So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

Thanks wombat.

This is the boss who only let me have three days off for the mc and made me go back to work while still bleeding heavily, so not exactly the most understanding about any of this. And wouldn't let me take sick leave when I have flu even though I fainted at work one day because my temperature was so high and I should have been tucked up in bed.

Ooh angry Wombat is threatening to surface again [see other thread]. I'd be sorely tempted to get a sick note from the GP and tell your boss where to go. Sorry. I know it's not that straight forward in real life. Hugs. I really hope things calm down at work soon.

Hello hello

I thought I had better post seeing as topics Im on had nothing in it!

How is everyone? I'm sooooo busy with school I can't even think!

I am looking forward to the weekend already.

Hello, can I join in? I am following Wombat around (thank you for your friendliness x) Have just miscarried 1st pregnancy at 6 weeks, am now at home eating ice cream and trying to recover, will be TTC again as soon as I stop bleeding.
PS Is it wrong that I just took my folic acid/iron tablet with a glass of wine...?! Haven't had a drink for the last 6 weeks...

glad to see you have also joined us here Aurora. You knock back the folic acid with a large glass hon, make the most of it because hopefully you won't be drinking for too much longer Your post on the mother thread actually made me a bit weepy (in a feeling sorry for myself kind of a way) as I totally get the 'I enjoyed being pg feeling'. That then made me think how much much I just want to be a 'mum'.

dachs your boss sounds like a knob!! Please tell me boss is male and therefore half forgivable for being a moron

Hello to all the rest of you lovely ladies...any chance of someone jumping of their sunbed screaming BFP soon? We are all gonna be fabulous mums when we are allowed to move from the pool...I just know it x

Awww mamap you made me cry!!! It's so unfair isn't it.
I think I will still be round the pool when you lot have long run off with your bfps!!

Ow. computer crashed and lost big post :(

In short - I did a digi HPT tonight - BFN. Strange mixture of sad and relieved. Will do a more sensitive non-digi one in the morning to be sure it's all over.

Good night all. Sleep well and hugs to those in need xxx

Morning lovelies (might not still be morning by the time I hit 'send' on this as am sloooow today.

Welcome Aurora and that is a top idea following Wombat around as I believe she has a stash of biscuits - treating yourself is exactly the right thing to be doing now and folic acid and wine go beautifully together if you ask me :)

MamaP I was also enjoying the prg. feeling but I suspect now this may be because I was not barfing - which in turn was because I was actually no longer prg :( . Am hoping for at least some moderate vomming next time round to prevent mentalling about am I/aren't I etc. And you lot can laugh at me and remind me that I specifically requested this when I am barfing my guts up and whinging about it!

Wombat sounds like the all clear - depressingly weird but a Good Thing to help you move forwards I reckon. Hope you're feeling brighter this morning.

Kat hope the SWI is going well.

I am doing dismally here as today the evil CBFM says peak but it wasn't happening this morning and I can't see it happening tonight either :( Massive, massive arsecrackers. We did manage a half-hearted effort last night but I could see his heart wasn't in it. They only have to do this one thing which happens to be the thing they generally profess to wanting to do more of - until you TTC. Why is it so difficult??

mamap boss is in fact female, but the female variety who has never wanted kids and when needed to make people redundant chose the two part time working mothers...

owl thanks (I think - this being upside down is making my dizzy! :) )

(I'm going to ask them for a round of mixed cocktails, so hopefully there will be something there that all of you will like)

I do indeed have biscuits but I'm afraid all the chocolate ones have gone courtesy of me devouring two packs yesterday now just have Waitrose Essential Jam Sandwich Creams (which sounded a bit like they might combine the best of jammy dodgers and custard creams in one calorific snack - I'll let you know when I open them so you can all try).

On a totally non-TTC or miscarriage (but Waitrose - see above) -related note, I was in there the other day shopping for my mum and noted their new 'Essentials' range (meant to imitate Tesco basics I assume). I was rather tickled to spot the "Essential perfectly ripe baby avocados". I think that's my new definition of living well - "essential" ripe baby avocados... :)

owl what is it wih men! DH and I had words last night on the same subject. You ask them for one little thing, which in the grand scheme of things is nothing compared to what we go through, and it's like you're asking them for a massive favour. Now if it were any other situation, he'd be desperate for it!

wombat those biccies sounds good! Although if they are also essentials, I think that's another funny thing to add to the good life list :) I'd have thought Rich Tea or Digestives would be more liekly to make it onto the essential biscuit list. For me though, out of the basic biccies, it's ginger nuts that I like best.

Straw poll for favourite basic biccies: 1 vote for ginger nuts. Any others make the grade?

(FYI - I like ginger nuts for their dunking qualities. And I also like them when they're slightly stale 'cos I love them when they're a bit chewy rather than crunchy)

Humm, it's a tough one. I like choc caramel digestives for dunking (but you have to get the timing spot on so the caramel goes gooey but they don't go so soggy they fall off in your tea...

... am about to open the jam/cream thingies.

Well???? Any good? I love the idea of them being 'essential'.

I love chocolate caramels and ginger nuts but also jaffa cakes and rich teas, and those Fox's ones that come in a tin, and...

well you get the picture.

And yes, dachs ARGH. Am going to explain to DH that I have been carefully POASx7 mornings in a row waiting for this day to arrive, and now require his co-operation or I will be a miserable caah for the next 3 weeks. Does he want that? No he does not.

However I think the rantier I get the less attractive I am. Oh dear.

Perhaps we should all follow Aurora's basque example to get our DH's in the mood!

PS jam/cream biscuits are good but a definately a bit lacking in the chocolate department :)

owl am the same - hoping for some actual morning sickness next time round. And any other symptom that I lost at seven weeks this time. I will of course be wishing I didn't have them when the time comes but they will at least be a good sign.
I am not telling my DP about any of the opk stuff or any sciency details. He must have some clue about basic biology and the right time of the month really, but I don't tell him when it is and try to engineer a nice fun situation. Isn't it an irony that opk/baby talk is a major passion killer.

Starting the two week wait for the first time tonight. Will i keep sane and away from the first responses?
wombat hope it is all over for you know. I hated trying to get a BFN it just reminded me of how happy I was when I had a BFP for the first time. Wanting to see a BFN felt awful, but I was relieved when it did happen.

I love stale ginger nuts too!!!

Hello lovely Laydees.
I'm taking the plunge so to speak and sidiling in to enjoy the cocktails and lunacy banter.
I'll leave off the biccies for a while as I think I must have gained about half a stone whilst partying/staying with faahmilly over the last week.

I'm an old hat with this MC malarkey, my 6th was a molar Preg in Jan and we've been trying for around 3 years and this time again officially for 4 months.
I'm getting rather bored of it all and am starting to wonder if the pretty things I stroke in Mamas&Papas will ever feature in my life anytime soon.

Fookin hell, I need to snap out of this.
I'm going to grab a Sex on the Beach and a good book and sit by the bar if anyone needs me.

Dachs hope you're feeling better and not missing your pups too much.
I've not seen my puds for a week now and keep mithering the outlaws on the phone to see if he's eating/warm/happy.
I see him tomorrow.

Sorry not to namecheck you all, I'm being yelled at to move it, move it.
DP has now learnt to give me a 5 min warning when I'm on MN.... that was 15 mins ago.
Hi Owl, Velvet, Wombat, Kat, Mamap, Aurora and Hairy too.
Sorry if I've missed anyone , rilly must skidaddle. X

Hello lovelies - and welcome PV :)

Keep stroking the pretty things in M&P - it will happen, oh yes, I just need to sacrifice more goats.

BRING ON THE GOATS.

Kat I am also embarking on 2WW and I make a solemn pledge not to a: test with any type of POAS unless AF is actually late, and b: not to google for early symptoms and then pretend to myself I have them all. Oh and c: not to go completely fecking mental like I have done the last couple of cycles.

Ahem.

calm.

Oooh to stroking things in M&P. I happened to walk past a store two weeks ago and wandered in gazing at all the lovely things and feeling so excited at our little secret nobody knew about. All my plans and dreams. Little did I know then I was already losing/had lost our LO :(

Sorry. I don't seem to be having the best day today for some reason.

Oh god. Now sitting here blubbing at my desk at work. Pull yourself together woman!

And I'm out of biscuits. Maybe some virtual ones will help.

There. Enough for everyone to share.

Wombat oh noooooooooo! Snottering at work is never good, makes a right mess of your keyboard. This is all horribly new and painful for you right now but I promise it gets better, in time. You just need more biscuits. Lots more biscuits.

Thanks Owlshoes. Now one chai tea latte and one rocky road (the chocolate and marshmallow variety) down and feeling slightly less wobbly.

MummyA I forgive you for stealing biscuits from the Holiday Villa, but only because you've just had a load of fish guts dumped on your head on the other thread :)

Buahahahahahahahaaha (sorry about that, my fellow POAS-addict)