Feeling devastated about caesarean after breech baby turned again

[DefiantRabbit9]

My baby was breech I had an ECV last week and today I found out she's back to being breech. The obstetricians want to do a C section and I HATE it. All she had to do was stay put.

It feels like another dream life has robbed me of. A core fundamental experience of my being that I can't have. I feel anger, resentment and grief. I've literally done everything right and still failed.

I'm no more giving birth than when I had a 1.3kg fibroid cut out of me. Might as well have just swaddled that. I didn't go 40 years, get a 7K pay cut and exist the last 3 months in pain just to be sliced open and a flesh ball plopped on me. The reality that I will probably never give birth has destroyed my attachment to her.

Congratulation! Wishing you a speedy recovery. Enjoy your little one. 🩷

Congratulations ❤️

@DefiantRabbit9 I am so pleased your baby is with you safely and all is going well. Congratulations! Wishing you and your daughter all the best.

Oh how wonderful for you. Well done!!

Congratulations 🎉 🎉
Enjoy your bundle of joy xx

Hi
I had an assisted delivery after ecv and a c-section.
I think if a baby is breach - it might be the baby and or your body telling you something is not primed and ready for natural birth.
Could the cord be v. Short, wrapped round baby etc
ECV babies are significantly more likely to need instrumental delivery too .
My 2nd birth was best experience of my life btw

Of course I agree that at times it's absolutely the best and safest thing for the mother and baby for baby to be born by c-section when nature causes a curve ball....or if mother simply chooses c-section over vaginal birth due to mental health/anxiety issues (I myself might have opted for c-section as I was v anxious about the prospect of giving birth "naturally"). Each case is different. I was simply taking issue to the poster who was actually putting down vaginal births and saying c-section was superior to vaginal. That riled me. Each situation has to be taken on its own merit and balance of safety.

I had a successful ECV and baby stayed head down. Ultimately after DAYS in labour with no sleep I had to have a C-section anyway to get her out. I'm now pregnant with my second and just had my 36 week scan. Guess what? Baby is breech again. I'm disappointed and absolutely gutted for myself that I'll have to have a C-section again. However, that's not the babies fault. You are allowed to be angry, but you need to redirect your anger away from the baby. Definitely get some counselling as moving forwards as a new mum you're going to be exhausted and you can't take those frustrations out on your child. Being a mother is learning that you always come second, and that's the beauty of it. I wish you all the best