Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

That's great you've got a pic Cep, they don't give them at our epu if everythings ok, the only scan pic I got of dd was my 20 week scan. It really p**d me off at the time because if I had gone on to mc I wouldn't have had an 'alive' photo iykwim.

Have you heard back from the clinic yet hopeful? I was told by the epu nurse that there's no risk of scarring, but I already had it in my head that I must have some scaring already because that pg took 8 months to achieve and we caught first time with dd so I didn't want to risk it. Could you give it a week and then decide?

Anyway...dd's asleep so i really need to get the iron out, good excuse to watch neighbours tho!

mel they gave me one last time, but it went missing about 2-3 weeks before i had my last scan, weird or what, still haven't found it.

That's a shame Cep. I've got one from when they diagnosed my mc but it breaks my heart to look at it so it's hidden in a drawer. :(

Anyway, the window cleaners woke dd up so we're going to make some jammy dodgers, I'll come back later and hand them out! :)

Thanks for the warm welcome girls, the CBFM is back on and I'm just going to wait and see but in the meantime I am enjoying a couple of [wines]!

cep - brilliant news for you, hope all goes well from here.

bumpwanted nice to hear from you again, after that awful 2ww! I hope we both see BFPs soon (I hope we all do).

Good luck all x

yay for cep im so pleased for you and yes quite rightly lock that scan pic in the safe!

secure nice to meet you though sorry you have to be here, a special reason we have to wait we get married in mexico next April so we need to be careful with dates, this is my last chance as bean if we get it right would still only be 4 months old if i conceive this cycle, so we decided this month or wait til after the wedding, but as i MC in december im now so wanting to fall again.... I wont harbour on though as ive more than bored amused the lovely ladies here with weding talk !

chloe and harassed just a little worn out the 2 of us !!!! though it was much fun , is it collie or cep with the suspenders ???? though im a bit worried we may have over done things i really need to look at the smep and get a handle on that though i fear this month it is now too late !!!!

melies rl is a bit of a mess right now some lovely stuff ( wedding ttc etc) but others not so good (work family stuff etc) been a bit exhausting hence the reason OH locked our selves in friday night and hid from the world with lots of us time, takeaways and wine was nice to just forget rl shame we had to re enter it actually [whimsical face emoticon]

hi bump sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here but everyone is lovely so get comfy

Someone slap me with a fish...NOW.

I'm feeling shaky and faint. When I was pg last I nearly fainted at work and felt the same way, around the same time in my cycle, about a week past ovulation. I don't normally have faint spells, I only normally feel like this if I miss a meal and I had lunch, and I've had a smoothie and biscuit this afternoon (cooking dinner ATM). So could it be an implantation thing or do I seriously need a fish slap??!!!

mel < only cause you asked for one. i hope it is a sign but it is very early. keeping fx for you.

Congratulations cep so sooo happy for you!

way toooo much to catch up on here so just dropping in to say hi to everyone!

hope everyones had a good monday!

xx

cep tonnes of congratulations sooo chuffed for you.

collie hope you're ok.

PS. Can i ask what SMEP is, please?

Read this Minnie

www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

Sorry I'll try again

www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

Thanks mel that makes sense now. Better get the cough medicine out!
On third month with CBFM- might be something similar with the highs and peaks, maybe.

Good morning ladies, just trying to catch up after my mini break.

cep I'm so pleased that you saw your lil beans heart beating. Also glad that the bleeding stopped. Let's hope the next 6 weeks fly by problem free.

collie I'm so sorry about your loss.

mini I can personally recommend smeg plan. It certainly worked for a few of us on this thread, including me.

Good morning

Did you have a nice time ninu? were all of your family really pleased for you?

How are you today collie?

We kind of followed smep Minnie apart from starting a day early and I didn't take any cough medicine.

Thanks for the fish Cep! I needed it! I've still got a week and a half to go, arrrrrr! I hope you ladies have all been fishing and stocked up!

Hi to Chloe and Brooke and everyone else x

Hello everyone,

Just having a quick catch up as feeling a bit better today. Thanks for all your kind messages and thoughts. mels Nan was on my mums side, I don?t really see anything of my dads side (family dramas). Lost my granddad a year ago too, although he and Nan separated a long time ago. Very close to my Nan, so its been a tough couple of days. We?ve seen her struggle for so long though, I know that she is now resting, but its only a little comfort.

(sorry about that, don?t know where it came from)

chloe I am handing this out < for being so silly about the other day. Your sadness is totally understandable. We?ve all been on here feeling upset at pg announcements in rl. It?s the same thing here, your happy but its tinged with sadness. Anyway, I am loving your determination this month so here?s hoping the 3rd round of clomid is your last, and its 3rd time lucky for you!

cep just wanted to say again how happy I am that bean is ok. And glad that you got a scan pic. Keep it safe!

I?m doing my share of freaking out. Have had all sorts cramps and pains in my stomach for days ? its constant. And the wind ? I?m a disgrace.

Oh yeah, and do you remember my pg neighbour who announced her pg just after I mc ? for those of you who have been on here a while, I had my major meltdown. . Well so far I have managed to avoid not see her, but I bumped into her on the way to the hospital on Saturday. Anyway, out of politeness I asked how she was ? although didn?t actually mentioned the pg. First and only thing out of her mouth was, God I?m fat!!!! (She?s not yet 20wk) So I, quite gracefully I thought, added, well its all in a good cause. To which she retorted ?well when you?re your fat and cant fit ito your jeans its doesn?t feel that way??blah blah blah.? I?d stopped listening by then my head was fizzing and steam pumping out of my ears. Seriously I could have slapped her. Luckily for her me I had had my bfp and had other things on my mind, otherwise god knows what I might have said. In the end I didn?t say anything, I just walked off.

I see from the freak out room we have more bfps?.!!!!

yrmotb where are you up to on your cycle ? you muct have ovulated by now? I want to see you and chloe on the t?other thread this month! x

collie your neighbour sounds so self absorbed! Well done for not completely losing it! What's wrong with some people?! Try not to worry about your little aches and pains, it's probably your little bean snuggling in (easy for me to say I know!)

Well, im only 7 dpo and the symptom spotting has started...shaky spells, loads of white cm and left sided cramps obviously mean I'm pg!!!

mels i had LOTS of creamy cm and had an ache in my lower left side too. wouldn't say cramps, although could never think of better way to describe it. think it strated around 6/7 dpo too!! fx.

Just sat with laptop looking for new car ins as had email today with new quote that has doubled

collie It is frustrating to listen to pg moaners however I bet this lady hasn't had any fertility problems - I hate pg, absolutely hate it as I find it so uncomfortable, I have a vomit phobia and struggled to walk towards the end, I bet I moaned loads in my first pregnancy. I will never moan again if I am lucky enough to get there Some people just don't know how lucky they are, your neighbour sounds like on of them.

melies fingers xd for you, when will you be POAS then or have you already

Hello everyone, just wanted to say congrats to cep really happy everything is well. I am on cd 4 if you could update please.

Also just wondered if anyones first af after mc was quite light as keep hearing how heavy everyones was and mine is alot lighter than before.

collie don't encourage me!!!! I'm going to be unbearable this week as it is (apologies in advance!) I've vowed not to test until next Thursday at the absolute earliest Chloe, although I might need help to stay strong (I will not waste my money on expensive pee sticks that will only be negative anyway test I will not test...)

shorty mine was massively heavy for a few hours with clots then really light then stopped after 3 days, then restarted and lasted another week although I'm not sure how much of the second bleed was af and how much was coming from my cervix as I think I ovulated 2 days after it stopped (although saying that my edd with my dd from a scan at 8 weeks meant I must have caught about 2 days after my af had finished so anythings possible!

Blimey this is confusing! I just thought I'd get my usual AF after MC only a bit heavier. Had no idea it could stop and start and then I could ovulate really quickly!

Shorty and Melies its really helpful to hear what you have experienced. I MC'd really early on at 5 weeks and I feel like my system kick started again pretty much straight after as my hornone levels were back to normal in under a week so I wonder if it makes a differnece how early you MC?

I feel like a total control freak wanting to know exactly what is going to happen when!

xx

I'm not sure bumpwanted, I mc at 11+ weeks and has af 3 weeks later. I think everyone's just different tbh. I hope you aren't waiting long though .

Ah thanks I guess after feeling totally out of control the past month or so with the MC I am just obsessing and want to be in control of my body! Suspect I need to relax and go with the flow. Easier said than done I fear!!

Hope you get good news with your test next Thursday!

hi shorty mine was all a little confusing and very short times and im usually a true 28 dayer in my cycle....

my mc 29th dec but did then bleed for 3 weeks!!! then 2 weeks later did get positive ov test. Then 1 week after that got what i ended up considering my first af but this was very light in flow and was all brown (TMI)for 4 days it was suggested this was just left overs from the mc but i felt as i had ovulated it couldnt be. got another postive uv test about 10 days later so started TTC but then got proper af (full red flow) on 9th March.

I mc naturally with no interventions and i was thought to be approaching 8 weeks by my dates but scans showed a sac of only 5 weeks growth not sure if this was why i seemed to get off very lightly in the amount of flow pain etc but i think it could be. Realistically i think we are all different and you can only go with your body looking back at the times of mine it seems something was always going on but in rl it felt like everything took forever to happen.....

i poas (ovulation stick that is ladies before anyone gets too excited or fish slaps me he he he )and i have an absolute undeniable positive opk following 4 days of a feint line i get the feeling our weekend was of no use now !! but was glad that we refrained ( to damn tired) sunday night but did swi last night and i will just for good measure get the suspenders out tonight then its all fingers crossed for me ( though have already started thinking in my head if positive this time would be due 16th dec so could possible try again next month if i dont get a bfp this month, babe would then be due 15th ish jan... we fly to mexico 11th april so would be 3 months just ....thats a possible right ???? )

collie i agree with chloe and the others you have the most insensitive neighbour and she deserves a fish slap too !

waves to all whilst i get the chance and fx for melies though do try to refrain til at least 10 dpo before poas remind me of that in 2 weeks time please !!!