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My brother was murdered last night.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:17

That's it, really. He was stabbed to death on his doorstep. Just been staring at the photo of his house with the forensic tent outside on the BBC website.

I've been spamming FB with maudlin photos but reckon my friends there have probably had enough by now, so have come here to rant instead.

DD (14) adored him. She is being very brave. DS doesn't know yet as it's his 5th birthday today and I wanted him to have one more day of fun before he learns that life is shit.

So how do we get through this?

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IndiansInTheLobby · 04/12/2013 21:46

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Inertia · 04/12/2013 21:47

I'm so sorry. He sounds like an amazing brother and uncle.

MsGee · 04/12/2013 21:50

Please contact SAMM - www.samm.org.uk. Please ring the helpline, they're amazing. They will arrange support from other who've been there.

I am so sorry that this happened to your brother and your family xx

patienceisvirtuous · 04/12/2013 21:50

RIP Jon

I am truly sorry for your loss OP. Thinking of you and your family.

mrssmith79 · 04/12/2013 21:51

I am so sorry for your loss.

missinglalaland · 04/12/2013 21:52

Your brother sounds like a wonderful person. Of course this is a massive loss. I am so sorry for you and your family. Xxx

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:55

Thanks to people recommending SAMM - it looks good, especially for DD who I am very worried about. I'm trying to keep her from googling as some of the local news websites have details that she shouldn't have to see - stuff about stabbed in the neck and screams and blood pools. My little brother.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:57

tombakersscarf I got him a Dr Who first day cover with Tom Baker's autograph for Christmas. He was OUR doctor - we were made up when he appeared at the end of the 50th. I think we will go to Harewood Castle at some point and maybe take something of his.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 04/12/2013 21:58

Oh god Metallic that's so horrible. I'm so sorry.

Words fail me sometimes at the sheer awfulness of some people. The sheer bloody evilness sometimes takes my breath away. Utter, utter bastards.

QOD · 04/12/2013 21:59

Christ, so shocking. All death is horrible but sudden death is so shocking.
I'm so sorry :(

ParsingFancy · 04/12/2013 21:59

100 castles in a year! What an awesome dude!

Lighthousekeeping · 04/12/2013 22:00

I read about it before I saw this. He sounds like a lovely bloke. So sorry x

TeaMakesItAllPossible · 04/12/2013 22:01

I am so very sorry. He sounds such a wonderful and interesting man, one who was loved by his family.

I'll light a candle for him, and for you and your DC.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/12/2013 22:02

A handsome bloke too. Guitar playing, gardening and castles. What a senseless loss.

hareinthemoon · 04/12/2013 22:03

I am so sorry.

ParsingFancy · 04/12/2013 22:04

And very well done on making through it today for DS's birthday. That may make a huge difference to your DS in the future, not directly associating the two things.

BerryLellow · 04/12/2013 22:07

Oh God how awful, I'm so sorry. Wishing you strength for the time ahead :(

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 22:07

That was what we were aiming for. I couldn't have done it without some amazing friends who basically took over and held me up (physically at times). He told me at bedtime that it was the "best birthday ever" and I only just made it out of the room in time.

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ThistledownAndCobweb · 04/12/2013 22:07

I'm so sorry, he sounds like a lovely lovely man.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 22:07

Sorry, that was to ParsingFancy.

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TrinityRhinoTheUltimateQueen · 04/12/2013 22:08

I'm so sorry for your loss

Its just the most awful thing

A close friend of mines brother was hacked to death with an axe in their family home before the murderer burned it down to hide the evidence

I wish you all the strength you need to keep going

may he RIP

ExitPursuedByAChristmasGrinch · 04/12/2013 22:10

Oh my goodness. So sorry to read this. I do love a castle myself. No idea how you cope with this horrendous loss.

ParsingFancy · 04/12/2013 22:10

Oh you hero! Like brother, like sister.

TeaMakesItAllPossible · 04/12/2013 22:12

What a wonderful parent you are. There are no words I can find that adequately express my sorrow and admiration for you.

AntoinetteCosway · 04/12/2013 22:12

God. I'm so, so sorry OP. He sounds like he was an awesome man and a brilliant brother and uncle.

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