So near, yet so far! Holiday villa for those waiting TTC#1 having suffered mc

[MamaPower]

Hi all,

I need to take a holiday with some lovely peeps in the same position; I'm TTC#1 but had 2 mc's this year and now discovered my luteal phase is only 9 days (anything under 10 considered a defect) and probably the reason that I cannot retain a pregnancy.

If you have yet to be blessed with motherhood because mc has cruelly taken away your chance so far, then this is the place to retreat for some R & R whilst your body recovers.

Pull up a sun lounger, and lie back for some lighthearted banter and support whilst monitoring cycles or undergoing investigation and wash down the Vit B6, Agnus Castus, Progesterone and Clomid with a lovely vodka glass of sparkling spring water!!

Hello all, have been quiet due to a "feeling overly sorry for myself" day, but trying to pull myself together now, stiff upper lip helped by a glass of wine and piece of cake :) Please don't kick me out when I say I am not really a biscuit kind of girl. I like full-blown big slices of messy, gooey, fattening cake instead...

Went to hospital yesterday. Had a blood test, and they told me I'd had a miscarriage. Which I knew. (They also told me I was anaemic, which I also knew). Hence feeling sorry for myself. And had long chat to an old friend who is 13 weeks pregnant, and we had been so excited at being pregnant together.

Yes, you should all follow my basque example! It has arrived, and I am hoping that I might actually feel like wearing it when we go away a week on Saturday...

Wombat - I've done that too. Now I'm crying again. Back to the cake. Lots of love to all xx

Aurora I'm sorry you had your bad news confirmed. I hope your pregnant friend was able to be supportive. I also hope your lovely new basque cheers you up!

Biscuits, cake, cheese... I'm not too fussy really when it comes to treats. Except ice cream. I can take that or leave it. On the cake front - chocolate fudge cake with mascapone from pizza express is my all time fav :)

Incidentally. Someone suggested I take oil of evening primrose to get me back on track now (ie, ovulating, I suppose). Any thoughts on that? What about agnus castus? Had heard this is really strong and prob best not messed with! I am a complete vitamin junkie, btw. I take so many, I ought to rattle.

Wombat, I too can take or leave ice cream, except for Haagen Dazs Pralines and Cream. I ate a whole tub on Tuesday. Felt v sick afterwards.

sorry for butting in,

Aurora I used Evening Prim, but only in the first part of cycle, once you have ovulated you should stop. Cant say whether it helped as I had never checked pant snot before using it(its supposed to help with this) but I definately had plenty 2 days after a positive OPK. I also took Red Clover Blossom, again in the first half of the cycle only.

hope that helps...

Biscuits, cakes, snottering at work, Mojito's, sail boats and sunsets...I love you lot and quite frankly that little catch up has been the second only thing to make me smile today! The first thing to make me smile is that doc finally agreed I could have bloods and investigation into LPD. The rest of the day has been totally and utterly shite cause dh forgot I was going to doc's and when I said he showed little interest in producing our family he went mad accusing me of being obsessive blah blah blah... WTF?!! Sniffle sniffle

Where's Velvet? Did you pass out with the rrrrrrrum in that mojito? Isn't that just the perfect all time best summer drink!

Howdy Pretty (I just realised that i've always called you pretty even though everyone else has always called you PV...see your so special you have 2 names), at least while you are waiting there's a lovely pool and the poolside bar has been proving very busy of late!

Kat and Owl I have a lilo in the pool but I am prepared to use it as a fish slapping substitute should you even think about POAS .

Waves to Nicks, MA

Passes poolside cocktails to Dachs lottie, Hairy, Wakari hope you girls are all doing well?

Slightly that Choccy must be in Greece!

Ginger nuts and chocolate hobnobs oh and I am a dunker...always have been

That took an age, did I get you all, did I? Sorry if I didn't xx

Hello all. Been a bit quiet around here today so I thought I'd pop in to let you all know that I've got a viewing for another cute but totally unaffordable house tomorrow morning. It's got a lovely family room

Oh, and I haven't snottered at work today either

Hi snot face , happy day dream house hunting tomorrow x

Ha ha lilo slapping! nice one mamaP

I wish there was a stick you could POAS straight after. I hate having to wait. but suppose if there was a straightaway test all those horrible chem pregs would happen more. made best possible effort this month - three times in the "window" so it's all just wait and see. Totally depends if I have "measured the window" correctly. Ommmmmmmmmmmmm calm, must not purchase any first responses........ should I mention any sticks before the end of this month I need a serious slap.

MA never heard of the red clover blossom, what effect is that supposed to have?

Aurora sending you a death by chocolate gooey lovely slice of cake. Hope your trip away next weekend makes you feel a little better.

Today I have ordered us some champagne and strawberries. got to get your five a day ladies...... enjoy xxx

Kat Red Clover Blossom contains isoflavones which are estrogen-like compounds. However I have searched and searched and I can NOT find any scientific studies supporting its use for infertility, just a lot of stuff saying it has been used "traditionally" to treat irregular periods and menopause symptoms. (in contrast to AC where there ARE studies) I took it in the first half of the cycle in the hope that it would help my body make enough estrogen to kick start ovulation. I think it worked because I had a temp shift a week later

MA thanks for the info. Haven't tried AC yet so suppose that might be a first port of call once I have properly googled it. Have never been sure of the herbal stuff but if it is proven not to do any harm it must be worth a try. Have had positive opk this month so hoping ov isn't a worry.

on the other thread I posted some links about AC, 'fraid you will have to search back a bit to find them. Good news that you had pos OPK

hairy yay about the peak, hope you are making good use of it!Glad you are feeling better

My problem with the odd glass of wine is my fondess for a certain odd number called 3 :)

Welcome wakari I have ordered some nice fruity cocktails for us to enjoy on our loungers this afternoon so help yourself. Sorry you find yourself here, hope your holiday with us is short.

Boyfriend of on a boys fishing weekend so one of my friends coming to stay, and we will be going for a lovely meal out tonight Latin American style. Mmmmmmmm.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. Is lovely and sunny here at last.

MummyAbroad thanks, I am now avidly taking evening primrose oil and will look out for red clover. Any straws to clutch at, I will clutch. I suppose I'm just impatient... NB pant snot...titter. Never heard that expression before but it seems appropriate!
kat thank you for the chocolate cake :) - am considering baking some later as am feeling a bit better today.
And mamap, I hope dh is being more supportive today. wombat, how was the unaffordable house? We had someone come to look at our house today but it wasn't you as we haven't got a family room! (hence the need for us to move...)
TV and knitting for the rest of the day now I think. Hope everyone's having a good weekend xx

Phew, I have a minute or 2 to sit down and catch up with you all!

I love house hunting Wombat although it is annoying when you see one you want and either cant afford or you find out someone has already put an offer in! Our neighbours want to move so yesterday I had the whole "when you decide to have children you'll understand that these houses are a bit small" talk. As if you just "decide" and bingo out pops your healthy baby!!!

Anyway, despite staying away from stats obviously i am aware that it is my SWI week this week but I'm not going crazy about it. Will probably try for every other day but I'm trying to chill about the whole TTC thing.

Hope everyone is ok. I have 2 pregnant ex-colleagues moaning about not fitting into any clothes on FB - I wish there was an "ignore pregnant women" function!

mamap hope DH is behaving himself better today. He sounds exactly like my DH, who forgot I had an appointment at the clinic and then accused me of being melodramatic when I pointed out I needed him to be supportive and interested and that I felt like I was doing this all on my own... He has, however, popped out this afternoon to buy some portable heaters 'cos I'm turning into an ice cube with no heating, so he's redeeming himself a little. Although his first response was 'put on another top' (This was despite me being bundled up under a blanket with two jumpers on already and blue fingers)

wombat How did the viewing go this morning?

Velvet Good luck with the SWI. Pregnant people posting about their pg on fb should be illegal... Photos doubly so.

aurora If you do bake later, can I nab some? :)

kat Enjoy your girls weekend! All this talk of food is making me hungry! :)

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

I am still dachshundless, as we decided to leave them in kennels until the building work was finished, and I'm missing them horribly.

I did bake - old-fashioned seed cake from a Delia recipe - not v exciting but nice, with a crispy sugary top :) All are welcome to a slice!

Evening all. I'm on phone so can't post much (and can't access the other thread for some reason). I'm away for the night at a reunion dinner. Lovely eve and only two pregnancy announcements... :(

House this morning was nice but it's amazing how little you get for your money in our area. Quite terrifying. Still we'll find our nest eventually.

Will do personals tomorrow. Hope you're all having a relaxing weekend x

wombat without meaning to pry, where is 'your area'? All you can get in my preferred area for what we have is a tiny little shoebox and I keep looking at properties on rightmove and falling in love with them, but then DH turns round and says we can't afford things that cost four times as much as our combined salaries will get us on a mortgage. I think we'll be moving in a year or two, but I still have to persuade him that winning the lottery is the way to go...

Hello everyone else. The house is fractionally warmer now we have some heaters, but it'll be nice to get our central heating and hot water back tomorrow.

Got woken up by phone...at 8am on a Sunday! How rude!

Not very romantic this ttc is it? I just assumed I'd be like all the other women in my family... it would just happen, now Im using OPK and sticking a thermometer in my mouth before I even move!

PS dachs DH much improved and yesterday sat patiently through me explaining the temping thing... hee hee!
Can I have a lovely slice of toast to go with that cuppa you just made please? mmmm!

ooh. Tea and toast in bed! Wow you girls are amazing!

Dachs 'our area' is south buckinghamshire, just outside london but easily commutable. Just where everyone else in the world (or just the lottery winners!?!) wants to live it would seem!

Ps DH says I have to tell you that he is actually now making me tea in bed (he didn't want to be put to shame by you all!)

Morning all :)

I know that feeling, wombat , I live in Oxford and frankly if you can afford more than a garden shed here you are lucky :/ It's the London commmute thing again. Why on earth does everyone want to go to London? It's smelly and full of grumpy people.

DH wanted to move to a bigger garden shed the minute I told him about the bfp but he now unfortunately understands why so many people seem to move during their third trimester instead of earlier on...needless to say we won't be moving any time soon and if we ever manage to conceive again the offspring will have to sleep in a cardboard box in our bedroom. Ah well, they're only small aren't they?

grrrr unexpected emotional grrr in IKEA where i went for plates and teatowels and a shoe rack but the walk around the place takes you through the kiddy area with cots and toys and highchairs. A few months ago I was browsing there with intent to buy the stuff :( Gave me a horrible sad feeling.

I've been trying the bbt a bit with the original intent of doing it properly next month but since I wake up at 6 on weekdays, I'd have to do that on weekends and I think there is no way that is going to happen.

Very pleased that I don't have any pg friends at the moment, or colleagues. Obviously would be happy for anyone to get updiffed, but it does make my life a bit easier at the moment.

I also can't afford to buy anything larger than a garden shed. How does anyone on normal salaries buy a house in the south east?

Sharing some nice choccie biccies from Ikea and hoping you ladies are having a nice time by the pool today.

yep, our garden shed is also in the south east - berkshire. commuterville is expensive. we were thinking of relocating to south bucks wombat (so DH could have a better commute) but our current commute takes us into paddington and my office is about 3 minutes walk from the station, so I want to stay in the area we currently live! hope you enjoyed your tea in bed!

kat sorry you had one of those moments today

owl thanks. it's much nicer now the house isn't a freezer.

mamap I hope your day improved!

aurora forgot to say thanks for the cake!