Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

Thanks for the new thread collie Hope it brings you lots of luck

Welcome milky haven't read your other thread but I will search for it after this. Sorry about your recurrent MCs but hopefully MN will bring you some support.

Olis I bet you lurk If not then see you Monday!

Mouse I am so sorry you have been messed about so much. I hope it goes ok for you today and you can get home and rest.

Iggly I know what you mean about taking things in your stride this month (I am so not this month ) but once I come off the Clomid I will as that's how ds was finally conceived, when I had given up all hope of it ever happening and forgetting about it!

Waves to everyone else!

Shot out of bed this morning bacuse I thought I had come on - could def feel that sensation of releasing fluid (sorry if tmi)but when I got to the toilet there was nothing there, literally nothing I actually took myself off to bed at 8.30pm because I was so tired and had mild period pains too. Still a week away from actually being able to test with a reliable stick as still only CD24.

My other issue is it is the first night of a Come Dine With Me game which i am involved in. Obviously the wine will be flowing, there will even probably be shots involved knowing our friends and I am not sure whether to fully abstain from drinking or have a few and avoid the shots and also avoid the 'hush hush she must be pregnant' giggles as they all know we are TTC. What do you reckon?

Thanks for the new thread collie
#13 turned out to be a lucky one, and I'm sure #14 will be too with all this POAS action already.

Chloe I just had a company event with open bar all night last night and come dine with me the night before- both very boozy, but I found if you have a full glass in front of you, no one really notices. As long as you don't openly say 'i'm not drinking'.

Oli don't feel bad about all the symptom spotting and the insane POAS action. I think it's normal to want something so much after what we lost, but let's try to prepare ourselves in case we're wrong. RE: your question earlier, I've been temping, using OPKs & ff. I always get ovulation pain so that is my biggest indicator.

Mouse thinking of you again today. So frustrating to hear it was pushed back. Hope the cloths haven't been too painful.

Welcome milky

cep hope there was no more blood today.

Waves to blackkat lili lily and everyone else.

Err...I meant the clots haven't been to painful. On my phone so predictor text finishes off my words.

Okay...here I come to mess up the stats again...(tmi alert!)

Just as I was about to finish work I started bleeding, fresh, clots, lots of it! Got myself in a panic, thinking what's going on? Is there more mc stuff to come out? Plus I really wasn't prepared for that (as in no sanitary towels, just a tiny pantyliner). Phone dh, what do I do? I know the out of hours gp will be as useful as a chocolate teapot! So I phoned the ward that treated me. She suggests it's af, I'm thinking what?! It's only been 3 weeks!!!! Anyway, as it's fresh I guess it must be! 3 weeks is normal apparently! To say I'm surprised tho is an understatement! They don't call it the WTF cycle for nothing! I'm glad my body seems in a hurry to sort itself out.

So sorry cep I'm cd 1!

morning all, wow i missed a lot last night.

welcome milky so sorry for your losses. again i haven't read your thread yet but will go look for it.

mouse so sorry you're being messed around, i hope the night went as well as could be and is ok for you today for your d&c

banana fx it's a sign for you. (i won't put sussies on it's a ghastly sight but i will shake some pompoms.)

chloe fx is a sign for you as well. i would have a few, make then last a while and have a glass or water next to it, so 1 sip wine, 1 sip water. i don't think at this stage it'll damage a bean caus e they're not taking anything from us yet. Think of all the women who go out drinking before even realise they're pg. infact two nights before i found i was pg with ds i got really drunk at my parents house and ds is fine.

iggly some find that relaxing about temping etc helps. good luck, and have fun i'm ok thankyou, no more blood this morning so yay.

collie how hot did you have the bath in the end?

so sorry if i missed anyone. hope you're all ok.

xpost ninu morning, you didn't say anything about you hope you're ok.

mel no worries, glad your body is getting back to normal so quickly.

SATURDAY'S LIST

Shorty ttc#2 cycle 1, ucl 30 cd45
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 4 UCL 28 CD27
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 CD26
LILI80 TTC #2 Cycle 1 UCL 34 CD26
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 1, UCL28 CD25
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 6 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD24
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD23
oli TTC#2 M/C#1 FEB 2011 UCL 30-31 CD21
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD19
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 CD19
Ninunina TTC#1 post MC1: Feb 11, WTF, UCL 28-35 CD19
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, CD18
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 cd18
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 CD16
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD12
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD11
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 CD 11
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 7 UCL33 CD 7
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD5
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD3
meliesmummy ttc#2 wtf cycle, UCL28 CD14

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 WTF
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 WTTC UCL 28/29 days
vegasmum ttc#1 wttc ucl? cd?
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? wtf

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD31 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD28 BFP 7/2/2011
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 BFP 18/2/11
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

Morning ladies hope everyone is o.k, i'm still really suffering with my chest infection, at least its giving me something else to focus on for a while though. Melie i'm glad that your body is getting back to normal as painful as it may be.

Thinking of you mouse hope today goes better than yesterday.

Welcome milky, everyone is lovely here and has made me feel very welcome. Has anyone had a d & c and a natural mc? Just wondering because when I had my d&c my cycle returned straight away and this time was a natural mc and still waiting, has anyone found the natural mc to take longer for cycle to return? X

i had a natural and it took 5 weeks for my af to return. Rest this weekend and keep warm.

shorty My first was a natural at 5 weeks and my AF came back straight away, took about 6 weeks after my D&C.

Mouse thinking of you - though know you will be back in by now. Do hope you keep being persistant and get the treatment you need and want. ((big hugs)) XX

milkyway welcome to this thread and hello again. I was so sorry to hear your story, and want to thank you again for the advice you gave to me after my m/c earlier this year . Really hope we can give you some support here, xx

Just to add (sorry to bore everyone else again) we'd been TTC for over 3 years before I got a BFP, and I've put off so many things in case I was pregnant, so now I don't say no to anything bcs I'm convinced we'll find a way to make it work if FX the thing we most want does happen. HTH?

banana FX for all your symptoms!

it's tough keeping up isn't it!! I'm struggling too.

Mel Just remember it is WTF, your first cycle can be super heavy MC. Friend of mine had to nip out from work to buy new trousers bcs it had leaked so much. So pleased for you that your body is settling down.

chloe the drinking thing is tough isn't it? Can you use the driving card? Early start in the morning? Sometimes it's easier just to abstain and ignore the questions? Hope you have a nice evening tho.

Cep,ohkeeperofthelist hope all ok with you and that you are having a lovely wknd

Shorty hope you are getting some TLC and begin to feel better soon.

Hello to collie, olis, hope you manage to chill over the next two weeks! We have fish at the ready ladies!

Waves to ninu, lili, lily, wellie, brooke hadrian laylas and everyone else I missed, hope you all have lovely weekends

Blimey, I don't visit for two days and I've missed so much!!

Welcome milky and shorty so sorry for your loss. Everyone on here is lovely, don't be afraid to ask anything, I did! Just to fill you in, I had a natural mc at 5 weeks just over 4 weeks ago and got a BFP on my WTF cycle, so fx for you.

CBDigi day yesterday said 2-3 weeks so I'm thinking I got pg about a week after I stopped bleeding.

Petrified as this Weds will be 5 weeks and so worried that I will mc again, probably worrying too much but its so hard not to get excited. I think I'll feel better once I have a scan and can see a bean on screen.

Well I have explained to the hosts that I will be joining them for a couple of glasses of wine but will be abstaining from shots, she was very accepting of this, she is aware of my situation so feel comfortable going with the knowledge that I won't be questioned tonight.

Also, either I am coming on a week early or I have implantation bleeding going on. Have just been to the toilet and seen brown cm in my knickers and on wiping. Getting a little excited, hope I am not going to be disappointed.

I'm finding it really hard not to test again, have read so many people that have had a bfp after mc and its been 6 weeks now. Pulling my hair out a bit. X

Just marking my place on the new thread - welcome milkyway sorry for your loss, you will find lots of friendly ears and support here.

mouse I hope you are doing OK, big hugs, I am so sorry for what you are having to go through. Hope it is all over soon

Get well shorty - so sorry you're not feeling so good, hope you have lots of tlc

Good luck chloe and collie

waves to everyone else!

shorty try not to worry too much, you will get there :)

mouse how are you feeling today?

Fx to all those POAS soon

mouse so sorry that you've had such a tough time, hope you are baring up alright! x Well ladies, FF has confirmed that I ov'd on CD14 which is a relief as I was paranoid about my cycles changing. SWI was well timed too, so now we're jut playing the waiting game! :) Hope you are all well x

I'm freaking out a bit here! (all the fault of google!) I had medical management 3 weeks ago tomorrow, bled properly for a week, brown gunk for another. Hpt positive 12 days ago, negative 5 days ago. Scan last mon tells me my uterus is empty. So logically my bleeding is af, right? It's fresh blood, but different so far to my normal af (a lot less blinkin painful, straight to 60 mph without the usual 2 days of brown spotting). The gynae nurse says af but really? After 3 weeks?! The pg loss website says I need to have had no bleeding for 20 days for it to be af?! WTF is going on!!!!!

Ps Chloe that sounds good, fx for you! Hello everyone else, sorry me me me post (I've only had 2 hours sleep in my defence!)

meliesmum DON'T GOOGLE!! I do all the time though My AF has dramatically changed since my MMC. I used to be super duper heavy, then it settled down a bit but since the MC all I ever produce is clots and lots of them, I have no brown discharge warning like I used to get just BAM! In the midwife's defence she has prob had to support woman post MC hundreds of times and so might have come across your situation a few times too? I hope it is your AF so you don't have that crappy wait for it to come in order to get back on track properly.

Not midwife, I meant nurse.

Yeah Chloe dont confuse us nurses with madmidwives! ! I know she's a nurse with prob years of experience (tbh we say all the time at work DON'T GOOGLE!) But I can't help it!!!! I was expecting it to take about 5 weeks. I guess if I didn't ovulate and all the hormones stopped it's a bit like the breakthru bleeding on the pill.

Ah my MIL is a retired midwife......actually that explains quite a lot

Thanks meliesmummy, I just replied to your thread in the miscarriage section :) What you have said is absolutely right - there may not be another time for a baby - I guess everytime I have tried to plan, I have miscarried, so maybe I should just do it without thinking.

My DH says he is happy with whatever I decide - I wanted to try this month, but we're going on holiday at the end of March, and it would just ruin the holiday if I miscarried there, plus I have exams in May and dont want to risk miscarrying during my exams. It's so sad - I plan my mc's, whereas any other woman would plan a baby :( Thanks for your reply.

Thank You so much to everyone for welcoming me - blackkat I hope you are okay now - mc is a terrible thing for anyone to go through, and thank you for the offer of support - it is so appreciated.

I have read the replies in my thread - and thank you cep and iggly - I agree whole heartedly, I will never regret having a baby at the wrong time.

I would happily like to say that I would class myself in the WTTC list .

Just poping on while driving down to London (I'm not behind the wheel obv) melies please try not to worry, it it most likely your cycle sorting itself out. You have had a bfn so in all likelihood it's nothing to worry about. Did you have your hcg levels tested? I think LILI had a similar experience a week or two back. I can't remember the detail but her gp said not to worry unless it continues, and doesn't settle. I know it's frustrating as all you want to do is get your body back to normal so you can ttc. X

chloe your spotting sounds promising. I know you have varied cycles but cd24 is early for bleeding for you. Are yoy still temping? Have you had a dip? Fingers are tightly crossed would love for you to be able to join cep on the nov bus!!

shorty it can take time for your WTF cycle to settle, they say up to 6 weeks. But you never know xx

IAFUDS fx for your 2ww wait.

more ewcm today but a -ve opk so looks luke my surge was yesterday. Temp rise today but had disturbed sleep so not fully reliable.
cep didn't have a bath in the end just swi!! how are you today?

chole have a lovely night tonight. Glad you decided to have a drink, but to drink sensibly. Were going to a friends to celebrate an engagement so am drinking but have packed a bottle of bubbly and bucks fiz so I can drink less!!
Happy Saturday all xxx

mel, I can understand the freaking out, it's so strange when your body doesn't do what you expect. But, your scan was clear and you've had a -ve test so it can only be AF, just different from what you're expecting and used to.
The PL website is brilliant, but remember everyone is different.

FWIW my first AF has me super confused too, I spotted for abt 4 days (never do that) then to proper AF, and far more than normal. So I have no idea what day to count from, so I could be on day 5 or day 8 depending what I count from!

hils great news about the CBdigi

Ifat FX for you

milkyway so glad you've reached a decision

chloe glad you have this eve sorted.

thinking of mouse and hoping today is going well

back to painting my window frames, man my life is exciting

Sorry for all the typos it's a very bumpy road!