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My brother was murdered last night.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:17

That's it, really. He was stabbed to death on his doorstep. Just been staring at the photo of his house with the forensic tent outside on the BBC website.

I've been spamming FB with maudlin photos but reckon my friends there have probably had enough by now, so have come here to rant instead.

DD (14) adored him. She is being very brave. DS doesn't know yet as it's his 5th birthday today and I wanted him to have one more day of fun before he learns that life is shit.

So how do we get through this?

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Bowlersarm · 04/12/2013 21:32

So so sorry OP. Words aren't enough. Sympathies to you and your family.

diva100 · 04/12/2013 21:32

I'm sorry for your loss, may his soul RIP.

CocktailQueen · 04/12/2013 21:34

How absolutely awful. I am so, so sorry. Lots of hugs to you.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:34

Thanks Ewe. I am already feeling sick at the thought of the court case. There's someone in custody now. It just seems so stupid - he was the least confrontational man you would ever come across. He got engaged at 17 because he proposed to his girlfriend when pissed and was far too scared of her to break it off when he sobered up

I miss him.

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InTheRedCorner · 04/12/2013 21:34

I am so sorry. Life is really shit sometimes.

Winston wish helped my DD when we had a sudden death of a loved one.

NCISaddict · 04/12/2013 21:35

So sorry for your loss OP. May you find strength for the days ahead.

Pawprint · 04/12/2013 21:35

Oh dear OP how colossal a sorrow for you. I have also lost a beloved sibling in appalling circumstances, but she chose to die rather than continue with medical treatment.

To have a sibling die by murder is horrendous. So sad for you.

ParsingFancy · 04/12/2013 21:36

He sounds like a fabulous uncle. Did your DC manage any castle trips with him?

BigBoobiedBertha · 04/12/2013 21:36

I am so sorry for your loss. What a horrific thing to happen!

stickysausages · 04/12/2013 21:36

I'm so sorry for your loss. I see someone has been arrested, I hope your family get justice for your brother. Can't imagine how shocked you must all be, please take up offers of support, from the police organisations, victim support & also from your gp if you're not coping or sleeping etc.

Again, I'm so very sorry Thanks

sebsmummy1 · 04/12/2013 21:37

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm absolutely sure that none of your friends are sick of you talking about it. I imagine they just don't know what to say and feel helpless.

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:37

Haven't met the Family Liaison Officer yet though they've been working with my mum and dad today. We're a couple of hours away. Mum arranged for my lovely colleagues at work to be the ones to tell me so I didn't have to have the police come round to do it. They managed to withhold his name and picture till DD got home so I could tell her then.

Thank you all for your kind words. Thanks

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youarewinning · 04/12/2013 21:37

I'm so sorry to hear your news. Sad

moldingsunbeams · 04/12/2013 21:38

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MetallicHighlights · 04/12/2013 21:40

ParsingFancy we counted up how many castles DS had been (dragged) along to when he was about 2, and it was well past 50! One year Jon set himself the target of 100 castles in a year, and he managed it as well.

And that has just set me off again, because he was supposed to be coming over to go to Harewood Castle some time soon and now he won't.

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McFox · 04/12/2013 21:40

So sorry x

afullroux · 04/12/2013 21:40

Oh, I'm so, so sorry. How horrendous. Thinking of you.

Manchesterhistorygirl · 04/12/2013 21:40

Oh metallic I'm so, so sorry for your lost. Your brother sounds like a really fantastic bloke. What an appalling thing to have happened. Sending my thoughts to you all.

XmasLogAndHollyOn · 04/12/2013 21:41

I am so sorry to hear this OP. What a truly horrible thing to happen. Rant away, talk away. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be for you and your family right now.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 04/12/2013 21:44

I am so sorry for your loss it seems there will be a huge gap left by him. I hope you gp have good family and friends to lean on. Thanks

out2lunch · 04/12/2013 21:44

this is awful.sending a hug op.rip to your brotherxx

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/12/2013 21:44

Metallic I am so sorry for your loss. Please keep posting and telling us about your brother, as much as you want or feel able x

MoreThanChristmasCrackers · 04/12/2013 21:44

I am so sorry, and can't imagine what you all must be going through.
It just seems so senseless for such a lovely man to be taken like this.
May he RIP Thanks

tombakerscarf · 04/12/2013 21:44

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Agrestic · 04/12/2013 21:45

Op I've seen the news reports and picture of your brother. He looks and sounds like a great character, I'm loving the hat.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family heal over time and smile at those precious memories. x

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