Freak Out Room For Those Newly Updiffed After M/C Part VIII

[dooscooby]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the previous thread

notnow I'm so sorry to hear your news. Hopefully we'll see you back here very very soon xx

I noticed that the dates on the grads bit had gone a bit skewiff so I hope you don't mind me updating the list? Hopefully I haven't totally knackered it up :)

Wishing you all a restful and uneventful weekend

Friday 23rd September

Bump 24+1 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 23+5
Mamarara 23+1
Pigletmania 23+0
ladybird33 23+0 EDD 22/1/12
purpletoes 20+4 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
angela85 baby #2 19+4 EDD 13/2/12 next scan 30/9/11
MrsSteph 18+0 Next scan 20/07/11
Stitchinline 17+2 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 24/10/11
Shellshock7 16+5 EDD 4/3/12 next scan 17/10/11
LivinInTheMoment 16+5 EDD 4/3/12
LAF77 14+2, next scan 4/11/11
Biscuitsandtea 13+2 EDD 28/3/12, next scan 16/9/11
Kat2504 11+1 EDD 12/04/12, next scan 3/10/11
Digitalgirl 10+5 EDD 15/04/12, next scan 21/09/11
Moomin 10+5 EDD 15/04/12
LadyMaybe 7+5, next scan 22/09/11
Boodleboot 7+1 EDD 14/5/12, next scan 20/09/11
Googie 5+5

And on the grads thread too:

Daisybell - baby#1 41+3 weeks EDD 13 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 39+1 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 38+6 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 37+6 weeks EDD 7 October
IreneHeron - DS no 2, 35+5 weeks, EDD 23rd Oct.
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 35+4 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 35+4 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 35+3 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 34+0 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 33+6 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 34+1 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 31+5 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 31+1 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 31+0 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 30+6 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 30+3 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 29+4 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 -baby1 29+1 wks EDD 12th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 27+1 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 27+1 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 25+2 wks EDD 5th Jan
Sunchild77 Baby #3 25+0 wks EDD 6th Jan - Elcs at 39 wks
Freezingmyarseoff baby#2 24+6 wks EDD 7th Jan
Milkyways baby #2 24+5 wks EDD 8th January
Laylasmummy 22+6 weeks EDD 21 Jan
boodleboot - baby #4 7+1wks EDD 14th May

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... A&R; MumTum; Knitter, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance, Notnowimreading

Was on here a while ago, some people may remember me as IvySedai.
vv early days but have had two scans and we picked up tiny heartbeats on the dildocam last week.
EDD 20th may, babies #3&#4.

Congratulations pointy (if I may call you that) and welcome!

Welcome Pointy - and congratulations.

How many weeks does an edd of 20 May make you? (Maths brain not engaged yet this morning! )

will be 7 weeks on wednesday, but we are still in the realm of estimating a bit as on twin 1 and 2 seem to be a couple of days out.

Twins!! congratulations Pointy!

Well that's fab news Pointy - were you expecting twins or were they a surprise? xx

Hi All, Just peeking in really as I am not sure if I will get to stay - had a 6 week scan on Friday but no fetal pole yet so they dated me at 5w+4. I ov'd sometime between day 15-18 (EWCM stopped on day 18) so I am hoping it is just a bit early - just hoping there are some happy stories on here about dates being out ... Next scan is on Friday. I completely relate to all the knicker checking stories !! I am so leaky (tmi) it is not funny ...

Welcome pointy - twins how brilliant. I really don't get due dates - I am not 7w until next Friday but the EDD I have been given is the 17th May?!

Fantastic news A&R. In my opinion, if you ovulated after day 14, 5+4 is spot on. My 6ish weeks scan was 3 days behind what i thought it should be but it got the days back by 9 weeks.
Have everything crossed for your scan next Friday, hope you see a really lovely heartbeat!

they run in the family, so not surprised, but still shocked..

as for due dates, I only have a provisional date so far but was 5+5 at scan last week, but will have another soon to calculate some more.

notnow I'm sorry for your loss.Unfortunately some people open their mouth before they think.
Ladyglad the scan went well
pointytwins-gosh,I always wanted twins
LAF,there's always something to worry about,lack of symptoms,too many symptoms,twinges,pains and goodness knows what else.
googie have you booked your app yet?

I still have no symptoms at all,not even peeing more often.Just sore boobs and that's it.Eating loads though.I'm trying to ignore the fact that I'm pg hoping that it will keep me away from freaking out and sitting with my head in my pants.
Glad I'm going to the doc on Monday as started coughing-rattling like a skeleton in the biscuit tin.
Noticed EDD buddy on May thread-still lurking.

Bloody BBC promised good weather full of sunshine-the washing machine is loaded and it's lashing down outside.Should've known better bloody BBC forecasts.

Off to check the fridge-I'd like to munch something(again).Hope all of you will have a nice weekend

Hi pointy I remember you as IvyS - I was ladybee. Congratulations on your twins
boodleboot are you out there? Did you have a re-scan this week or is it still go come? Hope all is good with you.
AandR lovely to see you here, hope you do stick around. My EWCM always cleared the day after ov, if its the same for you then dates would be a little later. Yolk sac is also good, shows normal development thus far.
I have been soooo lazy today, but feel better for it, no sickness and less overall nausea. Won't get the same opportunity tomorrow unfortunately, off to see the inlaws. Hope I can stay awake after lunch!

Lady great news on the scan.
Notnow happy birthday and glad you startin to feel better.
Stickthem congrats on twins! and welcome back :)

So had my bookin in apmt yesterday it was grand. No waiting around at all. Had my bloods taken, scan and meeting with midwife. All went grand and was in and out in no time. The scan gave me a new EDD, i am now due in February not March! So thats fine by me! Got another set of pictures of baba to take home too.
I'll update the list to show my new dates now.

hi to all !
Leaves chocolate chip brownies and big pot of decaff for everyone x

Saturday 24th September

Bump 24+2 EDD 14/01/12
Hairylights 23+6
Mamarara 23+2
Pigletmania 23+1
ladybird33 23+1 EDD 22/1/12
purpletoes 20+5 EDD 08/02/12 next scan 04/10/11
angela85 baby #2 19+5 EDD 13/2/12 next scan 30/9/11
MrsSteph 18+1 Next scan 20/07/11
LivinInTheMoment 17+4 EDD 28/02/12
Stitchinline 17+3 EDD 29/02/12 next scan 24/10/11
Shellshock7 16+6 EDD 4/3/12 next scan 17/10/11
LAF77 14+3, next scan 4/11/11
Biscuitsandtea 13+3 EDD 28/3/12, next scan 16/9/11
Kat2504 11+2 EDD 12/04/12, next scan 3/10/11
Digitalgirl 10+6 EDD 15/04/12, next scan 21/09/11
Moomin 10+6 EDD 15/04/12
LadyMaybe 7+6, next scan 22/09/11
Boodleboot 7+2 EDD 14/5/12, next scan 20/09/11
Googie 5+6

And on the grads thread too:

Daisybell - baby#1 41+4 weeks EDD 13 September
Mamapower - Baby#1 39+2 weeks EDD 28 September
A lovely bunch of coconuts baby #2 39+0 weeks EDD 1 october
Emoo - baby#2 38+0 weeks EDD 7 October
IreneHeron - DS no 2, 35+6 weeks, EDD 23rd Oct.
Tunnocksteacake - baby#2 35+5 weeks EDD 24th October
Hotnspicyonions - baby#2 35+5 weeks EDD 24th October
Velvetcu - baby#1 35+4 wks EDD 25th October
MummyAbroad baby #2 34+1 wks EDD 4th November
CEP baby #2 34+0 wks EDD 5th Nov
Katherine2008 baby#2 34+2 EDD 10 November
Collieandpup baby #1 31+6 wks EDD 20th Nov
Wombatinwaiting - baby # 1 31+2 wks EDD 24th November
LaraMi baby #1 31+1 weeks EDD 25th November
Izzy - baby #3 31+0 wks EDD 26th November
Bigmacandhappymeal - baby#1 30+4 weeks EDD 29th November
Blackkat - baby #1 29+5 wks EDD 5th December
Minnie74 -baby1 29+2 wks EDD 12th December
Harassedandherbug - baby #4 27+2 wks EDD 22 December
Dooscooby - baby #1 27+2 wks EDD 22 December
Youremindmeofthebabe Baby#2 25+3 wks EDD 5th Jan
Sunchild77 Baby #3 25+1 wks EDD 6th Jan - Elcs at 39 wks
Freezingmyarseoff baby#2 25+0 wks EDD 7th Jan
Milkyways baby #2 25+6 wks EDD 8th January
Laylasmummy 23+0 weeks EDD 21 Jan
boodleboot - baby #4 7+2 wks EDD 14th May

In our thoughts and prayers
Dachs whose beautiful little babies Alexander & Felicia left this world sleeping

Thinking of.... A&R; MumTum; Knitter, Mistress P, willitbe, twittwoo, Lily06, doitnicely, freelance, Notnowimreading

Waves at pointy/ivy and AandR very exciting to have you on this thread!

Welcome lime

notnow glad to hear you were well taken care of. Hope you savoured that rare steak and glass of wine last night. Belated birthday wishes.

Lucky you getting a scan with your booking in livin. Do you still get your 20 week one?

I have another scan (private one this time) on Monday. And then my first GTT on the 5th - bleurgh. Not a fan of those. The hospital midwife called me at home yesterday to tell me they'd messed up my blood group test - was a little disconcerting to get a call at home but thankfully it wasn't serious.

Had a very productive day yesterday - day off with ds - but am flagging now and struggling to keep my eyes open at my inlaws (which is tedious at the best of times). DH, annoyingly, told MIL when I didn't really want them knowing till after the dating scan. He's informed her that I'm not talking about it as that is the main reason I didn't want them knowing. I just don't like talking about it with other people.

Digi I don't think i'm due another scan til my wk 28 appointment, so thats a long way away... :(
But i'll be back to the GP in 5wks so he will listen with the doppler.
Hopefully i'll soon start feeling kicks and movements so that will keep me going.

Morning everybody,how are you?
I'm grateful for every day that passes.Still eating like mad and no symptoms-except yawning straight away after getting up and constipation-haven't been to the loo in the last 2 days(sorry if TMI).Cough eased off a bit.

digi you must be some kind of legend on Conception board

keep ticking off those days limeflower every one that passes is a good sign.
I have lost the eating like mad thing.

8 days to my booking scan....am amazed to have made it so far but The Fear is really starting to set in now. I am in total terror of another mmc after seeing it alive twice this time. Perhaps I should get a doppler after all. I have avoided it so far to prevent even more mentalling.

Off to see the folks today for a nice sunday lunch, Guess who is driving?

drink lots of water lime, it might help a bit. (personally, the stupid amounts of courgette seem to work...)

kat good luck, I know The Fear too well.

digi hiiii! thought it was time to come out of the woodwork again and join in the mentalling here, rather than going over it in my head all the time.

still spotting slightly, but will trust my GP when she says she thinks it is from my cervix.. although she has obviously got no idea about drugs withdrawal, considering what she put me through over the last few days.

katit will be fine.think positive
pointyi'm drinking some peppermint tea everyday

Hi all, how's everyone feeling today?
I went to the doctor last week and he's given me a letter to take for a blood test to confirm it, then I need to go to the gyne. As I'm in France it's all a bit different here - not very joined up but everyone's helpful - so when I told the GP I was pregnant again he said 'what happened last time? did you have a baby?' so I started to say about the mmc but ended up having a little cry. What a twat I am! I pulled it together quickly though thankfully.

Last time, I heard the heartbeat at the 8 week scan but had an mmc at 11 weeks (after one tiny spot of blood made me make an emergency appointment) so I don't know whether to wait til after 8 weeks this time? when do you think is best for the first scan? It's all private here so I can make my own appointment.

good morning everyone. DH leaves for work at 5, so I'm up early! I've caved in an ordered a doppler this morning. I am panicking every day. I've had nightmares about losing the baby and I had a tiny pin point sized drop of blood on the loo roll yesterday. It came after an epic constipation session and seemed to come from the front, but maybe it was related to the back. Anyway, I haven't seen anymore of it, but I am still mentalling.

I think that I will talk to the midwife about counselling because I don't want to feel this hysteria all day long. However, I feel like if I don't consider the worst, I'll be unprepared if it happens. It's not fair to the baby though. I checked that what to expect when you are expecting book on Friday and inadvertently found myself in the miscarriage chapter. It said that second trimester miscarriages have a 1 in 1000 chance of happening. As there aren't 1,000 of us on the thread, we should all be safe :-) Most 2nd trimester miscarriages are due to infections (like toxoplasmosis) or incompetent cervix. I'm pretty sure I don't have an incompetent cervix as the sonographer made a point of telling me that it was 4cm at the scan and that was good.

limeflower copious quantities of dried apricots will get things going. I guarantee it!

I'm sorry that DH spilled the beans for you digi I know how annoying it can be when people know and you don't want them to. Ironically, it is often the people closest to us that can be the last to know because it can be the trickiest to tell them.

glad to see you back here aandr

it must have been good to see the baby again livin

you've come a long way kat we are cheering you on. Just think, you are on treatment this time, the pg is far more likely to have a better outcome. (I suppose I could give myself the same talk).

googie I think 8 weeks is a good time to have a scan. How many can you have in France? Could you go back at 10 and 12 weeks?

LAF, I'm with you on the mentalling front! The 12 week scan seems so long ago and it just feels as though nothing is happening now. I feel less queasy etc (which I know is supposed to happen in the second trimester) but haven't started feeling any kicks or anything yet. I'm only 14 weeks tomorrow so I wouldn't expect kicks yet but it is just that feeling of not knowing what is going on. I have a bit of a bump but have done for weeks and certainly since before the 12 week scan, and obv you can't tell if it is getting bigger day by day (iyswim - it doesn't change appreciably from one day to the next) so I am just frightened something will have gone wrong

I thought about a doppler but I wasn't sure at what stage you should be able to find the hb yourself? I wouldn't want to start panicking myself by not being able to find something and it really just be my incompetence!

Morning to everyone else.

Googie that is a tricky thing to gave to pick the times yourself. How many scans do you want / are you allowed to have? 8 weeks is a good time but given your history it might not be that reassuring . What if you waited until say 9 or 10 weeks? Can you then have another one at 12 or so weeks? Do they do anything like the dating / nuchal scan we have here? Does anyone co-ordinate your care or advise you?

Kat you're doing great - we're rooting for you.

xx

Oh, but just for reference *LAF, which Doppler did you order?