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Oh my god ... Help me please I don't know what to do!!!

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Mummy2TandF · 29/08/2007 09:48

my dh went fishing last night and at 11:30pm I had a knock on the door from the police .... My dh has been found dead on a footpath at the lake They think it was a massive heart attack, a stroke or a blood clot but will do a PM tomorrow, I don't know what to do, I have my family here with me but it is easier to talk on here How do I tell my dc's? WHAT do I tell my dc's - they are only 2.9 and 10 months Will they understand, what are they going to do without their daddy? How will I get through the days without my dh? I know we argued etc but I really, really, loved him and now he is gone Help please

OP posts:
Spink · 04/09/2007 22:37

just to echo what lapin and BecauseImWorthIt have said - if there is anything that would help, in practical or financial ways, please say. You are going through something I can't even start to get my head around, and tho I know nothing will make things better, if anything can make it more manageable, please do ask

kindersurprise · 04/09/2007 23:18

I will be thinking of you tomorrow, hope you get through the day.

Please let us know if there is anything we can do. I live too far away to be of any help, but would be more than willing to help you financially.

I am so so sorry that you are going through this horrible time and there is nothing much I can say to help. Take care.

naturalblonde · 04/09/2007 23:33

I'm so sorry for your loss. I really can't find any words that may be comforting to you.

I'm so sorry

Yorkiegirl · 04/09/2007 23:39

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Gingerbear · 04/09/2007 23:58

I will be thinking of you tomorrow too.
xx

Original poster
Mummy2TandF · 05/09/2007 00:48

Thank You everyone for all your posts - I have been really busy today with visitors all day ... my mum is staying with me tonight so that I am not alone tomorrow morning - I have been feeling really angry today and have been snapping at everyone but have been unable to have my almost hourly breakdowns, I am very aprehensive about tomorrow and am convinced that I won't be able to function in the morning, my legs have felt wobbly all day today, and I don't think I will be able to walk tomorrow ...... so many emotions and so much worry - I feel like I am about to explode Yorkiegirl - Thank You so much - I actually took your number from your email today with every intention of calling you and then all the visitors arrived, but I will call - Thank You. For all those who offered financial help, as per littlelapins post no,no,no thankyou but I was stupid enough to get us into this mess, it is surely up to me to get us out

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Bouj · 05/09/2007 03:24

Wishing you strength for today. Thoughts and prayers xxxx

hazygirl · 05/09/2007 07:41

thinking of you today, big hugs ,x

littlelapin · 05/09/2007 07:53

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pixiefish · 05/09/2007 08:01

Thinking of you today mummy2tandf

Pinkchampagne · 05/09/2007 08:03

Will be thinking of you today.xx

onlyjoking9329 · 05/09/2007 08:10

Thinking of you and your family today.i can only imagine how hard this all is, please keep talking and let mumsnet help you.

Whimsy · 05/09/2007 08:17

I will be thinking of you & your DC today x

BecauseImWorthIt · 05/09/2007 08:22

Thinking of you.

And offer of help still stands - no matter what you think you should be doing, it's a big burden you're trying to carry.

SugaryBits · 05/09/2007 08:25

Thinking of you and your children today x

BandofMothers · 05/09/2007 08:27

SHITTY SHITTY SHIT, re the life cover. You just don't think you'll need stuff like that do you??

I hope everything goes without a hitch today. Am thinking of you and the T & F today. Try and gain the closure you need from today so that you can begin to heal and move on.
You will get thru this and be stronger for it.
xxx

fryalot · 05/09/2007 08:28

thinking of you today

xx

StealthPolarBear · 05/09/2007 08:38

xx

WendyWeber · 05/09/2007 08:42

Wishing you strength to get through this day

XXX

mistypeaks · 05/09/2007 09:09

Thinking of you for today.

Hulababy · 05/09/2007 09:10

Gabble and twinmumabi - sorry to here of the tragic losses of your DHs also, so very recently

Hulababy · 05/09/2007 09:12

Mummy2TandF - thinking of you and your children today xxx

DutchOma · 05/09/2007 09:14

Just get through today first, then you can sort out what, if any help you feel you can accept.

I've linked to the prayer thread and know there will be others praying for you today as well as me.

Every blesing for you and your precious family.

TigerFeet · 05/09/2007 09:18

Thinking of you today x

Baffy · 05/09/2007 09:29

Oh god just seen this. Can't find the words

Thinking of you today xx