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Common racist comments you hear in 2023?

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SleepDreamThinkHuge · 28/04/2023 06:48

Compared to 30 years ago, how is racism different today?

For me, racism terms such as the n word p word are less used than they were 30 years ago. However, people have looked at other avenues. See comments below.

  1. "You have a chip over your shoulder" every time someone mentions racism or their lived experience it goes straight to denial mode. You are blamed for your lived experiences and told to get over it and how UK is not racist.

  2. "The UK abolished slavery. slavery was a long time ago." Every time someone tries to put forward a view of reparations of people who are still suffering from the effects of slavery they are shut down. "that was a long time ago we have changed and evolved."

  3. "I feel like a foreigner in my own country." Which is probably one of the most stupid statements considering that over 80 percent of the population is white. I always answer if you feel like a foreigner how do minorities feel?

  4. "name the racists" commonly said for Megan Markle that she should name the racists she claimed in the Royal family. But lets be honest if you did that the other person in whatever circumstance would just deny it and ultimately you will not be believed and be called someone who plays the race card and tarnishing other people's careers.

  5. "Why do black people have their own spaces if white people had it we would be accused of racism" This is commonly said by the same people who are not as vocal when other groups have their own space e.g. women, LGBT groups etc.. It just seems like whenever black people have their own space people have to put them down. Take Ngozi Fulani the media made it seem she was the bad person people argued why her charity helps black people suffering from domestic abuse. Sad how she was forced out Sistah Space due to the abuse she faced but the media never mention that and the racism she had to face.

  6. "Racism exists in all communities" this is another common one used and is a whataboutery technique. We have seen this with people like Kanye, KSI recently but what people forget there was a lot of criticism from the black community with their actions. So to suggest the black community or any other community does not do anything about racism is for the birds.

  7. "My best friend is black" This is something you would hear from the EDL or Britain First. But you would be surprised how often you hear this by a lot of people. Just because your friend or relative is black, Muslim, Asian etc does not mean you cannot be racist. Even if you are a white mother and your child is mixed race does not mean you cannot be racist. It is baffling how a lot of people seem to forget this and think that my saying I cannot be racist because of this automatically means they cannot.

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Roussette · 09/06/2023 09:24

skullbabe · 09/06/2023 08:55

It certainly has brought out people who think they are reasonable but prove to be anything but. Truly eye opening.

The trouble is..the TG are very narrow and some posters are very adept at remaining just within them.
And many people can see what they actually want to post versus what they do. It shines out like a beacon lol

I must add here, I am not a POC but want to learn and understand

LadyKenya · 09/06/2023 13:48

Exchange230316 · 09/06/2023 08:57

@meowgoeswho
I will support you on this. The racism on mumsnet is appalling and tiring at the same time. I really think the site should be called out for it and I find I am using MN less and less now. It very much to me feels like a white space and when online I look for other forums to discuss topics now.

Same. I am fed up with the racism that is going on here as well.

BiscuitsBiscuitsEverywhere · 09/06/2023 15:28

@Lndnmummyyour posts on that thread from two years ago were excellent. Alas, they seem to have fallen on deaf ears. It's infuriating that the only response from MNHQ was to pinpoint a few specific posts/posters rather than to address the larger issue of the rampant racism on MN. And nothing has changed since that thread. If anything, the racism on MN has become worse.

meowgoeswho · 09/06/2023 16:33

Lndnmummy · 09/06/2023 12:16

Wow! Well done, excellent questions posted but the response of "pls give examples", is very unhelpful.

As a woman of colour, I find the gaslighting and whitesplaining very disturbing. For example, when racism is brought up - the backlash is either "oh but there's inyeranal racism within the black community, they judge their own by colourism, or "oh the Indians have the caste system", "Muslims are homophobic so it's ok to be anti Islam" - the narrative that's spouted is disturbing. It's a "it's not us, it's you" problem when it comes to racism.

Can I pls ask how I can access one of these threads as I'd like to open a discussion with them.

Big clap for the questions you put forth in the thread - very eloquent and hope I can follow suit. Daffodil

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 09/06/2023 17:59

skullbabe · 09/06/2023 08:55

It certainly has brought out people who think they are reasonable but prove to be anything but. Truly eye opening.

When I was growing up racists had skinheads, Crombie's / green bomber jackets, Bovver Boots and tear tattoos, or they spoke their truth to your face. Now they hide behind keyboards and the worst of them campaign for White women's rights. The sad thing is these people police us, they teach our children, make our laws, employ us and 'look' after our health and welfare. Of this loose list there isn't an areas that I have not experience racism in and I don't even have a relationship with the police! Judging from the uninformed, blinkered racist drivel on some of these threads, that behaviour is not changing in my lifetime. The irony is that many of these racist as hell 'do-gooders' are likely sporting lunch break lips, frozen faces, huge arses, orange skin and extensions that no decent black woman would be seen within 10 miles of.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 09/06/2023 18:05

Lndnmummy · 09/06/2023 12:16

Great post! I could only read down a couple of posts it was so triggering.<<sigh>>

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 10/06/2023 10:32

Another racist comment I am hearing more regularly is 'X' insert fantasy/character is supposed to white - Harry Potter, The Hunger Games, Disney's Little Mermaid... To be fair all the mermaids I have seen in real life were... Apparently its not a prejudiced view, it's just about being true to the source material. Yet here is JK Rowling - I loved her response to the criticism of Noma Dumezweni (An amazing actor) being cast as Hermoine "I had a bunch of racists telling me that because Hermione 'turned white' that is, lost colour from her face after a shock that she must be a white woman, which I have a great deal of difficulty with," Rowling said. "But I decided not to get too agitated about it and simply state quite firmly that Hermione can be a black woman with my absolute blessing and enthusiasm."

Reugny · 10/06/2023 11:38

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting you missed out James Bond and Dr Who.

AnAngelAtMyTableWithMe · 10/06/2023 12:04

who knew mermaids and timelords were all white huh... god it is irritating!

PinotGroggio · 10/06/2023 13:43

I saw someone say they didn't think Halle Berry was great in The Little Mermaid. Perhaps because she wasn't actually in it?

Yet I bet they'd never confuse Emma Thompson for Emma Watson!

HadalyEve · 10/06/2023 14:41

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 10/06/2023 10:32

Another racist comment I am hearing more regularly is 'X' insert fantasy/character is supposed to white - Harry Potter, The Hunger Games, Disney's Little Mermaid... To be fair all the mermaids I have seen in real life were... Apparently its not a prejudiced view, it's just about being true to the source material. Yet here is JK Rowling - I loved her response to the criticism of Noma Dumezweni (An amazing actor) being cast as Hermoine "I had a bunch of racists telling me that because Hermione 'turned white' that is, lost colour from her face after a shock that she must be a white woman, which I have a great deal of difficulty with," Rowling said. "But I decided not to get too agitated about it and simply state quite firmly that Hermione can be a black woman with my absolute blessing and enthusiasm."

I thought that mermaids had green & blue iridescent skin in the original myths and got princessed by Disney.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 10/06/2023 19:18

Reugny · 10/06/2023 11:38

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting you missed out James Bond and Dr Who.

I did, thanks for the prompt and the fantastic 4!

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 10/06/2023 19:22

HadalyEve · 10/06/2023 14:41

I thought that mermaids had green & blue iridescent skin in the original myths and got princessed by Disney.

They would consider that fact irrelevant, I suspect.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 10/06/2023 19:48

AnAngelAtMyTableWithMe · 10/06/2023 12:04

who knew mermaids and timelords were all white huh... god it is irritating!

Well you know white is the most common colour for fish 😂

Reugny · 13/06/2023 18:30

Why do they do the same threads again in less than a week?

When people do this on other forums I'm on that get their money through sponsors and advertisers they are warned then banned.

Startofit · 15/06/2023 18:30

Oh look, another "too many non-white people on TV" thread.

HadalyEve · 15/06/2023 21:42

Startofit · 15/06/2023 18:30

Oh look, another "too many non-white people on TV" thread.

There’s a “my teen DC are too fragile to learn about racism that happens to other DC even younger than them by watching an educational show” thread as well.

LadyKenya · 15/06/2023 22:04

Yes, it is all so pathetic. I just ignore those types of threads. There is now a figurine one to add to the dross on offer to read.

HadalyEve · 15/06/2023 22:07

I agree.

LadyKenya · 15/06/2023 22:16

I don't want to sound like a cracked record, but honestly I would just like to come on here for at least one day, and not see some iffy thread, or iffy posts. It is tiresome, and depressing.

PinotGroggio · 15/06/2023 22:50

Startofit · 15/06/2023 18:30

Oh look, another "too many non-white people on TV" thread.

It's WOKE, it's all WOKE and the fault of the WOKESTERS!

🙄🙄

Reugny · 16/06/2023 22:50

LadyKenya · 15/06/2023 22:16

I don't want to sound like a cracked record, but honestly I would just like to come on here for at least one day, and not see some iffy thread, or iffy posts. It is tiresome, and depressing.

You mean you would like some decent moderation?

debbrianna · 17/06/2023 09:00

"Prince Harry thought he married a modern wife".

PinotGroggio · 17/06/2023 09:01

debbrianna · 17/06/2023 09:00

"Prince Harry thought he married a modern wife".

But wait, I thought by Mumsnet standards she's too modern? Yet apparently not a feminist.

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