Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

[Collie2]

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of , (caffeine free of course ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

collie believe me when I say that my dd is far from light footed! She sounds like an elephant coming down the stairs! She loves it though. Shes 3 and started at 2 1/2. Cb digis only measure from first day of missed af, they need a lot of hormone because they need to give such a clear answer.

Collie brilliant news about your stronger BFPs! at your DH. Mine got home very late and drunk last night and at first I was a bit at him being out partying... Turns out his friend told him they'd just been through a similar loss and the two of them spent the evening drinking and talking. Bit like a male MN I guess!

cep best of luck for Monday's scan. FX for you. I would be careful about swimming as well... Had a minor freak out earlier this week when I read I am not supposed to have a bath while bleeding.... having just come out of the bath when I read it. Oh well!

Hello everybody else. Chloe, very annoying situation with those shares. Hope it gets resolved soon.

Have a good day everyone! Sun is shining here... finally Spring perhaps.

Hi Ladies,

cep :) for no bleeding

Collie :) for BFP on digital!!

Chloe Thinking of you.

A BFP this morning. No mistaking. I am not going to move myself until after my period is due though. Does anyone know if I should start baby aspirin now or wait until after my period? Calling consultant Monday for progesterone...OMG I am so scared.

Meant to say after my period is due...duh!

banana yay for confirmation bfp.

dh will be with them anyway so i'll just watch from the side as dss want to show us some stuff he learnt at lessons. i'll take a book.

Hi all, it's just over a week since my MC, we've started trying again - it's the only thing I can think about and that I think will make me feel better! How do you know when your 'fertile' period is? Do you treat the MC bleeding as your last period? Want to make sure we're giving ourselves the best chance, but as much as I love my DH, don't think we can keep up the pace for a whole month!!!

Two of my friends at work are pregnant, one has just announced to the rest of the staff, and as happy as I am for her, I can't help thinking that it should be me too :( Makes me sound so selfish and self absorbed, but it's so hard when people who don't know about me are saying "Isn't it fantastic news...I wonder who will be next?" Don't think I could cope if I didn't get PG again soon...

Is this what most other ppl think or am I being obsessive?! We both feel ready, so I guess that's the important thing...just want to feel happy again! It's affected me more than I could have anticipated.

Good luck to everyone else who is TTC - I'm sending lots of positive vibes!

X

And meant to say big congrats for those who have found bfp result (had to check acronyms again!) :) xx

Hi littlemiss, welcome. When it comes to trying again I would recommend doing weekly pg tests and only starting when you get a bfn. This is for 2 reasons - you won't ovulate whilst there's still hcg in your system and it can take a few weeks to clear, and if you did one in a few weeks you wouldn't know if it was a bfp whether it was the pg you mc or a new one. When you get a bfn start using ovulation tests (cheap ones are fine, try amazon, tesco or wilkinsons) and they will give you an idea when to try, and when your body is getting back to normal. Meanwhile, hang around here to moan/ laugh as applicable!

Glad you are still getting bfps banana!

Well, dd's asleep, the sun is shining and we are only half an hour away!

Oh! And I just realised the only shoes I brought with me are my heels....should be interesting tomorrow, my parents live on a smallholding! Wellies and whatever old trainers I can dig out here I come!

Thanks to everyone who said hi. Been away for a couple of days and this thread is moving fast! I have had my most fertile days that I worked out on the online calculator so heres hoping it will work!

Hello everyone, been lurking for a while but not posted. Congrats to everyone with a bfp. Its been hard to keep up.

Welcome littlemiss, everyone is so lovely here. Sorry you have to be here though.

An update on me, I have had some spotting that is getting heavier so think af is here. I thought I would be happy to see it after such a long wait but I think I was convinced that it hadn't come because I was pregnant. Now feel empty again. I think i'm scared it will take another year for anything to happen and don't want to wait that long. X

evening all,

littlemiss sorry to hear about your loss.

mel hope you're having a good night away.

shorty sorry you're feeling a bit low hon, am relieved for you that it's here though as you can now move on a bit, and know what's going on more.

hope everyone else is ok.

Hi all. Quiet few days here.

noodle enjoy the next few days then

Glad your af is finally here shorty

What did you do yesterday in the end cep and Chloe? hope you got an early night in collie!

Wedding was nice, we're on the way home from my parents now. The venue was just beautiful and they looked so happy (felt I could relate to the line about supporting each other through the hard times!) plus dd was as good as gold. Weird seeing my ex and friend together though, kind of reminded me of all his irritating faults and as we left he was being sick whilst she stood outside the toilet! I couldn't help feeling a bit snug...

Hi All, on Cep's recommendation I'm looking to join you guys after a recent m/c at 6 weeks. Bleeding started one week ago but my hcg levels on Thursday were already down to 68 so trying to see the positive and focus on trying again.

I haven't had a chance to look through the thread yet but can anyone help on when to start trying? My GP advised wait for the next "bleed" then for another AF after that which just seems so long (my normal cycles are 33 days). I feel emotionally and hopefully physically ok to try now, I have a clear blue fertility monitor so I am assuming that if my hcg is low the next peak I get should be beacuase im ovulating.....

Sorry for the me post, I see some people have got BFPs recently huge congratulations, hoping this is a lucky thread for us all x

loup hi sweet, how you doing? when to start is completely up to you, once your bleeding has stopped and you're emotionally ready again. The best bit of advice is to make sure you get a BFN first, that way you know any bfp's are a new pg. I've attached 2 bits of reading for you. The GP's tend to advice waiting till after af mostly because of dating purposes.

www.pregnancyloss.info/trying_again.htm
www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm

mel so glad it went well and you enjoyed it. at your smugness.... i'd have been exactly the same.

Hi - Most of yous don't know me, I was here for a while and then gave up and left... I just wanted to butt in to wish IzzyWizzy a MASSHOOSIVE HUGMUNGOUS CONGRATULATIONS! :)

I'm so so so happy for you babe :)

• Also admitting to being a tad tearful when I read your post, you were so good to me and understanding. I wish you all the very very best, and a very happy and healthy 9 month... Lots of love...

Sorry for gushing!

(Still hoping for a bfp for myself sometime this year...)

Take care Mrs :D

Hi loup, welcome. I started trying as soon as I had a bfn, I would second what Cep said about waiting for that. I didn't wait for af but I've had one since.

We're having fun with all mine and my sisters old playmobil that I dug out this morning , bit annoyed though because i found an exact replica of the set I bought last week in the box, the packaging hasn't changed in 25 years! Glad it was only 2.99! I'll tell dd that the little girls are twins and the rabbits had babies!!!

Welcome loup and littlemiss, and I am so sorry for your loss. I am new here as well (MMC diagnosed weeks ago) and waiting to TTC. I second the advice about getting a BFN first so you know exactly what is going on. Got a faint BFP on Friday so hoping that will disappear soon. Odd to be hoping for a BFN for a change.

meliesmummy I am pleased you had a nice weekend at the wedding.

I had a reasonably good day, although suddenly annoyed at my pregnacare vitamins box, which has a smiley pregnant lady on the front. Can't they put something more neutral on.... I am sure a lot of users are post-MC TTC-ers... Anyway, just a silly little rant... May just have to switch brands!

Love

Hi all
Just been catching up on the thread. Massive congrats to everyone with new BFP's.
How long did it take after your mc to get pregnant again? We're just starting our 4th cycle (not sure if thats the right word?)and really hoping its a lucky thread!

Also how do i add myself to the list and what do all the acronyms stand for in it? I understand some but not sure of others xx

Hi all,

Just a quick note to say that AF got me today and I'm feeling a bit low about it all so am just going to lurk for a while if that's OK. I think I need a break from obssessing about ttc and a bit of time focusing on some of the good things in life.

If anyone updates the list today can you move me to the bottom, CD1?

I very much hope that all the BFPs are sticky little beans and that everyone else gets their good news soon!

Hi All,

I am so pleased there is a place to come where people know just how I am feeling.

I was on the November bus but had some bloods done on Friday and my hcg is 45 at 5 weeks so they think i have had a mc. I have to go back for another blood test on Tuesday but I know its a formality.

I just wanted to ask what happens now, as have had no bleeding and it could take weeks and weeks if ever to come away nataurally and I just want to get on with trying again!

I have IUI (artificial insemination) with clomid due to a problem with my partner so really need an af to start it.

Can anyoine advise what they may suggest in this situation, will it be a D&C?

Congrats to everyone with a BFP!!

hopeful, welcome. I'm not sure what happens in your situation to be honest, my loss was confirmed with a scan not bloods so I can't advise you sorry but I hope it all gets sorted quickly for you.

Best wishes Hadrian, I hope you get your bfp soon x

How are you Cep? All the very best for tomorrow, I've got everything crossed you come on here with good news in the morning x

Hello all, I would like to join too! I recently had a MC and it's nice to read some of the posts on here so I don't feel like I am the only person going through this! I find it really hard not to get fed up with the whole thing.

hopeful1 - my MC was at just past 5 weeks. I had blood tests on the Tuesday and the Thursday which showed I was MC and my Dr just told me to wait for a bleed to start and it came on the Sunday. It was just like a heavy AF. I'm sorry you are going through it too and I hope it gets sorted out quickly and you have a good Dr. I am on clomid too but because I have PCOS.

thanks happy and melies

I will hopefully find out more on tuesday

Hello all. Welcome to all the newbies. So sorry you find yourself here...loads of sticky vibes and baby dust coming your way!

Thinking of you today cep. Hope it's great news :)

I had a BFP on digital this morning, so I guess I have to admit it now. Eek. I will be on the phone right at 9am to my consultant. No symptoms other than boobs that are so sore I can't sleep on my front and really really tired, alot.