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DS1 has died

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endofthelinefinally · 29/08/2016 22:25

I tried everything to save him. He was 27.

I don't know how I am going to get through this.

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BombadierFritz · 29/08/2016 23:12

I'm so very sorry. Flowers

SecretNutellaFix · 29/08/2016 23:14

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

It sounds like he was finally turning the corner- he sounds like a kind young man, he's obviously adored by his brother and sister.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 29/08/2016 23:15

I'm sorry and sad to read this Flowers

Wishing you strength and courage and hope

thecatfromjapan · 29/08/2016 23:15

Sending you love and strength.

FattieDoc · 29/08/2016 23:15

I'm so sorry for your loss

MerryInthechelseahotel · 29/08/2016 23:19

I'm so sorry to hear this Flowers for you all Flowers

HemanOrSheRa · 29/08/2016 23:19

What to say? Except that I am thinking of you, lovely. And sending you love and strength.

endofthelinefinally · 29/08/2016 23:22

Thank you all.
And love and sympathy to those of you who are also bereaved.
Flowers

I am going to go up now with Dd and see if we can both rest our eyes. Mine are so sore from crying.

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msgrinch · 29/08/2016 23:23

I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself! There are no words and I have a friend who lost her best friend yesterday in the same circumstances, he was also your sons age with siblings of the same age to. If they are the same person then there are so many people there to support you all, as im sure there are either way. I wish you and your family all the best and time to grieve. X

Iwasbornin1993 · 29/08/2016 23:23

There are no words Flowers so, so sorry for your loss.

Potentialmadcatlady · 29/08/2016 23:24

There are no words..I am so so sorry for you and your families pain...so sorry....the words 'just breathe' from another poster are so true...I regularly hang unto to those words following a death in my family recently..so much so I'm planning on getting a tattoo with them...just concentrate on breathing..minute by minute by minute...I know I don't know you but I'm thinking about you

FeralBeryl · 29/08/2016 23:24

Yes tea is necessary fuel at this time! It also gives you something task orientated to do which stops you temporarily drowning.
You and DD cling to each other. Has your other DS gone off to sleep now ? X

RoomForASmallOne · 29/08/2016 23:27

My sincere sympathies endof

Your poor boy x

Pinkerbeller · 29/08/2016 23:28

It feels against all the rules of life and nature for a child to go before a parent. Please know that you have an outlet here and real people that are feeling for you in your grief and willing to try and help you through it.

Therealloislane · 29/08/2016 23:31

I remember your other threads too.

Please try & remember the good times. He'll always be your little boy x

Onedaftmonkey · 29/08/2016 23:34

My thoughts are with you. Words cannot express. Rest in peace Flowers

metaphoricus · 29/08/2016 23:35

I recently lost my brother due to his mental health issues. Not drug related. Just his refusal to accept treatment from NHS because of his schizophrenia. My brother had a treatable bone infection. But refused treatment, and died. I am so, so sorry for your loss. The loss of a child far outweighs the loss of a sibling. I know that. But I feel just a little bit of your pain. It's going to be alright. You have a lot to go through yet. Just take each day. as it comes. Just keep going through the everyday motions. It will slowly get to a point where you can feel normal again.
And enjoy some simple things again. It will get better. Promise.

sparechange · 29/08/2016 23:36

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

MuttsNutts · 29/08/2016 23:37

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Sending love and strength to you and your family Flowers

ARichVernacular · 29/08/2016 23:39

I am so sorry for this terrible loss. There is clearly so much love and togetherness in your family, he was and will always be part of that, part of you all.

Be gentle with yourself Flowers

SofiaAmes · 29/08/2016 23:41

So sorry for your loss. Drug addiction and mental illness are diseases for which there are not yet very good treatments. Please don't blame yourself. You have done your best and hopefully some day soon there will be better treatments and cures for these diseases. Just like we have for cancers in a way that didn't exist 20 years ago. I have a child with mental illness and substance abuse issues and completely feel your pain.

metaphoricus · 29/08/2016 23:42

so I'm planning on getting a tattoo with them

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awishes · 29/08/2016 23:43

So sorry to read this. We try to do our best for our children, you will have done so for yours. It is my greatest fear and wish you weren't facing this, look after each other.
You have my greatest sympathy

Leeds2 · 29/08/2016 23:43

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers.

FellOutOfBed2wice · 29/08/2016 23:44

I'm so sorry OP Flowers