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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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scatterbrain · 28/05/2007 20:55

Dear Custy, I am so sorry - this is shit - you didn't need this ! Keep strong - thinking of you !

PinkTulips · 28/05/2007 20:57

oh custy i'm so sorry you've had this happen to you

my sincerest condolances and deepest empathy at the burden it must be to have to sort this as an only child, no-one should have to deal with this alone but i know i'll be in your position one day too.

i hope everything goes as smoothly as possible and i wish you strength for the days to come

Cappuccino · 28/05/2007 21:03

oh custy what a bollocks

make sure someone looks after you

xxx

tribpot · 28/05/2007 21:05

So very sorry. What a horrible, horrible situation.

Ladymuck · 28/05/2007 21:19

Oh Custy, I'm so sorry to her this - take care of yourself. And if you need any help with stuff there is a wealth of expertise here (well somewhere on here!)

tortoiseSHELL · 28/05/2007 21:30

Really sorry to read this custy - hope you and your family are ok, what a horrible shock for you all.

purpleduck · 28/05/2007 22:02

take care x

Christie · 28/05/2007 22:33

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morningpaper · 28/05/2007 22:43

thinking of you custy xxx

Nightynight · 28/05/2007 23:03

oh no custy what a horrible time for you. Wish you much strength to get through all this.

Amanda1 · 28/05/2007 23:40

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Aero · 28/05/2007 23:41

So sorry to read this Custy. Thinking of you.

wychbold · 28/05/2007 23:41

Sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself and accept any/all help that is offered.

mumemma · 28/05/2007 23:46

So sorry to hear such shocking news. I hope you get some support in getting through this, both the practical and the emotional aspects.

gess · 28/05/2007 23:47

How awful, so sorry to hear this custy.

AngharadGoldenhand · 28/05/2007 23:48

So sorry, custy. Take care.

controlfreaky2 · 28/05/2007 23:52

sorry to read this.

jules99 · 29/05/2007 00:18

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suedonim · 29/05/2007 00:21

Dear god, Custy, that's awful. Thinking of you.

louii · 29/05/2007 01:39

Sorry for your troubles Custy, take care of yourself.

grouchyoscar · 29/05/2007 03:02

So sorry for your loss Custy. Every stength to you at this time XX

Tortington · 29/05/2007 06:23

thanks for all your messages i am truly touched.

today bwgins the finding out of proceedure etc.

thank you also to the people who have texted or rang
xxxx

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BreeVanDerCamp · 29/05/2007 07:08

I have been thinking of you all weekend.
You are a strong woman, stay strong. I will pray for you.

LGJ

Budababe · 29/05/2007 07:10

Been thinking of you too here custy. Wish there was something practical I could do to help.

Vev · 29/05/2007 07:31

Custy - so sorry. Keep strong.

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