I hope you have a lovely scan today!

Good luck for your scan today digi

10+3, baby moving and hb flickering away!!! Tears of relief again.

Yay Digi fab news